Grumble...Grumble... Dieting? Have Fun Venting!

Liza said:
he's more worried that I see myself as a worthless person because of the weight (thanks to my childhood programming, nothing personal reflected upon anyone else with same weight issue!!),
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I struggle with that thanks to my childhood programming too. Was often bribed to lose 10 lbs or whatnot when I was perfectly fine.My grandmother is what you call "fashion model type". She wanted me to look glamourous so she would bribe me but it all backfired.

Throughout high school, my former stepdad kept telling me that Im fat and will never get a boyfriend. I had tons of dates and whenever they came to the door, my stepdad would say " Hey why are you here to pick up this fat girl?" I cannot emphasize how humiliated I was. To this day, I still have not recovered from it and that is much more difficult than losing weight itself.

I always think my self value increases when my weight decrease or vice versa. I gotta stop associating my value with weight!!!!!!!!! :(
 
Meg said:
Im with you on that! I have a very poor self image and that is harder to crack than actually losing weight :(
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I don't understand why you and Liza feel that way? You gals are *omfg* gorgeous! Beautiful face and hair and yet you don't feel good about yourselves? Maybe it isn't about the looks, but feeling somewhat bothered about something else?
 
CrazyRedHeadWV said:
:party: Way to go! Let's party on your weight!! Keep it up!!

I cannot wait to go to the beach and show off my figures... :laugh:

Underground Swimming Pool is a INGround pool that build on ground..
Above Swimming Pool is a pool that set up above the ground.

See the attachment..
1st one is INGROUND swimming pool..
2nd one is ABOVE swimming pool..
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Thanks Crazymomma for putting pictures up for Liza! I was away from computer for several hours doing laundry and playing with my daughter.

You can do it Crazymomma and :bump: no steaks and cheese for you! :mrgreen:
 
Katzie said:
I don't understand why you and Liza feel that way? You gals are *omfg* gorgeous! Beautiful face and hair and yet you don't feel good about yourselves? Maybe it isn't about the looks, but feeling somewhat bothered about something else?
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No its not about looks. It is about childhoood programming. I dont know about Liza but mine was from many different issues that has nothing to do with my looks or whatnot. My family values looks very much ...my two sisters, mom, and grandmother are all very stylish and beautiful. They are weight conscious but Im the black sheep. I want to be valued for my inner beauty/brains than how I look.

Sigh but yes I know I need to lose weight for health reasons. The guy I m dating does not mind my weight but yes hes concerned that I could develop diabetes, etc.

My grandmother is coming up for a visit this Thursday and I just know she is gonna say " Meg! You gained weight since I saw you the last time last month" . She is that way...she fusses over my weight, making me feel angry yet I know she means well.
 
Meg said:
No its not about looks. It is about childhoood programming. I dont know about Liza but mine was from many different issues that has nothing to do with my looks or whatnot. My family values looks very much ...my two sisters, mom, and grandmother are all very stylish and beautiful. They are weight conscious but Im the black sheep. I want to be valued for my inner beauty/brains than how I look.

Sigh but yes I know I need to lose weight for health reasons. The guy I m dating does not mind my weight but yes hes concerned that I could develop diabetes, etc.

My grandmother is coming up for a visit this Thursday and I just know she is gonna say " Meg! You gained weight since I saw you the last time last month" . She is that way...she fusses over my weight, making me feel angry yet I know she means well.
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Now that I understand what child programming means... I just read your previous post about your father :-o OMFG I would've kicked his ass to the moon! You didn't deserve to be called such names. Obviously your dad had issues. *smh* I hope someday, hopefully soon you'll disconnect the way you think of yourself because it really isn't your fault. I can't believe they destroyed your self-esteem. If they wanted to help you with weight they could have use a different approach.

When I graduated at RIT in 1997, I was 197 pounds (standing 5'7" tall). When my mom first saw me she almost fainted. My mom reminds me of your family, but not with name callings. My father is over-weight and has been in his entire life. My mom called him names and that made dad nervous so eventually he ate more to comfort his feelings.

My brother stopped my mom from saying anything about my weight. My brother had a talk with her and use a different approach to help me lose weight. My mom, my dad and I used to walk 3 miles a day three or four times a week. Mom cooked us vegetables with no butter, fish, chicken and she made sure that we don't get 2nd plates. I've lost 67 pounds in 4 years and everyone commenting how great I looked. That felt good and I actually felt better because I was able to breathe better and my knees stops aching.

When I lost all that weight, I turned around to mom and thanked her for not saying anything about my weight because I don't want to end up like my dad and plus diabetes. I also reminded her that she needed to do the same thing with dad like she did with me. No name callings. Be there to support him and since she's the cooker she can cook with the right meals for him. Eventually he has lost weight! See what using a different approach can do?
 
Katzie said:
Congratulations on losing 40 pounds! You must feel better, health wise? I feel the same way because the fat I had was stressing my body so much. Your very fortunate that your husband loves you for who you are and what you are, too. Some men want women with a perfect 10 body. :sure: For crissakes get a barbie! :roll: I like men like your hubby and (mine, too) who doesn't think that way! Having a little extra meat *slaps ass* is goooood. ;)

Some people thinks I'm nuts for dieting, but I have reasons because my dad is diabetic and I have 50% chance getting it. Thyroid disease like I have do have other risks like diabetes and high cholestrol. I don't want to gamble my life like that, ya know?

There's one Bailine in United States and that's in Washington State? :aw: Looks interesting and I hope it works for you. You've been through a lot because you're on the other side of the world and living in a complete different culture and your family and friends are here in United States. That has to be tough. Keep me posted about Bailine! Good luck! :hug:
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I like people who are real, too, Katzie! You're one of the most real people I've known in addition to meg. ;) I feel fortunate to make my acquaintance with youses through a common ground.

I understand the part about gambling with life; I'm worried about my hubby getting diabetes- it runs in his mother's side of the family, his mom has it, his uncle and aunt have it and so on. So it's a bonus to be cooking healthy dishes for both of us! Our bodies can only take so much.

You are right, it has been very stressful for me to make the huge changes in my life after the move. Where I come from, I lived on a set of rules for a long time and I was comforable with that.. where I live now, it is a completely different set of rules... new languages, new deaf community, new cultural stuff, geography... you know how that goes. ;) But one thing I am starting to believe.. people do care geninuely. Ah, just a part from my childhood programming. LOL

I've been learning in the last few years that it is very important to know where and when to take responsiblity for myself. SBD was the first stepping stone for me to do that, you know?

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Meg said:
No its not about looks. It is about childhoood programming. I dont know about Liza but mine was from many different issues that has nothing to do with my looks or whatnot. My family values looks very much ...my two sisters, mom, and grandmother are all very stylish and beautiful. They are weight conscious but Im the black sheep. I want to be valued for my inner beauty/brains than how I look.

Sigh but yes I know I need to lose weight for health reasons. The guy I m dating does not mind my weight but yes hes concerned that I could develop diabetes, etc.

My grandmother is coming up for a visit this Thursday and I just know she is gonna say " Meg! You gained weight since I saw you the last time last month" . She is that way...she fusses over my weight, making me feel angry yet I know she means well.
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Meg, I hear you there sister. Sing it! ;) ARgh, I can get you about how that is frustrating. Grrr at your dad....

I went through the same situation with my parents and brother. Nobody taught me to eat right, and nobody taught me to feel good about myself. Be it far from me to sing the blues forever, I do realize today is an opportunity of making changes for myself and I have resolved a lot of things with my parents. I have learned a lot about unconditional love, and didn't expect any from them.. but I decided I would SHOW it to them. Everybody learns. One year, I made it clear to my dad I would NOT be visiting him if he was gonna rag on me about my weight again.. he got my point, and I visited him... he behaved himself! :) LOL but you know, Meg, what they say about the road to hell being paved with good intentions! your grandmother reminds me about a few of my friends. *snicker* I must admit, I feel sorely tempted to shoot back with, "Wow.. you sure have gained a lot of stupidity."

On another tangent, I understand you completely about inner beauty. My junior year in high school, one written message in my year book (you know how students write on each other's yearbooks) struck me in a profound way.... "Let your true self shine through!" I mean.. I didn't know this girl, and I didn't hang out with her.. she was popular and very well liked. She was very kind. Maybe it meant differently to her... but I still think about what she wrote once in a blue moon, and what it meant to me. Maybe it's not about making others see what we really have within... but more about allowing what we value of ourselves to shine through?
 
CrazyRedHeadWV said:
:party: Way to go! Let's party on your weight!! Keep it up!!

I cannot wait to go to the beach and show off my figures... :laugh:

Underground Swimming Pool is a INGround pool that build on ground..
Above Swimming Pool is a pool that set up above the ground.

See the attachment..
1st one is INGROUND swimming pool..
2nd one is ABOVE swimming pool..
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Thanks, crazymomma! I understand now. :thumb:
Still, I think it'd be awesome to have an UNDERground pool!
 
Katzie said:
Now that I understand what child programming means... I just read your previous post about your father :-o OMFG I would've kicked his ass to the moon! You didn't deserve to be called such names. Obviously your dad had issues. *smh* I hope someday, hopefully soon you'll disconnect the way you think of yourself because it really isn't your fault. I can't believe they destroyed your self-esteem. If they wanted to help you with weight they could have use a different approach.

When I graduated at RIT in 1997, I was 197 pounds (standing 5'7" tall). When my mom first saw me she almost fainted. My mom reminds me of your family, but not with name callings. My father is over-weight and has been in his entire life. My mom called him names and that made dad nervous so eventually he ate more to comfort his feelings.

My brother stopped my mom from saying anything about my weight. My brother had a talk with her and use a different approach to help me lose weight. My mom, my dad and I used to walk 3 miles a day three or four times a week. Mom cooked us vegetables with no butter, fish, chicken and she made sure that we don't get 2nd plates. I've lost 67 pounds in 4 years and everyone commenting how great I looked. That felt good and I actually felt better because I was able to breathe better and my knees stops aching.

When I lost all that weight, I turned around to mom and thanked her for not saying anything about my weight because I don't want to end up like my dad and plus diabetes. I also reminded her that she needed to do the same thing with dad like she did with me. No name callings. Be there to support him and since she's the cooker she can cook with the right meals for him. Eventually he has lost weight! See what using a different approach can do?
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I applaud your brother for caring enough to confront your mother, and it's very pleasing to know that your mom decided a better way of channeling her "concerns." My dad's the same way, but basically I told him to shut up or I wouldn't pay him a visit when I'm in USA. He made his choices wisely and shut up. It was a pleasant visit! ;) Fine, he'll be pleased to see that I lost alot of weight when he visits me this August. :P

My knee also ached, when I was at my heaviest! Now I don't get that pain nowadays. It sucks, huh?!
 
Katzie said UNGERGROUND swimming pool but I think she mean INGROUND swimming pool. :mrgreen:


SORRY is OFF TOPIC... :mrgreen:
 
Grumble grumble my Dr tells me to switch to Atkins bars for dieting. They are like fertilizer bars! Grumble Grumble!

Where's my pizza?

Richard
 
Nesmuth said:
Grumble grumble my Dr tells me to switch to Atkins bars for dieting. They are like fertilizer bars! Grumble Grumble!

Where's my pizza?

Richard
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:laugh2: are u kidding, did the doc really tells u to switch to atikns, i thought it was banned? Mr. Atikns didnt lose his weight on his own meds!
 
Hmm I had that Bailine session. It's a bit too personal to be sharing in public but I can give you a general summary of what you can expect in your first session. Basically, you have a hour long session in this little "dressing" room with curtains drawn - have your measurements taken, and that info is fed into the computer to be analyzed.. and you are given suggestions about the type of programs/body type that would fit you. A machine hooking you up through various areas on your body will give you some kind of workout for half hour or so. The first session was more informative about what one could expect in a normal session. You also get to air out your fears and insecurities in a safe environment where men are banned. ;) My hubby had special privileges as an interpreter, though it was just in a closed space where none could see us nor we could be seen by anyone else.

Only one store in USA? I can't believe that. I told the woman that helped me with my session about that. She couldn't either, and said maybe there are some unpublished stores scattered in some regions. There are many in Norway, but I suppse it's because the company has its nordic origins.
 
Malfoyish said:
Allright, now we're talkin'.
I am one of those people who can't stand water because there's no taste to it...it's not even freakin' carbonated. Who the hell can enjoy water, if you had to drink it every single stinking day, and eight to ten glasses of it?!
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Dasani and Aquafina now have flavored waters you can buy. The raspberry's pretty good once you get past the intial *whoa!*, and I've not had the other flavors. But those may help if you hate water a lot. Or you can get flavored, sparkling water from wal-mart. my mum used to drink those a lot!

I personally love water. :) I gave up drinking soda march 15th 2004. Although I rarely have a Sprite. ;)

For me, I've been on/off diets for about 6 years. I started with Weight Watchers, lost about 15 pounds, then quit. because I wasn't very committed. I hated it actually. :Oops: Then I tried Atkins, and that along with some other unhealthy choices lost me about 35 pounds. That was exciting =D. Then I went to college and I gained freaking 30 pounds! :ugh: Since I've been home this summer, I've lost about 9 pounds just from changing my eating habits.
For me, I hate diets. I finally am just doing my own thing. I switched to wheat bread, brown rice, skim milk, whole grain pasta, and I watch my portions. That's helped me a lot. and I still eat candy every once in awhile. Shoot, I need to! I'm a woman! :fly:
 
wow, Meg, Liza, Katize and others.

It's terrible that your former step-dad took your self-estrem away. I'm glad that you know the positive ways, Meg.

It's unbeleivable that your wonderful brother confront your mother about your dieting. I'm really glad that he did!

You also, too Liza. It's good that you show your Dad up with your positive way.

I think it's no good idea to try kind of diets but use healthy and right foods. You will lose your weight if you pick right foods like what CrazyRedCrazy said.

I also need to lose some of my weight, too. All what I do is watch out what I eat and plenty of exercises is housework. My weight would be gain easily if I eat any sweets/grease foods. Oh shitttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Liebling:-))) said:
:rofl: Exactly

Dear Mrs. Physical CrazyRedHead!
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:laugh2: :lol: You are funny!

Yea, you got to eat what your mind tell you... Like your mind said, "I wanna lost weights" and your body said "Gimme that pizza!". Remember you got to go where your mind want to tell you. I know it is hard for everyone to go along with. Remember.. Grease and oil ARE not good for your health and it will give you a heart attack or stroke. Grease and oil are bad for your heart and blood. Apple, Orange, Grape, Celery, broccoli, cucumbers, green peppers are good for you.. Also drink a lot of water.
 
All my life I was skinny girl and never had to worry about what I eat. I was weighted at 95 lbs most of my life til after I got married for the second time. I gained 12 lbs by drinking that stupid extra thick milk shake that the store sell. Then I stopped. Then I again again lol while I was pregnancy that doesnt count but lost down to 117 lbs. So now in the summer I lose and winter I gained. A week ago I was weighed at 122 lbs and then this morning I now weighed at 119 lbs. I figure why cuz I have been drinking lot of water and stop drink hot coco. For a week I was looking for a dress and boy that didnt work well cuz top of my body was in size small and bottom of my body was in size medium. So I finally found 2 piece dress and it look good on me last nite. It was $20 and I save $60. :D So now I have to tried to lose at least 10 lbs to get where it should be not only the I do have a heart condition and my family run with diabetics so I gotta watch my weight. Today I went to food shopping boy you should have seen me looking that the calories and fat and other stuffs. LOL I have never done that but will work on it.

I drink lot of water of Fruit2o from very fine. You can get that at walmart. It had a flavored in it. I buy raspberry and grape. Yummy and it's not boring to drink that water. It help me to drink it then to plain water. Yuck. LOL


Good luck to all of those who is trying to lose weight. :hug:
 
I just wanted to share my joy:

I've lost 10 pounds in the month I've been home!!! :D I'm fairly certain it's because I've changed my eating habits a lot. But I was really excited :)
 
I didn't mean to take this topic off, but I wonder what do we suppose to eat or do during on south beach diet? Anyone on South Beach Diet? If so, PM me or leave messages here.
 
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