Got introuble with phone yesterday

H.o.H_Angel said:
I know that, but they sure do have a way with making people feel that way.
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I loved the time I made a cop look real stupid! He was directing traffic and got mad at me and stormed over to my car and yelled "are you deaf or something?" And I Said " No I am HOH and did not hear you!" The cop face got bright red and he walked away!
Try not to let people get to you. And your family should know better than to get mad at you. I hope you can work out some way to know when your phone is ringing.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I loved the time I made a cop look real stupid! He was directing traffic and got mad at me and stormed over to my car and yelled "are you deaf or something?" And I Said " No I am HOH and did not hear you!" The cop face got bright red and he walked away!
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He got pissed off....
 
DeafCaroline said:
If it makes you feel any better, I have three older sisters and the oldest one, to this day, still worries about me needlessly and feels compelled to boss me around and sort of demand I follow her advice. She stopped this summer after she told me that I need to start being responsible and think about saving for retirement. I told her I started doing that 10 years ago and showed her the balance. Her face went red and she shut up.

big sisters - they can care too much sometimes!
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Yeah I have an older sister too and we went out to eat she would repeat everything I said when ordering my meal! She thought she was be helpful and I hated it and kept telling her that!!
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I loved the time I made a cop look real stupid! He was directing traffic and got mad at me and stormed over to my car and yelled "are you deaf or something?" And I Said " No I am HOH and did not hear you!" The cop face got bright red and he walked away!
Try not to let people get to you. And your family should know better than to get mad at you. I hope you can work out some way to know when your phone is ringing.
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Yea I hope so too. I am almost finish with all my homework, so after I am done;I am going to try to talk to them, and that was kinda funny about the cop.
 
Angel,
I know exactly what you're going through. I was there at 19, in a situation very similar to yours. I'm 27 now and I'm getting ready to spread my wings again for the first time since my divorce when I was 21. I have a very controlling family. They demand that I follow their advice. If I don't, they get mad.

I plan to get a new job and go back to school full-time to finish my degree at Uni.

I didn't know about these products for D/HH individuals until I came here in 2006. Now, I am actively seeking ways to get these products for when I move out in the future (hopefully soon as I'm on a waiting list for income-based housing).

You're 19 and old enough to be responsible for you. You need to sit down with your sister and the rest of your family and explain to them that you are HoH, and give them examples of what you can and cannot hear as well as easy accommodations that will be helpful not just for you, but for everyone because then communication is improved and tempers will flare less often. Tell them that you prefer to text rather than receive voice calls, remind them of this constantly. Don't call them, text them only or email them. They will eventually get the idea. Heck they might learn that even they might prefer to text too. Also, if there are ways out there to receive a phone flasher/door flasher/smoke alarm flasher, I would find ways to get these installed.

I grew up with everyone telling me what my needs were and my input wasn't ever heard. Well now I'm the one telling others what my needs are and their input is heard but isn't always followed.

I wouldn't call this bravery, but I've noticed that with the right friends and the right surroundings, your self-esteem will start to get a boost to where you will begin to believe in yourself again.

A year ago I was afraid to move out, afraid that I was going to fail. Well now, I've gotten a boost in the self-confidence department.

Believe me there are several people here that have been in your shoes here and they are here to support you, including myself.

Hang in there Angel, your wings are going to spread and take flight soon! :)
 
Dixie said:
Angel,
I know exactly what you're going through. I was there at 19, in a situation very similar to yours. I'm 27 now and I'm getting ready to spread my wings again for the first time since my divorce when I was 21. I have a very controlling family. They demand that I follow their advice. If I don't, they get mad.

I plan to get a new job and go back to school full-time to finish my degree at Uni.

I didn't know about these products for D/HH individuals until I came here in 2006. Now, I am actively seeking ways to get these products for when I move out in the future (hopefully soon as I'm on a waiting list for income-based housing).

You're 19 and old enough to be responsible for you. You need to sit down with your sister and the rest of your family and explain to them that you are HoH, and give them examples of what you can and cannot hear as well as easy accommodations that will be helpful not just for you, but for everyone because then communication is improved and tempers will flare less often. Tell them that you prefer to text rather than receive voice calls, remind them of this constantly. Don't call them, text them only or email them. They will eventually get the idea. Heck they might learn that even they might prefer to text too. Also, if there are ways out there to receive a phone flasher/door flasher/smoke alarm flasher, I would find ways to get these installed.

I grew up with everyone telling me what my needs were and my input wasn't ever heard. Well now I'm the one telling others what my needs are and their input is heard but isn't always followed.

I wouldn't call this bravery, but I've noticed that with the right friends and the right surroundings, your self-esteem will start to get a boost to where you will begin to believe in yourself again.

A year ago I was afraid to move out, afraid that I was going to fail. Well now, I've gotten a boost in the self-confidence department.

Believe me there are several people here that have been in your shoes here and they are here to support you, including myself.

Hang in there Angel, your wings are going to spread and take flight soon! :)
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Thank you, and I wish you all the best when you go back to school; and I just finished my homework, so I'm actually going to try to talk to them about this when they get back from the store.
 
posts from hell said:
He got pissed off....
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No he was embarrassed , he was mad at first ,but when I told the cop I was hoh is face got red and he said nothing , he was embarrassed for yelling "was I deaf or something!" maybe he thought twice before saying that again!
 
Well I talked to some of them, and it didn't really go over so well. I explained how I can't hear like they can, so they need to try to be a little more understanding and not get so frustrated so quick with me. Especially with the phone incident. They said yea, of course your not going to hear it when it was all the way over there. I told them exactly, so I don't know why they got so mad for. They still didn't answer that question. Later on though I went to the store with one of my family members, and they were trying to talk to me, and I couldn't hear them all that well and just asked them if they could repeat that; And they said "Just forget it, it's no point talking to someone who doesn't understand a word I'm saying." That really hurt me. It made me feel like I am an inconvenience. So, things didn't go so great yesterday. :/
 
H.o.H_Angel said:
Well I talked to some of them, and it didn't really go over so well. I explained how I can't hear like they can, so they need to try to be a little more understanding and not get so frustrated so quick with me. Especially with the phone incident. They said yea, of course your not going to hear it when it was all the way over there. I told them exactly, so I don't know why they got so mad for. They still didn't answer that question. Later on though I went to the store with one of my family members, and they were trying to talk to me, and I couldn't hear them all that well and just asked them if they could repeat that; And they said "Just forget it, it's no point talking to someone who doesn't understand a word I'm saying." That really hurt me. It made me feel like I am an inconvenience. So, things didn't go so great yesterday. :/
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Sorry to hear they are treating you that way. It does suck when they don't seem to even want to try.
 
Secretblend said:
Sorry to hear they are treating you that way. It does suck when they don't seem to even want to try.
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Yea it really does. I feel left out. Even though I'm H.o.h, I still want to be in the loop, the conversations. There's nothing wrong with me. I'm just like them, just a little different. So, I can't hear like them that doesn't make me a weird person. I'm still a human being. It's not right how i'm being treated...but I'm really hoping it gets better. It's been like this for a while, it just got really bad, when I was admitted to Kaweah Delta this month for my hearing getting worse than how it used to be.
 
H.o.H_Angel said:
Yea it really does. I feel left out. Even though I'm H.o.h, I still want to be in the loop, the conversations. There's nothing wrong with me. I'm just like them, just a little different. So, I can't hear like them that doesn't make me a weird person. I'm still a human being. It's not right how i'm being treated...but I'm really hoping it gets better. It's been like this for a while, it just got really bad, when I was admitted to Kaweah Delta this month for my hearing getting worse than how it used to be.
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It probably won't get much better. Just being honest.
 
Secretblend said:
It probably won't get much better. Just being honest.
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You're probably right, but maybe it won't get extremely better...but I am trying to be optimistic. Maybe they will light up on me in time, and things will get a little better.
 
The problem is they do not have any way of relating to your experiences. I've no idea how to suggest that they learn, especially if they are not willing to learn.
 
H.o.H_Angel said:
Well I talked to some of them, and it didn't really go over so well. I explained how I can't hear like they can, so they need to try to be a little more understanding and not get so frustrated so quick with me. Especially with the phone incident. They said yea, of course your not going to hear it when it was all the way over there. I told them exactly, so I don't know why they got so mad for. They still didn't answer that question. Later on though I went to the store with one of my family members, and they were trying to talk to me, and I couldn't hear them all that well and just asked them if they could repeat that; And they said "Just forget it, it's no point talking to someone who doesn't understand a word I'm saying." That really hurt me. It made me feel like I am an inconvenience. So, things didn't go so great yesterday. :/
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Man that really hurt reading this!! I am so sorry to hear your famliy are being complete jerks! I think you should bring your famliy to your audiologist so he/she can educate them about living with a famliy member that that hoh!
They have no idea what like having a hearing lost! You should turn the TV up really loud start talking to a famliy member really softly and see if they can hear you! I know one of my audiologist had pamphlets for this clients to give to their family , the pamphlets was to educate friends and famliy about living with a person that hoh, if your famliy won't go to your audiologist you could see if they have some pamphlets. Your famliy really need to be educated as they so clueless! I hope things will get better.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Man that really hurt reading this!! I am so sorry to hear your famliy are being complete jerks! I think you should bring your famliy to your audiologist so he/she can educate them about living with a famliy member that that hoh!
They have no idea what like having a hearing lost! You should turn the TV up really loud start talking to a famliy member really softly and see if they can hear you! I know one of my audiologist had pamphlets for this clients to give to their family , the pamphlets was to educate friends and famliy about living with a person that hoh, if your famliy won't go to your audiologist you could see if they have some pamphlets. Your famliy really need to be educated as they so clueless! I hope things will get better.
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I don't know how they'd react, but anythings worth a shot right?
 
H.o.H_Angel said:
Well I talked to some of them, and it didn't really go over so well. I explained how I can't hear like they can, so they need to try to be a little more understanding and not get so frustrated so quick with me. Especially with the phone incident. They said yea, of course your not going to hear it when it was all the way over there. I told them exactly, so I don't know why they got so mad for. They still didn't answer that question. Later on though I went to the store with one of my family members, and they were trying to talk to me, and I couldn't hear them all that well and just asked them if they could repeat that; And they said "Just forget it, it's no point talking to someone who doesn't understand a word I'm saying." That really hurt me. It made me feel like I am an inconvenience. So, things didn't go so great yesterday. :/
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wow that is sad grieve tough!

sorry hear you resolve!
 
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