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Have you had the experience when you scold a child (your children, neices, nephews, or any children who are under your supervision) not to do that, but YOU do it anyway?

It happened to me several times. :ugh: Like when my son wants to make a splash in a bathtub, I told him not to do that because it'll make a big mess all over the bathroom floor. I love to splash and I do it. WHY?!

Another good example: I drink beverage while being in a vehicle (not alcoholic drinks), and not allow my boys drink while traveling. :ugh: I know it sounds mean but why do I do that?

Tell me your experiences.
 
double standards....its a pain in the :booty: aint it


but when it comes to kids seems afraid that "the sins of the fathers visit upon the sons" and try to prevent that from happen..oh well
 
Maybe it is because some adults do not have as much trust in a child as they would in adults. Like splashing, you know how to control it so that it wont splash outside the tub, etc... For drinking in the car, you know how to keep it stable, instead of playing around and spilling stuff.

I really don't have anything that I tell ppl not to do. Oh oh! In my ASL class, I tell them not to try to fingerspell much at all, but I end up fingerspelling to them. Oh well... I think it's because they don't get my body language at all. Or I would write on the board instead and draw a picture next to it. Trying to make them conceptualise everything in pictures and signing.
 
sometimes kid got lost control like running around in the house, I told please stop and they listen,

when my nephew wanna bike on the road and wanna across the road, I told him becareful :D

and many more but I can't give many detail for that.
 
What about drinking alcohol? Smoking? Using street drugs? Have you done scolding other adults about these things, but you do them?
 
I don't smoke, nor do drugs. But I do drink a bit. A little beer or hard liquor every once in a while. Alcoholism runs in my family, so I am always aware of how it can affect ppl's lives. Last time I was really drunk was New Year's Eve. After that, just one bottle of beer once in a while.
 
Originally posted by ChelEler
What about drinking alcohol? Smoking? Using street drugs? Have you done scolding other adults about these things, but you do them?
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Oh yes, Happened to me. I remmy i was little gurl. Saw my mother puffed 420 for many times. Many years later, I was 22 years old, I was heavy pothead at that time. Showed at my aunt's apt. my mother caught my eyes and breathing. She gave me lecture. I was like :wtf: about her lecture about use 420 really wrong for using. In my mind, I remmy she did it. so I insulted her, look at herself she's also pothead. I made points. she gave up and change the subject. Knew she feel shit shit. Not fair for me for not doing opportunity while my parents already did it. But of course, i won't follow their nasty mistakes. I mean my parents did drink beers, sex, naughty and etc.. that which I deserve to have opportunity for my generation.
I admit that I feel confict sometime with my parents and grandparents for giving me lecture that make me feel I cannot do it while they did it before. Even made me feel they cannot trust me or what.
 
Originally posted by Lasza

I admit that I feel confict sometime with my parents and grandparents for giving me lecture that make me feel I cannot do it while they did it before. Even made me feel they cannot trust me or what.
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My parents also were hippies, and I know for a fact that they used to have tea times all the time. But lately, now my father and sister are in law enforcement, we have been pretty much clean. I know some of my cousins do that, and sometimes we will not go to their parties because we know they will be doing that stuff. It breaks our heart not to go there.
 
Originally posted by Lasza
Oh yes, Happened to me. I remmy i was little gurl. Saw my mother puffed 420 for many times. Many years later, I was 22 years old, I was heavy pothead at that time. Showed at my aunt's apt. my mother caught my eyes and breathing. She gave me lecture. I was like :wtf: about her lecture about use 420 really wrong for using. In my mind, I remmy she did it. so I insulted her, look at herself she's also pothead. I made points. she gave up and change the subject. Knew she feel shit shit. Not fair for me for not doing opportunity while my parents already did it. But of course, i won't follow their nasty mistakes. I mean my parents did drink beers, sex, naughty and etc.. that which I deserve to have opportunity for my generation.
I admit that I feel confict sometime with my parents and grandparents for giving me lecture that make me feel I cannot do it while they did it before. Even made me feel they cannot trust me or what.
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I agree with my sissy, conflicts of parents who think they can do it while we can't is totally conflict! We should be able to experince life and not worry about what parents say we're adults and we can decide on what we should be able to do but go to parents for advices but not have to follow thier advices!
 
Originally posted by Lasza
Oh yes, Happened to me. I remmy i was little gurl. Saw my mother puffed 420 for many times. Many years later, I was 22 years old, I was heavy pothead at that time. Showed at my aunt's apt. my mother caught my eyes and breathing. She gave me lecture. I was like :wtf: about her lecture about use 420 really wrong for using. In my mind, I remmy she did it. so I insulted her, look at herself she's also pothead. I made points. she gave up and change the subject. Knew she feel shit shit. Not fair for me for not doing opportunity while my parents already did it. But of course, i won't follow their nasty mistakes. I mean my parents did drink beers, sex, naughty and etc.. that which I deserve to have opportunity for my generation.
I admit that I feel confict sometime with my parents and grandparents for giving me lecture that make me feel I cannot do it while they did it before. Even made me feel they cannot trust me or what.
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same here !!!! and now my mom leave me alone ever since !! she knew that she can't nag at me at all cuz she knew that i would talk back to her to teach her the heck hard lessons...
 
Goes to show how some of us forget our wayward ways and the kids end up doing something that we all used to do


Life's always a boomerang cuz when it goes straight that u expect it to go still it comes around and smack u back into reality
 
Just wait until they get even with you when you turn 80 yrs old and they're taking care of you.
 
:laugh2: Probably will happen. :o

How about when you spank your child for being in trouble, but you won't allow the child to spank you or any siblings? :ugh: I have always had to explain to my oldest son not to spank his baby brother, because he's not the mother! :squint:
 
I dont think that one should spank their kids if their kids are just being playful or naughty. Only just when they are being really bad. If I see them hitting each other, I would ask them: "Why did you hit him?" Makes them think about it and own up to their behaviour and actions. I do that in my ASL classes all the time.
 
I was the oldest child. My mother said that to me, "Who died and made you the boss?"
 
Originally posted by SilenceGold
I was the oldest child. My mother said that to me, "Who died and made you the boss?"
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:shock: That's a good phrase. I gotta try that next time I catch my boys spanking each other. :rofl: Sorry and excuse my imagination! :D
 
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