Okay so I posted this in another thread about another problem, but it has to do with the same person.
I'm a private tutor for this deaf guy, 22 years old. His family doesn't know ASL, and don't bother to learn it. He himself isn't so skilled at it, and doesn't know how to read at all. But that's not the problem.
Problem is he refuses to accept that he's deaf. He wants to be hearing like the rest of his family. And what annoys me the most, is how he refuses to sign, and would start mumbling, trying to make out words. And I'm not deaf myself, so I can't say I understand what he's going through. But it's really hard for me to teach him anything when he's not signing to me, and only trying to speak to me. When he speaks (mumbles), I can't understand him, so I tell him to sign to me and he'll start getting mad that I'm being rude, and that I'm lying. He'll tell me (and many others) he's hearing, and refuses to accept that he's deaf. He also dislikes being with other deaf people because he wants to be hearing. Always complains that he's deaf and draws on a paper how deaf people are sad, and hearing people are happy. I always have to explain to him that everyone is different, and that hearing doens't mean happiness.
Anywho, I also explain how many deaf people are happy, because I have a lot of deaf friends, and I see it myself. So he'll tell me it's their individual decision, and he decides he wants to be hearing, not deaf. He'll also ask me to teach him how to voice words, and I have no idea how to do that.
What do you guys think? What should I do? I'm at a road block because I can't teach him anything. For those that plan to answer, 'quit your job' don't even bother posting, that's not an option. I sincerely want to help him but I just don't know how.
Another person suggested I look into depression, because he may well be in it. He's been in his room basically his whole life probably just watching tv. His parents never communicate with him, and don't bother because they don't know his language. Really sad.
Help...?
I'm a private tutor for this deaf guy, 22 years old. His family doesn't know ASL, and don't bother to learn it. He himself isn't so skilled at it, and doesn't know how to read at all. But that's not the problem.
Problem is he refuses to accept that he's deaf. He wants to be hearing like the rest of his family. And what annoys me the most, is how he refuses to sign, and would start mumbling, trying to make out words. And I'm not deaf myself, so I can't say I understand what he's going through. But it's really hard for me to teach him anything when he's not signing to me, and only trying to speak to me. When he speaks (mumbles), I can't understand him, so I tell him to sign to me and he'll start getting mad that I'm being rude, and that I'm lying. He'll tell me (and many others) he's hearing, and refuses to accept that he's deaf. He also dislikes being with other deaf people because he wants to be hearing. Always complains that he's deaf and draws on a paper how deaf people are sad, and hearing people are happy. I always have to explain to him that everyone is different, and that hearing doens't mean happiness.
Anywho, I also explain how many deaf people are happy, because I have a lot of deaf friends, and I see it myself. So he'll tell me it's their individual decision, and he decides he wants to be hearing, not deaf. He'll also ask me to teach him how to voice words, and I have no idea how to do that.
What do you guys think? What should I do? I'm at a road block because I can't teach him anything. For those that plan to answer, 'quit your job' don't even bother posting, that's not an option. I sincerely want to help him but I just don't know how.
Another person suggested I look into depression, because he may well be in it. He's been in his room basically his whole life probably just watching tv. His parents never communicate with him, and don't bother because they don't know his language. Really sad.
Help...?