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pinkster
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o.O The big 'C' do you fear it? I used to.
I posted in the long distance thread, and I felt i wanted to comment on my current situation. My (dont laugh or anything) non-boyfriend, and I "broke up" a week ago because he felt that bad that "the attachement i have to him is preventing us from dating other people." I didnt get that untill later, when he said that he didnt want me to feel like I had to say no to people who asked me out on a date, because i have him. We've been dating since mid-March, and things have been really awesome. A lot of bad things happened to me 6 months prior to that (Javapride can attest to this) So he said he thought we shouldnt consider us dating till something changes (ie: i get my license or he stops working so much.) - he also lives an hour and a half away.
My question is, how much time do you give someone you love to recover from past relationships? He finally admitted to me that he's not ready to take that next "step" and make it official because his ex cheated on him several times since he couldnt come see her as much as she wanted him to. I've let him know that I wont do that - i just cant - but having never been in a "real" relationship before, I am at loss. Yes, I know that I've fallen, and he recently disccovered it himself. I am a loyal person, honest, respectful, i only bitch sometimes, but what am I supposed to do? Sit and wait? Patience has not been something I have a lot of lately.
Oh yeah, we got back "together" like a few days after that, and what he said irked me. "If you dont care that we cant see each other as much, then we can try and work it out." I was like, "I care, it bothers me, but I'm not going to let it get in-between us." So like, yeah.
Commitment, what does it take for you? And marriage? How did you know that you were ready? (And dont say your spouse held a gun to your head ha)
I posted in the long distance thread, and I felt i wanted to comment on my current situation. My (dont laugh or anything) non-boyfriend, and I "broke up" a week ago because he felt that bad that "the attachement i have to him is preventing us from dating other people." I didnt get that untill later, when he said that he didnt want me to feel like I had to say no to people who asked me out on a date, because i have him. We've been dating since mid-March, and things have been really awesome. A lot of bad things happened to me 6 months prior to that (Javapride can attest to this) So he said he thought we shouldnt consider us dating till something changes (ie: i get my license or he stops working so much.) - he also lives an hour and a half away.
My question is, how much time do you give someone you love to recover from past relationships? He finally admitted to me that he's not ready to take that next "step" and make it official because his ex cheated on him several times since he couldnt come see her as much as she wanted him to. I've let him know that I wont do that - i just cant - but having never been in a "real" relationship before, I am at loss. Yes, I know that I've fallen, and he recently disccovered it himself. I am a loyal person, honest, respectful, i only bitch sometimes, but what am I supposed to do? Sit and wait? Patience has not been something I have a lot of lately.
Oh yeah, we got back "together" like a few days after that, and what he said irked me. "If you dont care that we cant see each other as much, then we can try and work it out." I was like, "I care, it bothers me, but I'm not going to let it get in-between us." So like, yeah.
Commitment, what does it take for you? And marriage? How did you know that you were ready? (And dont say your spouse held a gun to your head ha)