Combs to Pay $21,000 a Month Child Support

[Angel]

Once the mother WANTS to keep the children, it is by her choice not HIS. Thus, it makes HIM a financial victim!

LOL, A financial victim? I'm sorry to bust your bubbles there hon but the only victim in this situation is the children...Either parent who has full custody of the children shall recived child support from the non custody parent, since it takes two to make a baby, it takes two to be responsible on rasing their children, if the non custody have financial problems and unable to pay child support then I expect that the non custody parent to get a second job then..

I met many single moms who were hard, unpleasant, overworked, lonely, etc trying to raise kids. I do have the sympathy hearts to go out for those single moms as they tried all of their best to raise kids. Being "alone" is not always good when raising kids. What's worse, many of the kids eventually ended up in jails of various crimes because of no fatherly displines around them.

I'm sorry to say this but that not true at all, I know alot alot of single mothers out there who raised their children on her own had turn out quite fine and doing great on their own with their own families....

My sister is a single mother too, and she is doing a wonderful job raising her boys....

Deadbeat dads are the ones who can afford CS while many others don't. There are many deaf deadbeat dads out there and they live on SSI and can't find jobs and therefore, they can't afford CS. So, would you please tell me how can they find jobs per your easy word?

That just no excuess to say Oh I can't find a job so I'm not going to pay child support tsk tsk tsk.... Once you become a father, it your job to be able to afford to pay child support the court only ordered it by what they earned a year.....so there's just no reason for them to say, Oh I can't afford it....

 

[DeafVeggie]

I do appreciate and thank you all of the readers for your fine feedbacks on this hotly debate issue to help me to understand better all about CS. No, I'm not on CS or anything like that. It just give me to understand what does my hearie brother is going through. I will be very freaked out if happens to me when it comes to CS. For example, he is currently living like a hell while his ex living like a jobless queen (she doesn't work and does by living from his paychecks). This was where she somehow overcrossed the boundary by vacuumed almost all of his savings and leaving him very little to buy food on the table. He doesn't have his own health insurance, but was forced to buy insurance for his kid. Sucks! Very unfair! Unfortunately, he is in poverty level and cannot afford any more court appeal filings because fees are getting too expensive every time for him, even he is client with the non-profit legal organization which give him free services. I tried to assist him before, but realizing that every time he files, her ex counter files (frivolously). While his ex used her rich folks' attorney to represent her at no charge. I do know that there is a dishonest game of who gets the percentages of CS. Laws are sometimes funny. And, of course her private paid lawyers knows the court system in and out so they are doing their best to satisfied her desire. So, I just kept telling my brother to hang on...just 8 more years to go. Then, he'll be done with it and get the hair out of his ex for good. No, he has no interest of seeing his kid because whatever she raise the kid would be not the same behavioral kid patterns as if he would be the father presently in the house.

~DV

 

[Angel]

I do appreciate and thank you all of the readers for your fine feedbacks on this hotly debate issue to help me to understand better all about CS.

Aw you're giving up? ....Well I had fun debate against you, and thank you for your opinion and view on this as well ::: handshake :::

And you're right, its one hottest debate heh heh

btw, I'm sorry to hear about your brother!

 

[DeafVeggie]

Aw you're giving up?....Well I had fun debate against you, and thank you for your opinion and view on this as well ::: handshake :::

btw, I'm sorry to hear about your brother!

I respect Cheri's request wanting to lock this thread. I just leave my last words so that she knows where I came from.

Handshake back to you.

Thanks for your concern about my brother.

~DV

 

[Cheri]

I do appreciate and thank you all of the readers for your fine feedbacks on this hotly debate issue to help me to understand better all about CS. No, I'm not on CS or anything like that. It just give me to understand what does my hearie brother is going through. I will be very freaked out if happens to me when it comes to CS. For example, he is currently living like a hell while his ex living like a jobless queen (she doesn't work and does by living from his paychecks).

Well, I don't agree with mothers living off of child support, They should get a job too. Yes, I can see that is unfair.

No, he has no interest of seeing his kid because whatever she raise the kid would be not the same behavioral kid patterns as if he would be the father presently in the house.

I see, Well I don't agree with that, That is like walking out of a child's life and doesn't want to bond with the child. I think that's really sad. I felt bad for the child because the child did not ask for this to happen to him or her. I try to get along with my sons dad for their sake. It isn't about me, It's about my boys, They need a father firgured in their life and I am not going to stop them from seeing their own father and have a father/son bond. That the way it suppose to be and always should be.

 

[Cheri]

I respect Cheri's request wanting to lock this thread. I just leave my last words so that she knows where I came from.

Handshake back to you.

Thanks for your concern about my brother.

~DV

I changed my mind if you go back one page, You'll see I edit my post. I did not want to see the thread to go in flame but, I guess you and I don't agree with the child support issue. I am willing to listen to your opinions, even through I don't agree with them..I don't like when people attack on the single mother issue when not every single mother out there are like the ones who just depends on child support alone.

 

[DeafVeggie]

Well, I don't agree with mothers living off of child support, They should get a job too. Yes, I can see that is unfair.

Right. Once the system fails, he fails. In order to fight back, he will need to have a very long process such as writing letters to his local congressmen and other prominent political leaders to change that friggin' law. By the time when the law finally changes, he would be already over with his CS. No paybacks because the law effects on that day and onward, not prior to.

My apology for about not disclosing you further in details about my bro's ex. She lives by his paycheck. Not only that, she is re-married and is a "stay-at-home" jobless mom. Consider her as a "double-dipping". One from him and one from his new husband who works at fast food restaurant that makes far less than what my bro makes even though both are falls under poverty levels.

I see, Well I don't agree with that, That is like walking out of a child's life and doesn't want to bond with the child. I think that's really sad. I felt bad for the child because the child did not ask for this to happen to him or her. I try to get along with my sons dad for their sake. It isn't about me, It's about my boys, They need a father firgured in their life and I am not going to stop them from seeing their own father and have a father/son bond. That the way it suppose to be and always should be.

Again, my apology for not disclosing you further in details. My bro's ex spoke bad things to his kid about him. So, what's good to have him around his kid while she raises the kid under the bad influence? Nothing. Walking off is not part of his vocabulary. It is just that he doesn't see any good bonding relationship with his kid who has been fully poisoned by his ex. He lives in CO and his ex lives in CT. Sure, you could say that he needs to report the discrepancy to the Court. Once again, he can no longer afford court appeal filing fees. His ex had the best crafty attorney to against him. Have you heard the phrase, "Anything you say can and will be used against you in a Court of Law"? He was telling the Court in honest from the bottom of his heart. But, the Court didn't see her anything wrong and dismissed the case and then, ordered him to pay her attorney fees. :roll:

Anyway, your last quote got me to think of something else... If you wish your kids to have a good father/son bonding relationship with your ex. Fine. With that kind of nature, since you already know your ex would be good for your kids. Therefore, your ex would be good lovely relationship for your sons and...to you, right? Well, why can't you just re-marry back to your ex if you know he is going to be one for the sake of the kids? You see, a person who has the attitude like this: My bro's ex doesn't want her kid to see him. Therefore, she is really unfit! But, there is nothing he could do because the Court doesn't see her in that way! Yes, I felt sorry for him and to his kid. That's what we are all made up to live in this wacko world!

Cheri, thank you for reversing your lock thread decision. I do not wish to make this topic into senseless flame. It is just that I need to read your point of views and why. I don't intend to paint one brush for all single mothers.

~DV

 

[Cheri]

Anyway, your last quote got me to think of something else... If you wish your kids to have a good father/son bonding relationship with your ex. Fine. With that kind of nature, since you already know your ex would be good for your kids. Therefore, your ex would be good lovely relationship for your sons and...to you, right? Well, why can't you just re-marry back to your ex if you know he is going to be one for the sake of the kids?

Actually My ex is not very good father, at least he comes around and still see his son. At least it is a start...Why I don't go back with my ex and marry him? So much had happen during the time my son was born, He has an alcohol/drug problem even since my son was born. He been in/out of jail and that one night when I was working, He was to watch our son which he was 1 yrs old at that time, The father was drinking that night without my knowledge. I received a phone call at work from the Police saying that my son was outside of the apartment complex alone with only a diaper which was below 3 degrees, Someone phoned the police and realized who the child belongs to when the police came in the father was passed out on the couch, Whole house was trashed. That's when I made a decision to leave him and take my son. I gave him so many chances to change to get help with his alcohol problem. He refused and gave me no choice but to leave. I took care of my son for 9 years alone. He paid child support the first time only $900.00 and then he quit his job and was on unemployment hasn't paid child support in years Let's say about 7 yrs and it went up to 10,000.00. My son's father never brought my son anything even presents for Christmas, his birthday nor any Holidays, not even a card either. But, I don't tell my son bad things about him because I don't want to put him on the spot. I rather him to find out himself what type of father he is. There are times my son gets upset that his father made promises that he cannot keep. But, Deep down he still loves his father. I have let his father stay with us because he was living out on the street. I told him he could stay with us unless he doesn't use drugs or alcohol in the house, Couple months later he broke that promise, and He was kicked out. Now he paying child support and I am getting $62.00 a week Which is a good start better than nothing right? Money isn't an object for me, But I rather my son to have both mother and father in his life, both of us supporting him, loving him and being there for him. That is why I let the father visit his son and having a father/son bond, even through he isn't the best dad at least he is trying; I guess.

 

[Cheri]

My apology for about not disclosing you further in details about my bro's ex. She lives by his paycheck. Not only that, she is re-married and is a "stay-at-home" jobless mom. Consider her as a "double-dipping". One from him and one from his new husband who works at fast food restaurant that makes far less than what my bro makes even though both are falls under poverty levels.

I now understand how you feel for your brother, I agree with you wholeheartly about what you said, She should get a job and not living on his child support checks. I don't like when they do that either. I think she is being so selfish and lazy. I believe both a mother and father should be working to support that child. [Not the father alone working, nor the mother alone working.]

Again, my apology for not disclosing you further in details. My bro's ex spoke bad things to his kid about him. So, what's good to have him around his kid while she raises the kid under the bad influence? Nothing. Walking off is not part of his vocabulary. It is just that he doesn't see any good bonding relationship with his kid who has been fully poisoned by his ex. He lives in CO and his ex lives in CT

You don't need to apology to me hun. She should never put her son in the middle of her dislikes of her ex or the child's father. Once the child grows up, Maybe you can have your brother tell him the truth some days. Once the child recovered that he was brain-washed by his mother He would be more upset at the mother than his own father. Now, I can see why your brother is going through hard time, It's too bad that there are bitches out there. Excuse my language here.

 

[The*Empress]

P. Diddy Vows to Appeal Child Support Order

By NEKESA MUMBI MOODY, AP

Sean "P. Diddy" Combs is disputing the amount of child support he must pay: $21,782 a month.

NEW YORK (May 25) - P. Diddy likes to brag about having the biggest yacht, the most expensive parties, the grandest houses and more. Now he's been ordered to pay what could be the biggest child support order in New York state history, and he's not happy.

Last month, the New York State Supreme Court's Appellate Division approved an increase from about $5,000 to $21,782 per month to P. Diddy's ex-girlfriend, Misa Hylton-Brim. Representatives of both P. Diddy and Hylton-Brim say it's the highest child support payment in state history.

In an interview with The Associated Press Tuesday, the hip-hop mogul vowed to appeal, saying the case was an attack on his character.

"It's not about money. I don't care how much money I have," he said. "If you come at me and say I don't take care of my child, I'm going to take care of that to the end."

He vowed to take the case to the Court of Appeals, the state's highest court. He said the courts should not have negated the previous, years-old agreement between the pair, which stipulated the $5,000 monthly figure.

"The law would be saying that contracts are null and void. I don't think that it would be like that with someone else," he said.

In addition to child support, P. Diddy said he also pays for his 11-year-old son Justin's health insurance, tuition, vacations, clothes and other items, for a total of about $120,000 per year.

Last year, Hylton-Brim, a fashion stylist for stars, sued P. Diddy seeking $35,000 a month in child support while she was divorcing the father of her other children. P. Diddy claimed she was seeking "adult support."

He said the new payment is an injustice, noting that billionaire Ron Perelman was ordered to pay about $12,000 in his child custody case several years ago.


"I do take care of my child to my fullest, that's something that should be rewarded. It's not something that should be handled this way," he said.

Hylton-Brim's lawyer, Brett Kimmel, told the AP that she has proven in court that she needs more money.

"His claim that $5,112 should do the trick is obviously unreasonable, was not upheld by any court anywhere, and I dare say is reason enough to explain why she felt she needed to go to a court in the first place," Kimmel said.

He also addressed P. Diddy's claim that the lawsuit accused him of not taking care of his child: "I don't think anybody has ever indicated in court and otherwise that he's not a good father and he doesn't care about his son."

P. Diddy also pays child support to his girlfriend, Kim Porter, the mother of his second child, Christian, who went to court seeking more money when they were estranged.

However, P. Diddy said reports that he pays Porter about $30,000 a month were untrue. "She gets $12,000 a month. (But) she pays for everything" including health care, he said.

Although P. Diddy claimed Hylton-Brim was driven by "greed," he also said their relationship was good. "I've forgiven her on it, but I'm not going to let up on it."


5/25/05

 

[Sophia26]

Hylton-Brim is a fashion stylist and she has her own clothing line for those naysayers who assumed that she doens't work for a living. P. Diddy doesn't mind shelling out big bucks for lavish parties, cars and all the bling bling but grips when it comes to providing for his child. Hello.... His Children has been accustomed to a certain lifestyle and it's only necessary to maintain that certain lifestyle. It's not about "adult Living" or Babymama try to rob his ass but his CHILDREN. Let's face it, if you don't want your children to be chauffer everywhere or wearing the best clothes, don't feed into that mentality. Yeah Bad Boy for life.

 

[Nesmuth]

If youre gonna marry a total dumbf**k and knock her up for a kid, youre going to expect to be paying big if you want to dump her as she's not going to be able work herself a buck let alone learn how to work.

Richard