Bullies~ Fight Back or Walk Away?

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This is a touchy subject and I can't believe I am making this post.
Bullies are cowards. That is all there is to it. They sense weakness and try to exploit it.
I have had run-ins with them personally. I was an Air Force brat, which means I attended several schools, since my family had to constantly relocate. It most certainly is not easy being the only deafie in a school, and of COURSE there will be bullies testing you. I am not proud of it, and I am certain that my Air Force father was not either, but he told me that in a jam, just walk up to the biggest guy and slug him. It got me beaten up a few times but they left me alone after that.
 
Interesting...

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/bullies.html

Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Tell your child to look the bully in the eye and say something like, "I want you to stop right now." Counsel your child to then walk away and ignore any further taunts. Encourage your child to "walk tall" and hold his or her head up high (using this type of body language sends a message that your child isn't vulnerable). Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and by walking away, or ignoring hurtful emails or instant messages, your child will be telling the bully that he or she just doesn't care. Sooner or later, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother your child.
 
Good information there, I save the link in my fave, Thanks a million girl :kiss:
 
Steel X said:
I would fight back against bullies and I have afew times and I didnt even get in trouble for it! :D well okay afew times but still...they got served!
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You're speaking of yourself.. but what about when you have kids? How are you going to explain that to your kids? tell him to hit them back?


As I said in my thread, no hitting back! Walk away!

Good Posting, ^Angel^!
 
Heath said:
It only works if the teacher is serious and takes positive action. Talk to him about if the teacher is not doing the required job of a teacher then what can he do to take the appropriate steps like sitting down to talk to the prinicpal etc.
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:) You're exactly right, Heath, well said!!!!
 
Heath said:
It is not about who is bigger than who is and I was telling it like it is and that was the source of the friction here.

Many people when they have been abused so bad and they have had enough then they take up marital arts to defend themselves or learn it the hard way through experience.

That is why it does not pay to treat people bad and if they do then they got it coming to them. Too bad for the bullies. Good for the person sticking up for himself or herself. Stand the ground and do not move from there.

I do not think the U.S. Army Drill Sergeant will let that slide. He will send the trainee to the brig then carry out the sentence imposed upon the trainee then give a dishonorable discharge and kick him out of the U.S. Army. I know the U.S. Marine Corps has no tolerance for that kind of business with the trainees rebelling against the Drill Instructors or the Drill Assistant Instructors.

Yes, It is very important to learn how to disable your enemy before they even try to disable you.
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The DS let it slide because he instigated it in the training. There was no sign of disrespect other than to the recruit. He never pulled that on recruits again, to my knowledge.
 
RebelGirl said:
You're speaking of yourself.. but what about when you have kids? How are you going to explain that to your kids? tell him to hit them back?


As I said in my thread, no hitting back! Walk away!

Good Posting, ^Angel^!
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If it's more than one bully, the victim has no choice but to fight back and can't unless they know a martial art. If my personal safety is at risk, I won't hesitate to give it my all and send the bully/assailant to the ER, so the bully/assailant best tell me either he or she wants to go there or not and for what reason, because they will be on their way.

In addition, it is important to remember not to tell the bully/assailant that you know martial arts. It is also important to remember not to give any warnings when one is about to use it. I nearly used it once, as a classmate had the lights turned off in a classroom while I was going through (it was dark when I entered). The lights came up, he rushed at me and said my name simultaneously while I automatically went into the fighting position. :nono: He nearly got it from me and knew it.
 
pek1 said:
The DS let it slide because he instigated it in the training. There was no sign of disrespect other than to the recruit. He never pulled that on recruits again, to my knowledge.
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I like to add...

There is nothing wrong with Drill Sergeant since he wanted his men and women to be stronger soldiers. They must prepare in unexpected event of the war. Moreover, they can not be sued since they already signed the government contract.
 
pek1 said:
If it's more than one bully, the victim has no choice but to fight back and can't unless they know a martial art. If my personal safety is at risk, I won't hesitate to give it my all and send the bully/assailant to the ER, so the bully/assailant best tell me either he or she wants to go there or not and for what reason, because they will be on their way.
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Then the victim will get in trouble too......
 
There was a girl who told me to stand there at the sidewalk and get undress.
Or else she'll throw a rock at me.

I picked up a rock too and said if you throw a rock at me, I'll throw a rock at you too.


Angel, do you want that girl to throw a rock at me and I might end up in the hospital if I walk away?

Or do you want me to stand on the sidewalk and humiliate myself and make my self esteem low and have the neighbors stare at me?

Or do you think it is a right thing for me to fight back by picking up the stone and threaten the girl back?

So you need to stop being so high and almighty and think about something.
 
Simple solution here is by find someone who is bigger and stronger to defend your kids.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
There was a girl who told me to stand there at the sidewalk and get undress.
Or else she'll throw a rock at me.

I picked up a rock too and said if you throw a rock at me, I'll throw a rock at you too.


Angel, do you want that girl to throw a rock at me and I might end up in the hospital if I walk away?

Or do you want me to stand on the sidewalk and humiliate myself and make my self esteem low and have the neighbors stare at me?

Or do you think it is a right thing for me to fight back by picking up the stone and threaten the girl back?

So you need to stop being so high and almighty and think about something.
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^Angel^ doesn't need to stop being so high and almighty.. You need to stop using your imaginations about how things should be done. If a girl says to stop on the sidewalk and take your clothes off.. you tell her no, I won't do that. If she says if you don't do it, i'll throw a rock at you.. CUTE!!!! you tell her no, i still won't do it and walk away or run. go seek help. what you just said you would throw rocks back only make things worse because she knows you're angry and hurting and she'll use your weakness and continue to find a way for you to fight back. You got to walk away and make her bored.. once she gets bored with you it'll stop.. if not.. go get help.

so stop using your imaginations, this is reality. its happening right now everywhere. Back then, they didn't take the bully seriously, until now. You are not little anymore.. this is 2006, not 1980's. You can't follow let them follow your steps or else it'll just get worse for you.
 
jazzy said:
Simple solution here is by find someone who is bigger and stronger to defend your kids.
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What if its my only child and I don't have anyone to defend her? How do you handle that? Its not that simple. :smash:
 
RebelGirl said:
What if its my only child and I don't have anyone to defend her? How do you handle that? Its not that simple. :smash:
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Kids used to run to my son for his protection, bully kids were afraid of my son. He used to protect his older brother from other bullies. I guess he get this gene from me, fighter not passive. But he has to be careful with them also, never know if they carry knife or guns.

Martha Stewart had to hire a cellmate to protect her from bullies at prison too.

I don't know what to say about your daughter. I would perfer to drive her to school and back just alike many parents do nowdays. I don't trust any kids on the bus around my kids if my kids are little but they are already grown up now.
 
jazzy said:
Kids used to run to my son for his protection, bully kids were afraid of my son. He used to protect his older brother from other bullies. I guess he get this gene from me, fighter not passive. But he has to be careful with them also, never know if they carry knife or guns.

Martha Stewart had to hire a cellmate to protect her from bullies at prison too.

I don't know what to say about your daughter. I would perfer to drive her to school and back just alike many parents do nowdays. I don't trust any kids on the bus around my kids if my kids are little but they are already grown up now.
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My daughter doesn't have anyone to defend her.. not that I know of. She told me that there were other students telling the bully to leave my daughter alone.. so that's basically it.
 
Cheri said we should not ignore it...

So you're saying I should ignore the girl and walk away?
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Cheri said we should not ignore it...

So you're saying I should ignore the girl and walk away?
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No that's not what Cheri meant..

yes you should ignore the girl and walk away.. then GO FOR HELP.. let the adult take care of it instead of you trying to fix it.

I think you're an adult, arent you?
 
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