Bullies~ Fight Back or Walk Away?

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As I always said to my children " two wrongs don't make a right "...When one of my children faced a bully, what should they do? fight back or walk away? I taught all three of my children that fighting back doesn't solved anything but to make things worse, they could get in trouble for fighting back in school or on the school bus...

As a parents it is your responsibility to educate and protect your children in every way you can... The children do gain more focus and self-control which, in turn, raises their self-esteem and self-confidence. They also learn not to fight... That's because with heightened self-confidence and self-esteem, they do not need to prove themselves. With greater self-control, they know how to walk away from a fight.....They CAN learn how to defend themselves if they were in a situation where they can't walk away from it....But sometimes a fight can lead to serious harm, like a bully could have a weapon and your child could get seriously hurt or even killed... :(

Do you teach your children to walk away or fight back?....



" Bullies come in all all shape and sizes. In general, through, bullies are typically
insensitive to the feelings of others and have a desire to dominate. Physical bullies, in particular, are often physically strong and aggressive and may have a positive attitude toward violence. Bullies may confuse fear with friendship and respect . "

Michael S. Dell, MD
 
:gpost: I have taught my foster son to walk away and ignore anyone who tries to bully him or teases him. I said the exact same thing, that if he were to do the same thing, it would make things worse, just don't bother, ignore and walk away. Especially at school, where the students just love to bully the younger students around, and I have told my foster son if any of the students bother you? Go straight to a teacher or teacher's aide and explain the problem, they are there to help. :thumb:
 
Walk away. And let the professionals fight back for you.

Richard
 
Mookie said:
What if he/she was killed? I will send postcards you in jail...

It all depends on the situation.... I would tell him first to ignore then walk away then not talk then go through the steps but yeah God Forbid, if you killed my son I would see it to that you are on death row and you will not be allowed to send me postcards as part of your sentence.
 
CODAchild said:
:gpost: I have taught my foster son to walk away and ignore anyone who tries to bully him or teases him. I said the exact same thing, that if he were to do the same thing, it would make things worse, just don't bother, ignore and walk away. Especially at school, where the students just love to bully the younger students around, and I have told my foster son if any of the students bother you? Go straight to a teacher or teacher's aide and explain the problem, they are there to help. :thumb:

It only works if the teacher is serious and takes positive action. Talk to him about if the teacher is not doing the required job of a teacher then what can he do to take the appropriate steps like sitting down to talk to the prinicpal etc.
 
Heath said:
Fight first then talk later. :) :thumb:

You mean you're going to teach your children to fight first then talk later?...
 
^Angel^ said:
You mean you're going to teach your children to fight first then talk later?...

I guess I should have clarified I have always fought back first and talked later but in today's world. There has to be a different approach because the kids today are way more violent than in my time.
 
Nowadays violence is getting worse in schools than it was back then. That scares me. I hope my children will never get bullied when it is time for them to go to school but if they will I would tell them to walk away from the bullies and report it to a teacher and parents. I agree with you who said fighting back with fists can make things worse. We can fight back with words to have them to make a law that bullying is forbidden.
 
If I had children, I'd tell him/her to walk away than going into a fight because it makes things worse when you want to fight back.
 
sequoias said:
If I had children, I'd tell him/her to walk away than going into a fight because it makes things worse when you want to fight back.
yea i agree with u... it better for walk away... sometime ppl cant control their and wanna stand up and speak back this person...
 
TweetyBird said:
yea i agree with u... it better for walk away... sometime ppl cant control their and wanna stand up and speak back this person...

Yeah some people want to fight back and ignore parents advice/education. It's sad!
 
I teach my girls that knowledge/education is powerful, not fists. They know that it is not a good idea to fight back but rather find ways to end it right there, instead of continuing the fight. People or kids who seek fights are ones who want drama, so if we dont provide them drama, they will get bored and give up.
 
In my future kids when I have and i will said to them just walk away and stay away from the bullies :) ..
 
DeafMonkey said:
In my future kids when I have and i will said to them just walk away and stay away from the bullies :) ..

Are your future kids, what? Monkeys? Just kidding!
 
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