CLOGGY: I agree. There's a whole range of combinations parent-child-sign-speech.
I met parents of which the baby - 8 months - was operated on. This child had no sign established so I guess it will go straight for speech.
For us, Lotte had 1 year with sign (then age 2½) when she got the CI. She communicated with sign with us so we continued that. We believe that a child that can use sign to learn to speak will have a huge advantage compared to a child that needs to learn to speak but is not allowed to sign.
Then there are families of which the child is older and deaf. I agree that when the childs wants communication also with sign, then the parents should definitely do an affort to accomodate for this.
And it is hard to learn a second language, at leat, to learn it fluently. The problem arises when the child learns the language and wants to keep using it. It will be in a lot of contact with sign, so the learning goes fast due to age and exposure. The parents will have problems because they are older and less exposed.
Regarding IQ, that is hardly related to speech / sign.
Give me an IQ-test in chinese and I guarentee you that my IQ will be in the low 10's. And that because I guessed a couple of answers right
Our strategy was:
NEVER loose communication with our child!
Exactly, my dear Cloggy, exactly!!
DD, you go, girl! Keep on being onboard for the hearing parents (I hope you don't mind being labeled this -- easier for understanding who I am talking about)... Where else can they get good,
unbiased information for their deaf child?
Cloggy you really hit the nail on the head with that statement, "NEVER lose communication with our child!" That was actually how I felt about Fragmenter -- he was my third child, but the first deaf one. It was easy with the older two as they are hearing and the world's all prepared for them (I just asked that they use sign language and they did NOT have to be fluent in that, just enough to communicate with my second husband as we got married when they were 6 and 5 respectively and because I work full-time I didn't have the time to "interpret" between FAMILY members.)
When Fragmenter came long, we long suspected he had some hearing loss and when he was finally diagnosed at 11 months (remember this is over 25 years ago) my husband and I discussed all our options: Fulton = out cos Fragmenter will have to stay at dorm, no way for this mom!; 2 oral schools = one's out and the other one (CID), hmmm....; SSD (Special School District) = hmmm. We went with CID first but all the teacher stressed on was the word "apple" with other words added (and this was $30 per1-hour session once a week for a month before we decided it wasn't working and I actually argued - and won - with the teacher over Fragmenter's use of sign language at home -- I told her I refuse to interpret for a father and HIS son, HIS first child!) so we enrolled Fragmenter and eventually his sister who came along 2 years later. What was important to us at the time was that we all can communicate and that they have some kind of language to communicate with.
Fragmenter and his wife want their children to hear/speak -- which is fine with me -- it's their decision and our society is more openly accepting of the deaf than they were 25 years ago.
Sorry for all the babbling.
(please note that CID is NOT what it was in my and Fragmenter's time -- hmm, I'll have to use a day off from work just to check out the classroom setting there! and to see for myself what Lillys dad talked about)