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I talked with a girl whois now an ex-friend of mine. she was pregnant twice at rit. She knew she was pregnant 2 times. . But, she continued drinking and do drugs causing herself to have 2 miscarriages.Recently, she tells me that i'm lucky to have 2 kids and that she wish she had 2 kids. when i told her that she could have had 2 kids, she blamed her miscarriage on her uncle. She was like I got it from stress etc. I was like sigh ok ..shrugs! :roll:

What is your opinion about this? :popcorn:
 
Blaming two miscarriages on stress is bullshit. It was the drugs and alcohol that caused the miscarriage. I can't believe that she continued to do drugs and alcohol after knowing she was pregnant. That's like murder.
 
VamPyroX said:
Blaming two miscarriages on stress is bullshit. It was the drugs and alcohol that caused the miscarriage. I can't believe that she continued to do drugs and alcohol after knowing she was pregnant. That's like murder.
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You said it right out of my mouth.
 
If she dont take drug and drinking then she would get a kids but she take drug and drinking it is hard for her cause got two miscarriages.
 
VamPyroX said:
Blaming two miscarriages on stress is bullshit. It was the drugs and alcohol that caused the miscarriage. I can't believe that she continued to do drugs and alcohol after knowing she was pregnant. That's like murder.
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:gpost: I'm with Vampy on this one. This ex-friend of yours, kept on drinking and doing drugs while pregnant is only harming the fetus, and she is the only one at blame for the miscarriage. All expectant mothers know the dangerous of alcohol and drugs, and of course even doctors would say that it is not safe to drink at all during pregnancy. She just want to put the blame on someone else beside herself.
 
VamPyroX said:
Blaming two miscarriages on stress is bullshit. It was the drugs and alcohol that caused the miscarriage. I can't believe that she continued to do drugs and alcohol after knowing she was pregnant. That's like murder.
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yup! u are right!!!
 
I forgot to add,

You said she was pregnant twice at RIT? Does that mean she is a college student? What happened to protection during sex? Oh I guess she didn't have any brains because her brains been fried from drugs and alcohol related. :whistle:
 
She could be a current student or a former student. There are a lot of students here who do things like that. Just recently, I found out that this gal got pregnant and I didn't even know she was pregnant until last month. I was surprised since this was a highly-respected student known by the RIT/NTID community. Now, she's dropped out with a kid and a boyfriend. Another gal dropped out too because she got pregnant from an one-night stand at another college.
 
VamPyroX said:
She could be a current student or a former student. There are a lot of students here who do things like that. Just recently, I found out that this gal got pregnant and I didn't even know she was pregnant until last month. I was surprised since this was a highly-respected student known by the RIT/NTID community. Now, she's dropped out with a kid and a boyfriend. Another gal dropped out too because she got pregnant from an one-night stand at another college.
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OUCH!!!! it so sad! gee
 
I agree with what everyone so far as said. If she took better care of herself, and listened to her doctor, and not do all that drinking, she would have had 2 healthy children now. Blaming others is not going to help the issue here, she needs to accept what she did was wrong, and make things better for herself.
 
Gotta agree with everyone here...


What's up with them ladies getting pregnant and leaving college? Would it hurt to stay at least 9 more months to complete a semester or two? then after a couple of weeks, go back?

I'm one of them.. :roll: I regret leaving college when I found out I was pregnant and never went back.


As far as your ex-friend goes.. someone need to confront her and tell her that she did this to her babies by doing drugs and drinking. She can't go around acting all innocent and wishing she had kids.. she HAD kids.
 
Might I add..


At least I didn't do drugs or drink and I kept my baby healthy...
 
seem she is not very carefully with her first trimeter after she lost miscarriage. Funny thing, most of time got miscarriage, it do destory their self esteem and depression, and she don't seem like it.

Also I don't believe to take drugs/drink. Same for smoke, i don't believe during preggy. I don't like to harm my baby by my fault. I did quit smoke. Well, its my general opinion.
 
Whatever her coping problems are... she can talk with Planned Parenthood in her area about it. It was her choice to use alcohol and drugs to deal with stress. Some of us overeat to deal with stress. Some of us cut ourselves, or get passively aggressive or just plain aggressive with others, etc etc. There's always help that doesn't involve causing self harm or harm to others.

Blaming others is to disempower ourselves, and create a mentality of victimhood.. because it's an excuse to stay stuck where one is, instead of moving on forward. If we blame others, we won't be blamed for failing even if we DO something and failed at it... we've been taught that failing at something is worse next to death because we think we'll be rejected or abandoned. That belief system has to change.
 
I had a friend who smokes up so much and partied alot and when she found out she was preg. she put it all to a stop and took care of her baby. If she can do that...anyone can.
 
i had miscarriage due to stress... i wasnt drinking or smoking at that time THOUGH... i did smoked and drank first month (i did not know) so it could play big role in this too as well. i guess my point is...stress CAN kill baby especiallly if continued doing drugs (illegal and legal drugs hurts the baby) not to mention a simple static or cleaner chemical or cleaning litter will hurt baby too as well
 
RebelGirl said:
Gotta agree with everyone here...


What's up with them ladies getting pregnant and leaving college? Would it hurt to stay at least 9 more months to complete a semester or two? then after a couple of weeks, go back?

I'm one of them.. :roll: I regret leaving college when I found out I was pregnant and never went back.


As far as your ex-friend goes.. someone need to confront her and tell her that she did this to her babies by doing drugs and drinking. She can't go around acting all innocent and wishing she had kids.. she HAD kids.
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You're right. They have 9 months. Here at RIT, we have quarters. It wouldn't matter when she got pregnant during the school year, she can always finish the year before having her baby afterwards. 3 quarters equals 9 months. Getting pregnant during those 9 months will still give you less than 9 months to finish school. :)

I have a few friends who got pregnant but still finished school and got their degrees before leaving school.

I also have a few friends who got pregnant and left school immediately because of the backstabbing they got from other people, including their own friends. It's sad to see my friends leave because other friends can't leave her alone. :(
 
VamPyroX said:
You're right. They have 9 months. Here at RIT, we have quarters. It wouldn't matter when she got pregnant during the school year, she can always finish the year before having her baby afterwards. 3 quarters equals 9 months. Getting pregnant during those 9 months will still give you less than 9 months to finish school. :)

I have a few friends who got pregnant but still finished school and got their degrees before leaving school.

I also have a few friends who got pregnant and left school immediately because of the backstabbing they got from other people, including their own friends. It's sad to see my friends leave because other friends can't leave her alone. :(
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my mom was one of them.. she was pregnant at 17 and a senior in high school and she stayed and graduated.

my cousin got pregnant at 14 and stayed til finish high school.

I've had friends like that.. leaving school because of backstabbing. its sad really.
 
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