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MilitaryGirl83

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What's your opinion about it?

I think adoption is good when a mother can't afford to take care of the baby or when they don't want a baby.. yet give life a chance for the baby so the baby would be with loving families. Also mothers who was or is on drug use cannot take care of the baby also can give a baby a good home. The common thing is that teenager moms give up their babies because they r in school and isnt ready for parenthood.
 
I second that.

It is good to have that option out there for mothers who do not want to raise a baby, or are simply unable to care for a child financially and emotionally.

I consider adoption to be this - one woman's gift to another couple who cannot have their own children for whatever reason, or want more children to add onto their families. The way I look at it is this - no child is unwanted. If one person can't handle being a parent at the current time, then it's great to know that they could always turn around and say "I can't do it." The baby of course, or child, deserves someone who can and wants to...

So yeah, it's a good thing. Personally, I would have trouble giving up any one of my children, but if I really and truly had no choice, I would feel better knowing that someone else could give him or her what I could not. I would want it to be an open adoption, though, so I could at least see the child I lost.

This is a good post...should get a lot of views on this.

Malfoyish
 
I Second That Too!

I Think that is Great Idea for Parents or Teens that are not ready to take care of a baby or raise one.. I think that is a lot better than Having an Abortion.The mother may feel that she is unable to give the baby the love and support which it needs.

But...Often the greatest difficulty in giving your baby for adoption is the emotional attachment you have to it.


Some People Use unprotected sex and never thought that pregnancy would happen, When Some Mothers became Pregnant Don't want to lose everything They have and wanted to be free and not tied down to anything or anyone. That is Why I do not think abortion is the Best Choice.. Because some would Go into a deep depression and Regret it. and Adoption Choice Would Make the Child Happy Learned that My birth mom loved me enough to give me life as God had planned! :thumb:
 
Good idea yes but me I raised by Adoption parents turns out SUCKS.. treat me horrible...
I'm sorry.. I feel awful offense about this but..
Hope right parent who can treat adoption child as well rasied better lifestyles.

I'm glad and found my birth mom and sister and relatives too.. :) I feel blessed reunion :)
 
Bullym0m said:
Good idea yes but me I raised by Adoption parents turns out SUCKS.. treat me horrible...
I'm sorry.. I feel awful offense about this but..
Hope right parent who can treat adoption child as well rasied better lifestyles.

I'm glad and found my birth mom and sister and relatives too.. :) I feel blessed reunion :)
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Bullym0m,

I'm glad things worked out for you. You deserve to be happy. I'm sorry your adoptive parents were not good to you...but you seem to have turned out just fine, and I'm happy for that.

(((hugs))) Malfoyish
 
Very Good Thread you made there Sarah!... :thumb:

I second that also,

I think it's awesome to have an options of giving a child a new home when a mother or father is unable to take care of the child themselves....It's give each child the blessing in happiness and living in a home where there are alot of loves to give and support etc...

There are also women out there who is unable to bear to have any children and adoption is an answer to their prayer!... :fruit:
 
Awww....I am sorry to hear that BullyMom...*hugs*...But, I am sure glad you have a chance to meet your real family that is the biggest blessing... :ily:
 
Just imagine the childless couple that cannot bear any children of their own and being able to 'adopt'...the overwhelming joy and love that'll spring up! Yet, there are instances where some adoptive parents have created a nightmarish life for the adopted child(ren)...yet, I've heard a lot more wonderful and happy lives through adoption...also, I do believe that adoption agencies are getting stricter per rules...application processes...following up more...all for the well-being of the adoptive child.

If I could, I would love to adopt a 'child'...a child either in the USA or from another country where either poverty, war ravages...and to give hope and undying love....

psstt...I'm truly sorry you haven't had the best kind of adoptive parents BullyMom...through your pain and sufferings, I'm sure you've grown stronger and more sensitive toward others...perhaps sometime if you're up to it, you might want to share some of your experiences with us...but if you don't, that's fine and we'll respect your wishes!
 
Bullym0m said:
Good idea yes but me I raised by Adoption parents turns out SUCKS.. treat me horrible...
I'm sorry.. I feel awful offense about this but..
Hope right parent who can treat adoption child as well rasied better lifestyles.

I'm glad and found my birth mom and sister and relatives too.. :) I feel blessed reunion :)
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It´s VERY sad to know that you´re unhappy with your adoptive parents. I always thought adoptive parents are loving parents because they are childless & alway want to have baby, that how it make them love more...
I can´t beleive what they did with you but I´m glad that you´re happy with your family & also happy to find your natural mother at last... It´s good new!
Did you still contact your adoptive parents?

Well, everyone!
It´s true!
I beleive it´s good for adoption when anyone who can´t acheive to have a baby or unwanted baby.
The childless parents would of VERY happy to give them alot of their love...
 
I'm not sure about giving a child away for adoption, unless it was in a country where there's a war going on and staying would prove dangerous or unhealthy for the child, and there is no way for the parents to care for the child... but I wouldn't mind adopting a child that was really in need of it.
 
Roadrunner said:
Just imagine the childless couple that cannot bear any children of their own and being able to 'adopt'...the overwhelming joy and love that'll spring up! Yet, there are instances where some adoptive parents have created a nightmarish life for the adopted child(ren)...yet, I've heard a lot more wonderful and happy lives through adoption...also, I do believe that adoption agencies are getting stricter per rules...application processes...following up more...all for the well-being of the adoptive child.

If I could, I would love to adopt a 'child'...a child either in the USA or from another country where either poverty, war ravages...and to give hope and undying love....

psstt...I'm truly sorry you haven't had the best kind of adoptive parents BullyMom...through your pain and sufferings, I'm sure you've grown stronger and more sensitive toward others...perhaps sometime if you're up to it, you might want to share some of your experiences with us...but if you don't, that's fine and we'll respect your wishes!
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I doesn't bother me at all as long sometime pain my feelings..(Summary story) *Really longest story* My hubby knows about my situation and begged my sister tell my hubby what happend in my past but my sister had no choice and respect my feels.. She told my husband everything. That how My husband felt bad and not pleasant with my parent done to me terrible. I had to accept because it's too old and past. My adpot parent put me slave and cooking everything when I was started 5 yrs old and chores too..(My mom wrote: 5 potatoes peeling, cut the square potatoes, turn oven on 350*F, when the foods is almost ready then turn the stove for vegetables. Almost every day routines daily. I was begged my mom please my sister turn.. My parent refused allow my sister cooking or else. I'm home alone.. mostly do anything.. Abused by my Adoption when I was found out that I'm adopt.. *muttering* Mostly school or other professional doesn't believe me what I had been hell through suffered from abused.. Finally I decide walk out from my home and found a way through shelter from hearing peoples guided me and turn into better provide me... I turn into my own living room a board rent then apartment and got pregnant and decided moved another town and suitable best interest for my child safety future.. I was living in small town in London,Ontairo until found mr right guy.. that how happy new life and got another rest 2 kids. Also Glady found my birth sister and mom and relatives too. I'm learning about my Birth families and to get know them more everyday. :)
 
Liebling:-))) said:
It´s VERY sad to know that you´re unhappy with your adoptive parents. I always thought adoptive parents are loving parents because they are childless & alway want to have baby, that how it make them love more...
I can´t beleive what they did with you but I´m glad that you´re happy with your family & also happy to find your natural mother at last... It´s good new!
Did you still contact your adoptive parents?

Well, everyone!
It´s true!
I beleive it´s good for adoption when anyone who can´t acheive to have a baby or unwanted baby.
The childless parents would of VERY happy to give them alot of their love...
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Liebling, Yes Sometime I contact my A mom and sister/bro that's all espically I refused contact my A Dad because he really terrible done to me. That reason why I disowned him 100%
 
im all for adoption -- my dad was adopted when he was 2 years old -- unfortuntely as its known back then it was a closed adoption -- when my dad was still alive he and my mom went looking for his adoption records to find out his biological family mainly for the health/medical history in the family only to find out all records from his adoption was burned up in a city hall fire years before :-/ he was only able to get the info after some massive legal wrangling with the Ohio courts cuz of the closed adoption and no record of medical history was ever documented at time of his adoption -- i think thats :crazy:

today there is open adoptions as well as closed adoptions and i do think that at the time of adoptions being finalized the birth parents should be at least made to document all medical histories from both sides of the family so that way the child's adoptive parents would know what to expect if the child gets sick or whatever and if it might be a genetic fuck up
 
Fly Free said:
im all for adoption -- my dad was adopted when he was 2 years old -- unfortuntely as its known back then it was a closed adoption -- when my dad was still alive he and my mom went looking for his adoption records to find out his biological family mainly for the health/medical history in the family only to find out all records from his adoption was burned up in a city hall fire years before :-/ he was only able to get the info after some massive legal wrangling with the Ohio courts cuz of the closed adoption and no record of medical history was ever documented at time of his adoption -- i think thats :crazy:

today there is open adoptions as well as closed adoptions and i do think that at the time of adoptions being finalized the birth parents should be at least made to document all medical histories from both sides of the family so that way the child's adoptive parents would know what to expect if the child gets sick or whatever and if it might be a genetic fuck up
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Look through the website... There have lotsa information listing about Adoption who seek bparents or whatever..
Hopefully will helps you find your b mom or Dad or relatives.. and also information about tip.
Here's..
http://www3.nf.sympatico.ca/pamela.anstey/triadonline/registry.html
http://www.nettrace.com.au/resource/search/people.html
http://www.familyhelper.net/index.html
http://www.adoption-reunions.com/Incredible.html
http://www.google.ca/search?q=Search+Birth+Parents&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en&btnG=Google+Search&meta=

*Wishes you have great luck hunting*
That how My mom and sister found me on interent that where I was registeration.
 
ive already used various avenues after the death of my dad when i decided to continue the search to no avail even double checking all records my dad found before his death -- nothing was found as of yet other than knowing the first/last name of dad's biological mom but we werent absolutely sure on her birth date since she has apparently lied on her true birthdate :roll: and the biological dad's first name is apparently the same but the last names are spelt differently :dunno: which is the true info -- those were the info dad found out after some wrangling with the Ohio courts -- the websites u have listed dont have any records cuz the city hall fire occurred back before computer era -- so i dont believe that any records from that fire were saved -- i found out the address where the old city hall was is now a fucking parking lot! :shock:
 
BULLYMOM ::First of all, I am very sorry that you had a horrible adoption parents. It seems that you are okay now since you have a beautiful family of yours. I am very disappointed with the way adoption agency handle it so badly and made you suffer. That adoption agency need to be reviewed more carefully like your horrible adoption parents!

I am all for Adoption! I think adoption is a wonderful things to parents who have been struggling to have kids, OR lots of parents who have big hearts for homeless kids who need good home, even they can produce to have a baby. I for one, have always wanted to adopt a baby from other county even I already have two kids of mine. I always have big heart for kids who need home. YES it's completely unfair for adoption agencies are tooo expensive to pay to get a child while being pregnant is much cheaper. I find it so disgust!@!! anyway, I support all the way with the adoption!
 
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Frisky Feline said:
BULLYMOM ::First of all, I am very sorry that you had a horrible adoption parents. It seems that you are okay now since you have a beautiful family of yours. I am very disappointed with the way adoption agency handle it so badly and made you suffer. That adoption agency need to be reviewed more carefully like your horrible adoption parents!

I am all for Adoption! I think adoption is a wonderful things to parents who have been struggling to have kids, OR lots of parents who have big hearts for homeless kids who need good home, even they can produce to have a baby. I for one, have always wanted to adopt a baby from other county even I already have two kids of mine. I always have big heart for kids who need home. YES it's completely unfair for adoption agencies are tooo expensive to pay to get a child while being pregnant is much cheaper. I find it so disgust!@!! anyway, I support all the way with the adoption!
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Yeah, That okay.. I'm glad isn't same like my adopt parent's footsteps for my children future.. No thanks..
I like provide them anything what the best interest for my child needs...
Love precouis and caring much more anything 100% :)
 
Bullym0m said:
Yeah, That okay.. I'm glad isn't same like my adopt parent's footsteps for my children future.. No thanks..
I like provide them anything what the best interest for my child needs...
Love precouis and caring much more anything 100% :)
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At least, you have been there and won't let it happen to your kids and their kids and their kids. ;)

You sounds a brave mommie.
 
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