a rant and seeking some advice

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deafdyke

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I have a friend here at school. I used to really like him...We were best friends, but lately he has really gotten on my nerves. He is a very sweet guy and I do like him a lot. However, he just acts so retarded sometimes, and it is really getting on my nerves! I'm not the only one. Two of my friends here at school also agree that he really acts beyond retarded. Like he uses a wheelchair, and he thinks that it's the funniest thing in the world to run over people's feet with it. He cannot carry on a conversation. Like one of the best parts of living on campus is getting sucked into conversations(like geek conversations or dumb pointless conversations) in the dining commons. He cannot and does not say anything beyond stupid stuff like about a new cell phone or his video editing business or cars,cars cars. His thought processes are just so fucked up...like I'll say something and he'll respond with an Officer Doofy comment. I have spoken to him over how he irrirates me, but he thinks that I'm just joking. I don't want to hurt his feelings or anything... but on the other hand he just does the stupidest things ever! Talking to him doesn't help b/c he doesn't seem to understand....I have been avoiding him the past few weeks in hopes that he'll understand that I don't want to be friends any more....but I just don't know what to do. I feel irrirated and very frustrated towards him, but don't want to outright dump him....any advice or anything?
 
deafdyke said:
I have a friend here at school. I used to really like him...We were best friends, but lately he has really gotten on my nerves. He is a very sweet guy and I do like him a lot. However, he just acts so retarded sometimes, and it is really getting on my nerves! I'm not the only one. Two of my friends here at school also agree that he really acts beyond retarded. Like he uses a wheelchair, and he thinks that it's the funniest thing in the world to run over people's feet with it. He cannot carry on a conversation. Like one of the best parts of living on campus is getting sucked into conversations(like geek conversations or dumb pointless conversations) in the dining commons. He cannot and does not say anything beyond stupid stuff like about a new cell phone or his video editing business or cars,cars cars. His thought processes are just so fucked up...like I'll say something and he'll respond with an Officer Doofy comment. I have spoken to him over how he irrirates me, but he thinks that I'm just joking. I don't want to hurt his feelings or anything... but on the other hand he just does the stupidest things ever! Talking to him doesn't help b/c he doesn't seem to understand....I have been avoiding him the past few weeks in hopes that he'll understand that I don't want to be friends any more....but I just don't know what to do. I feel irrirated and very frustrated towards him, but don't want to outright dump him....any advice or anything?
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I suggest that you copy and paste this and email this to him but make it a bit nicer and explain your feelings. If you are true friend of his, you will feel better that you did your job. How he reacts is his own issue, not yours. At least you can move on, knowing that you helped someone become more aware of his own immature behavior, etc.
 
Have you tried being blunt with him or having you along with a couple other friends as well?
 
Meg said:
I suggest that you copy and paste this and email this to him but make it a bit nicer and explain your feelings. If you are true friend of his, you will feel better that you did your job. How he reacts is his own issue, not yours. At least you can move on, knowing that you helped someone become more aware of his own immature behavior, etc.
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I concur with what Meg said. This guy sounds really immature, and what is worse he doesn't seem to understand that his behavior is irritating you to a point that you want to alienate him. I would try one more time to get it across to him that his behavior must change, but if that doesn't work, I would just ignore him. At least, you know you gave it a shot, right?

Btw,

I'm wheelchair bound, and running over people's feet is so not cool. I used to do that kind of stuff, but the difference is... I was 10 when I did it.

Get my meaning?
 
Meg said:
I suggest that you copy and paste this and email this to him but make it a bit nicer and explain your feelings. If you are true friend of his, you will feel better that you did your job. How he reacts is his own issue, not yours. At least you can move on, knowing that you helped someone become more aware of his own immature behavior, etc.
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:gpost:
 
IMHO:
Sometimes people change. If you can't accept the way your friend behaves now, it might be time to move on. No big drama departures, no big announcements. Just start spending more time with people that you enjoy and have common interests. If your friend is still interested in maintaining a relationship, and questions why you are spending less time together, you can nicely explain to him the reason. If he starts mending his ways so you can enjoy his company, then fine. If he continues his unpleasant ways, then just move on.

People's interests change, and people mature and grow at different rates. It is not necessarily a bad thing. It is just part of life.
 
yeah :roll: that happened to me I lost few friends cuz of loss of interest in something sometimes I notice he changed and I didn't.. blah oh well like if some1 tries to be wannabe christian I wud be just say don't try to get on my nerves but too late cuz I realized i lost interest in a friend who did that to me but eh.. yeah if u are his true friend u wud be honest with how u feel instead of ingoring him for good. oh well I made a mistake and i hope u don't make same mistake like I did :P
 
Have you tried being blunt with him or having you along with a couple other friends as well?
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Yeah,he just thinks I'm joking. ...haven't gone the intervention route yet as we only have one mutual friend and she's never on campus!
 
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