10 myths about introverts

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Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

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The more I read the more I chuckled at my own expense :lol:

This describes me to a "T" with the exception of #9 (thrill seeker/adrenaline junkie).
 
I see a lot of myself in those myths...remember while generally false, there's a partial truth to them as well.

Laura
 
I'm INTJ: Introvert, Intuitive, Thinker and Judgemental. This result was from a test on MBTI.

For me, anytime after long day at work, I tend to stay at home and go into my room alone (away from my wife and kids) to allow to recharge myself, just to relax and read my book for maybe lilke half hour before I come out again to the emerging crazy world.
 
geee. thats described Me...now I know why i have so much trouble...in so many other things/people///im glad to read this and actually understand myself more and how things are ...that's definitely me.
 
i also glad i read that...i guess we all have some of those attributes even extroverts
 
interesting. it didnt fits me at all. wonder if it fits anyone who have been through a lot of going on with hearing world and deaf world itself? :hmm: Im sure that there are many reasons going on such as other syndrome or experience...
 
you must be extrovert frisky

yeah i guess so.

I often met many hearing people and they say i am an easygoing person that they dont know ASL and they feel better about it. LOL

I know who I am, i know i am not perfect. Life goes on!
 
yeah i guess so.

I often met many hearing people and they say i am an easygoing person that they dont know ASL and they feel better about it. LOL

I know who I am, i know i am not perfect. Life goes on!

and that the main thing know yourself,you win the battles of life..but it did stop make me think reading it...
 
and that the main thing know yourself,you win the battles of life..but it did stop make me think reading it...

Thank you. Of course we all have ups and downs but life is so short. SO keep going on, and make mistakes and learn from there. every relationships are hard, and go on.
 
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I see a lot of myself in these,
At the same time , I am bubbly lol weird
 
:hmm: Maybe if my ex-husband had read this he would have understood me better (I have had him use almost every single one of those myths against me at one point or another)... Oh well, his loss :)!

Seriously, though, this fits me to a T! I have always known I was an introvert and there have been many times I have been made to feel bad or wrong because of it. Many people seem to think that introverts just need to work harder at being "outgoing" but it really isn't that easy. And myth #1 is so true for me- I only talk when I feel I have something to add to the conversation or something of value to say. This was one of the BIGGEST things the ex and I argued about, he always said "my friends think you don't like them because you never talk around them" and I always tried to explain that I never felt I had anything to add to the conversation- and he just didn't get it! :) But get me on the right topic or on something I know a lot about- yeah, I could talk for days!!
 
It's interesting that the majority here see themselves this way. I can't help but wonder how much growing up in a hearing world with profound loss contributed to my being this way. Or perhaps it just compounded a trait that already existed.

The combination of this and the effort and focus it takes to understand what someone is saying is pretty formidable. Nothing like having someone repeat themselves once or twice only to find they had nothing to say anyway.

Today I had the perfect example... Went to breakfast at a little local diner. Yesterday my HA crapped out (perfect timing on a holiday weekend no less) so right now am fully deaf. Of course a cute waitress I've been flirting with was there on her off day (it's family run) and sat right next to me. I thought about explaining my current predicament, but didn't. So a perfect opportunity to chat her up was wasted because I just didn't want to deal with communication difficulty. /sigh/ Just kept it to a "hey what's up?" and that was it.

Don't mean to come across as a downer that's not like me at all. It feels better having vented a little though!
 
i wonder if did extrovert list would we all see ourselves in that aswel
 
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