Biologist: Having sex on a first date may lead to long term relationship

:ugh: I don't buy that stuff.
 
shel90 said:
There are some women like that but there are some women who really honestly like the guys and the guys says they feel the connection. Suppose they know each other as friends for several years and then they go out on a date. They discuss about deep issues relating to life and love. Then, they go to his house and start making out..whoops! Sex happens. No harm done right? They date a few more times but the guy keeps bringing up about moving too quick on the first date and obsessing about it. The woman doesnt make a big fuss about it and just want to go with the flow. The guy finally tells the woman he is not sure about having feelings for her all because she moved too fast on the first date. :eek3: He moved as fast too so what's the big fuss? Excuses or just too paranoid thinking that the woman could be a slut? Sometimes people just make a big deal over everything and this was one of those times. :ugh3:
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:werd:

There're happened often like that...
I see nothing wrong if a person attract sexuality to other person whom they know each other well with no serious. Some people who are friends and rather to have sex each other. Some agrees to have night stands.

Sometimes it happened suddenly which they doesn't mean it...

It doesn't bother me really. The people are adult and know what they are doing. If anyone who label them as whore or slut then is their ignorant and closed minded.

I ask to myself often... why the women are being label slut, whore, etc, not men?
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I ask to myself often... why the women are being label slut, whore, etc, not men?
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what? like king said men do get labeled from women -

"jerk"
"asshole"
"pervert"
"bastard"

so on and so on.

revving to the topic - my other half and i are living proofs of this study.
 
Gamer12 said:
what? like king said men do get labeled from women -

"jerk"
"asshole"
"pervert"
"bastard"

so on and so on.

revving to the topic - my other half and i are living proofs of this study.
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Yea I know what u mean and know what Liebling means.

Several men when young like to play around and so do women too. Those women get looked down while men r considered the "studs" or the "big" man for scoring a lot of women. Can't women get called the same if they want to play around?

After my divorce, I didn't want a serious relationship since I had been with my ex since I was 17 years old. Was the only serious relationship I had so I wanted to experiment. Dated a lot but I got labeled a whore. Fine..if it makes me a whore, so be it but at least I got to have fun. :) no regrets..just sad that I get called names as if I was sleeping with every single guy dated. :roll:
 
lemontree said:
ROFL. Of course, only a man would write such a book and talk about how having sex on the first date with someone can improve your chances of being in a long-term relationship with that person. How long is long-term? 6 months? A year? 5 years? Why didn't he say first-date sex would improve one's chances of marriage? That's what I thought. :ugh3:
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of course one might not want to insert another side - i wonder how many couples stay married after many months and years of dating and commited relationships? why didn't she say a long-term and relationship wouldn't always improve one's chances of marriage? there was a classmate of mine who had a divorce within only a few months of marriage - he had a long-term [11 years] relationship with his exwife before married her. shocking! shocking! not.

there is no one-for-all formula in rendering a successful marriage. none whatsoever. what might work for me don't always work for you.
 
shel90 said:
Several men when young like to play around and so do women too. Those women get looked down while men r considered the "studs" or the "big" man for scoring a lot of women. Can't women get called the same if they want to play around?
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i reluct to give in but you're right. i had a similar discussion with women before but the one thing that bothers me about this game bullshit - why don't women just walk from them and chase after men with better qualities? because of my position, i listened to many complains from women about men they dated. but why don't they just select the right type of men and save themselves the headaches? it certainly will kill the game since they will take away the ammos men used for the game.

anyone knows an answer will win a free subscription to AD and its topics! approved by alex*





*no he didn't.
 
Gamer12 said:
what? like king said men do get labeled from women -

"jerk"
"asshole"
"pervert"
"bastard"

so on and so on.

revving to the topic - my other half and i are living proofs of this study.
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I'm DEFINIELY with you!
 
hmm

sorry to busted yall's bubbles, boys...

there's a lot of pros & cons for sex on the first date.... the reasons why its not good thing for first time or it could be whilst it last.

Sex on first date - right or wrong?
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By BELLA BATTLE
April 30, 2007

SEX on a first date is for one-night stands, right? Well, actually, no.

According to new book The Rough Guide to the Brain, sleeping with someone early on can INCREASE your chances of a long-term relationship.

Author and biologist Dr Barry Gibb reckons romps spark chemical changes in the brain that lead to love.

He explains:
Sun Online
 
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missus - thanks for the link. but women just shared their opinion -- not the facts or hard data -- with us. i found it intriguing that the author asked the sexperts, not marriage experts, for their advices on long-term relationships or marriages. it's just like asking terrorists for their opinions on how to stop the terrorists.

still, a sex researcher from the article you posted earlier supports Dr. Barry Gibb's theory -

there’s certainly evidence of couples who’ve slept together fairly early on and have stayed together.

I slept with my partner the first night we went out and we’re now expecting a baby together.

But some guys have double standards where they really like you, sleep with you and then decide they don’t want to be with you.

It’s probably not going to work with the kind of man who’s likely to judge you or leave you based on certain things you do early on in a relationship.

bingo. choose a right man and the headache's over. it just shouldn't be this difficult. but again, jerks and assholes are good at posing as good guys[tm] to get women into their pants.
 
:doh: once again.. I know I had made bad posting.. but here it goes.. the actual post!

:ty: for the marvelous input! :applause: that was the exact opinion I just had thought of, but eh it was too long 4 me to type it out. ha! thanks for filling my spot! :giggle:

btw, men has their ways of trying to win or suceed their game chart to scored the "prizes" so that it will represented themselves as "I'm the man!" I don't know what men actually thinking or considering but no offense & I did knew about the influence of the pornstars & women outside of pornography world - beautiful models in their sexual fanatasy.

that goes for women, too.. no matter what names that called us out aka "hoes, slut, whore, bitches, cheap" (we will take these to the conscience at that judgement on self-esteem or self-conscious with respect compliments.

we can be beautiful in our unique original ways. its our choice to embrace it or throw it way in dumpster.

Simple desires are easy to satisfy.

yes, it is to tempting to think of whether we are right or wrong.. it just the way of life making each other happy or better.

& funny thing, animals.. mammals never had 1 bit of complaints for each male & female's arguement in sexually way. they will just claim them or kill them. doesn't it sounds like its inhuman reasonable for them, too? although, we all have responsiblity for our pride & self-esteem.. at last I can only say.... be careful.
 
Missus_Philos0phyK said:
that goes for women, too.. no matter what names that called us out aka "hoes, slut, whore, bitches, cheap" (we will take these to the conscience at that judgement on self-esteem or self-conscious with respect compliments.
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Ok then we will wear our shirt that we are bastard, jerk, asshole, studs, etc whatever the women label us, we will be proud of it who we are, the MEN!

Men should be proud to be Men
Women should be proud of Women

Equalize is Finalized
 
:ty: for the marvelous input! :applause: that was the exact opinion I just had thought of, but eh it was too long 4 me to type it out. ha! thanks for filling my spot! :giggle:

thank you and it's no problem.

Missus_Philos0phyK said:
btw, men has their ways of trying to win or suceed their game chart to scored the "prizes" so that it will represented themselves as "I'm the man!" I don't know what men actually thinking or considering but no offense & I did knew about the influence of the pornstars & women outside of pornography world - beautiful models in their sexual fanatasy.
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i hate to give away men's games or secrets but you're right that they have their ways of doing the games. i agree that men need to stop playing the game but women enable them by choosing them over ethically nice guys, good men with qualities and so on. the game will be running as long as men and women both play the game.

that goes for women, too.. no matter what names that called us out aka "hoes, slut, whore, bitches, cheap" (we will take these to the conscience at that judgement on self-esteem or self-conscious with respect compliments.

that'd be an interesting take on this subject.

we can be beautiful in our unique original ways. its our choice to embrace it or throw it way in dumpster.

i second.

& funny thing, animals.. mammals never had 1 bit of complaints for each male & female's arguement in sexually way. they will just claim them or kill them. doesn't it sounds like its inhuman reasonable for them, too? although, we all have responsiblity for our pride & self-esteem.. at last I can only say.... be careful.

we, men, have to be thankful that we aren't insects. women, i bet y'all find it funny, don't you?
 
This is total disgusted and this person clearly failed to view other points that the fact sex has consequences such as diseases, immoralism, and the like. It is BEST to wait till wedding night.

Let me say this, have you all heard your girlfriends and currently your wives asked you once before that you have had sex with many women and asked you to be tested? Honesty is best policy and yeah, you could lose someone special because of carelessness. It is like one night stands.

Today is the same as it was the days of Noah and the days of Sodom and Gorromoh (sp), if I were to have children, I strongly prefer to educate my children NOT to have sex until marriage. Sex does have consequences more than just diseases, it is the inside that can be a mess. Your heart can be a mess!!! I know the difference so you should try that absentance is best method.

I know that if you are not in your faith with God, you are more likely to have sex and you will understand later the guilt. Trust me, I know.

One more time, pleaseeeee no sex prior to marriage. Cest la vie!
 
UpstNYDesigner said:
This is total disgusted and this person clearly failed to view other points that the fact sex has consequences such as diseases, immoralism, and the like. It is BEST to wait till wedding night.

Let me say this, have you all heard your girlfriends and currently your wives asked you once before that you have had sex with many women and asked you to be tested? Honesty is best policy and yeah, you could lose someone special because of carelessness. It is like one night stands.

Today is the same as it was the days of Noah and the days of Sodom and Gorromoh (sp), if I were to have children, I strongly prefer to educate my children NOT to have sex until marriage. Sex does have consequences more than just diseases, it is the inside that can be a mess. Your heart can be a mess!!! I know the difference so you should try that absentance is best method.

I know that if you are not in your faith with God, you are more likely to have sex and you will understand later the guilt. Trust me, I know.

One more time, pleaseeeee no sex prior to marriage. Cest la vie!
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thank you for sharing your opinion with us.

many couples divorced right after sex or within a few months of. many married couples aren't happy with each other right after sex. so on and so on.

i think "what might work for you don't always work for us" is the golden rule.
 
Gamer12 said:
thank you for sharing your opinion with us.

many couples divorced right after sex or within a few months of. many married couples aren't happy with each other right after sex. so on and so on.

i think "what might work for you don't always work for us" is the golden rule.[/QUOTE]

I agree expecially when it comes to relationships and sex. Some people wait until marriage and others dont. Everyone is different but the most important thing is should be about respecting each other in the relationship not what other people think. Like, I and my friend who is a guy had sex once and it wasnt planned but it was btw the both of us and we agreed that it was something that just happened and nothing more. As long as nobody was hurt, why should others complain? If they think it is wrong, then they should apply that to themselves but not to others.
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