Alimony is wrong?

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taurizs

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All men and husband are very suffer from alimony also they say alimony is a real form of slavery. Is alimony destroy your life???
 
simple - sign the pre-nup before you get married. if she/he does not want to sign it.... well.... best of luck!
 
Or get married in Texas. Alimony here is only after 10 years of marriage and even then it is pretty limited.
 
When a wife help a husband (or versa vice) build up his life, and he divorce her, everything she done for him, AND raising their kids together, have gone to the dump. She even lost her chance to build a career for herself. So basically she became HIS slave for years when they got divorce.

the only expectational is she does have a career and they don't have children.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
When a wife help a husband (or versa vice) build up his life, and he divorce her, everything she done for him, AND raising their kids together, have gone to the dump. She even lost her chance to build a career for herself. So basically she became HIS slave for years when they got divorce.

the only expectational is she does have a career and they don't have children.
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Right on....and if a woman works, raises kids, cleans/cook/does housework and supports her husband while he is in school....then he graduates, gets a "good job"!...and promptly leaves her?...SAY WHAT?!....she's entitled!...Give her alimony...give her the moolah!
 
rockin'robin said:
right on....and if a woman works, raises kids, cleans/cook/does housework and supports her husband while he is in school....then he graduates, gets a "good job"!...and promptly leaves her?...say what?!....she's entitled!...give her alimony...give her the moolah!
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amen!
 
I won't have to worry about it - if hubby leaves me, then he's dead. :giggle:

We live in HIS mother's house.
 
KristinaB said:
I won't have to worry about it - if hubby leaves me, then he's dead. :giggle:

We live in HIS mother's house.
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:giggle: :giggle: He ain't going no where, Kristina!....But if he threatens to....just tell him to leave his paycheck! And the car keys, be nice and offer to call him a Cab!
 
I got mixed feeling about this.

I know a close cousin of mine had his ex-wife keep dragging him to court every-time he got a raise at his job. He eventually committed suicide in his own truck when the ex-wife dragged him to court again after he moved in with his parents so he could pay the alimony. :\

They were only together for two years too. :|
 
souggy said:
I got mixed feeling about this.

I know a close cousin of mine had his ex-wife keep dragging him to court every-time he got a raise at his job. He eventually committed suicide in his own truck when the ex-wife dragged him to court again after he moved in with his parents so he could pay the alimony. :\

They were only together for two years too. :|
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This is exactly the situation where alimony is being abused.
 
Banjo said:
This is exactly the situation where alimony is being abused.
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On the other hand, my mom could of had used alimony when I was growing up since we were poor for a long time. But she didn't want to harass my dad, so they agreed that if she got full custody, he doesn't owe her anything.

So... I am mixed. :\
 
souggy said:
On the other hand, my mom could of had used alimony when I was growing up since we were poor for a long time. But she didn't want to harass my dad, so they agreed that if she got full custody, he doesn't owe her anything.

So... I am mixed. :\
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A man should always take care of the woman who is the mother his children. I know way too many men who had used women for sex, and then leave her to defend herself. Now while a woman is responsible too, but she is doing her share of responsibilities by devoting her time to tend her children needs - emotionally and physically (if you don't understand that, try babysitting a child all on your own for a week).

Now this also apply to men as well. If a woman have a great career and the father is at home caring for the kids and the house, and she just divorces him, he is entitled as well.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
A man should always take care of the woman who is the mother his children. I know way too many men who had used women for sex, and then leave her to defend herself. Now while a woman is responsible too, but she is doing her share of responsibilities by devoting her time to tend her children needs - emotionally and physically (if you don't understand that, try babysitting a child all on your own for a week).

Now this also apply to men as well. If a woman have a great career and the father is at home caring for the kids and the house, and she just divorces him, he is entitled as well.
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:gpost: :gpost:

Exactly why the men overlook the women who had to stay home and take care of the kids. Almost all women don't have jobs if the men don't want them to work. They would rather have them stay home and be a wife and mother. If the men want to divorce, then they should give the alimony to the ex-wife. It is only fair for them to go to school or find a job that they had to learn to learning on the job training to get them started. We are not that greedy.

For me, I was supposed to get alimony, but my ex-husband (he was white and hearing) had been trying to move and not tell me where he was. He does not want to pay for alimony and also don't want to pay child support for my son. :roll: That was many years ago. I was very disappointed with him and sad that he does not care about us at that time. So I just let it go and my son and I made do by ourselves fine. It was a struggled, but we survived. :D
 
souggy said:
On the other hand, my mom could of had used alimony when I was growing up since we were poor for a long time. But she didn't want to harass my dad, so they agreed that if she got full custody, he doesn't owe her anything.

So... I am mixed. :\
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Just a little legal note. That agreement would not be binding. Child support is granted to the child. If you wanted you can go after the back support and interest. Even as an adult. Alot of people don't want to mess with that though
 
TXgolfer said:
Just a little legal note. That agreement would not be binding. Child support is granted to the child. If you wanted you can go after the back support and interest. Even as an adult. Alot of people don't want to mess with that though
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He did pay child support... in form of savings bonds... that wouldn't mature until I was 18. Apparently legal. Separate issue from child support.
 
I've heard that the issue of "child support" never runs out. Even if the child has reached adult age, the parent can sue for "back support".....Has anyone ever attempted to do this?....And would the back support go to the adult child or to the supporting parent?

I have friends (women) that have children (under age) and get "no support" even tho' they have filed for it....the husband keeps running or will not work to avoid child support....I remember years back when so much was going on about "Dead-beat Dads"....don't believe it helped much.

A man is NOT a man if he doesn't pay his child support! Same thing for a woman.....and it's one of the reasons we are into this financial mess since the States are having to support fatherless/motherless kids.....
 
Now, I know most divorces is something both parties wanted. but I've seen women who were devastated that a man found himself a other woman after staying married for so long. She'll beg him not to leave, and even try counseling. She feels unwanted and rejected because he did that. I think it is sad that men have to look for a younger-looking women and end their marriage because of some kind of mid-life crisis, and can not see the beauty in their own wife.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
Now, I know most divorces is something both parties wanted. but I've seen women who were devastated that a man found himself a other woman after staying married for so long. She'll beg him not to leave, and even try counseling. She feels unwanted and rejected because he did that. I think it is sad that men have to look for a younger-looking women and end their marriage because of some kind of mid-life crisis, and can not see the beauty in their own wife.
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I feel divorce is an extremely emotional issue, for both parties. But I feel if one has "fallen out of love", has tried to repair the relationship but to no avail, then it's best to move on, because Life is short! Everyone deserves their share of happiness, sadly, some people just don't realize when they have it so good, thinking someone else would be better...."grass is not always greener on the other side", rings true.
 
My divorce will be finalized in June and I did not request alimony nor child support.

We both have joint custody :)

My two cents:

I know most human beings (regardless of age, parental/marital status, gender, etc) will be able to find a job position that can support their new living situation if the motivation is present. Speaking of which, I'm gearing up for a phase 2 job interview tomorrow *wish me luck!*

Regarding alimony, I decided to go through with the divorce... which means I also decided to leave him out of my life once and for all. I don't need him to be paying for my bills, if that was my ulterior motive then I would simply stay in the marriage and turn a blind eye to his eh.. " wandering habits" :)

I am in favor of child support if the fella decides to magically disappear and the family is in dire need of financial assistance.
 
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