Is it cheating?

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If a person is in a serious relationship (especially if married) and s/he goes to a strip club, is it consider cheating?

I think it is...because cheating doesn't always mean one person is sleeping with another person outside the relationship.

I'm curious to know what you think.
 
I feel that the answer is relative. It depends on the couple itself - if both agree, I dont think it is cheating. But if the man/woman goes despite his/her significant other's views, that would be considered cheating in a way that it means he is ignoring his significant other's feelings and emotions about him/her in a strip club. He/she is putting another person over his/her significant other.

I have friends who couldnt care less if their spouses go to strip club whereas there are other friends who do care. A friend is very very upset that her husband constantly views porn on Net or browse through adult shops without her. Clearly, in her eyes, he is cheating and she has lost over 25 lbs in 2 months, fretting over his Internet porn viewings and strip clubs.
 
It could be considered emotional cheating. If the one person doesn't want the other to do that and they do it anyway, I think it could be considered emotional and mental cheating as well as abuse. Just my opinion though
 
No; I don't consider that cheating as long there's no touching.
 
But for me, if my man goes to strip clubs, I will not feel it is cheating but yes I would feel insecure and wondering what he sees in them that he does not see in me? It will bring up insecurities which in turn lead to silly tests/arguments therefore I would not even want him to go in the first place because it will be like opening up a Pandora's box.
 
I would say yes.

If one goes out to a strip club to look at naked people by him/herself, while he/she is still attached/married. I would see that as cheating. It is like they aren't satisfied with their current spouse.
 
Cheri said:
No; I don't consider that cheating as long there's no touching.
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Exactly.

How can it be considered cheating when one watches porn and looks at naked pictures?


If a married spouse has an issue with this, then the married spouse needs to seek within themselves to find out what the problem is.

Could it be insecurity or issues with trust? There's no harm done and heck, more fun for the other spouse when the spouse returns home with extra hormones!! :naughty:
 
Mrs Bucket said:
Exactly.

How can it be considered cheating when one watches porn and looks at naked pictures?


If a married spouse has an issue with this, then the married spouse needs to seek within themselves to find out what the problem is.

Could it be insecurity or issues with trust? There's no harm done and heck, more fun for the other spouse when the spouse returns home with extra hormones!! :naughty:
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:lol: That's right Mrs. Bucket!
 
If once in a while, it wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't consider it's cheating in any way.

If everyday or more often, then it would bother me and it could be "cheating" in emotional/mind way.
 
It does take trust if a SO wanna go out alone with friends to a strip show. I wouldn't consider that cheating. I would feel confident he wouldn't do anything that would jeopardize our relationship. I can do the same with my friends. *shrugs* Important that we have trust in each other and not stick our fingers in others' pies.

Strip clubs have nothing to do with emotions :lol: But yeah, important to make sure the trust is there before one of spouses do anything or there'll be problems later on. What's wrong with reassuring the spouse with insecure issues? I think we have to respect our SO's up to an extent, anyway.
 
deafbajagal said:
If a person is in a serious relationship (especially if married) and s/he goes to a strip club, is it consider cheating?

I think it is...because cheating doesn't always mean one person is sleeping with another person outside the relationship.

I'm curious to know what you think.
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hell no. it's only a cheating if you sleep with somebody. Strip Club or watching porn or cyber sex is "you can watch but you cannot touch" which is fine with me. If somebody gets jealous about that, then that person needs help. That's a sign of INSECURITY and I don't usually like to be with a person full of insecurity. I hate drama mickey mouse bullshit.
 
Jiro said:
hell no. it's only a cheating if you sleep with somebody. Strip Club or watching porn or cyber sex is "you can watch but you cannot touch" which is fine with me. If somebody gets jealous about that, then that person needs help. That's a sign of INSECURITY and I don't usually like to be with a person full of insecurity. I hate drama mickey mouse bullshit.
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A question, what if that person do that EVERYDAY or TOO OFTEN than just once in a while?
 
Jiro said:
hell no. it's only a cheating if you sleep with somebody. Strip Club or watching porn or cyber sex is "you can watch but you cannot touch" which is fine with me. If somebody gets jealous about that, then that person needs help. That's a sign of INSECURITY and I don't usually like to be with a person full of insecurity. I hate drama mickey mouse bullshit.
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I disagree only with this part about cybersex - I consider it having an emotional affair and a personal big turn off. Save all the sexy talk with a real person in bed. :hmm: Say what you may about it, but that's just me.
 
Liza said:
It does take trust if a SO wanna go out alone with friends to a strip show. I wouldn't consider that cheating. I would feel confident he wouldn't do anything that would jeopardize our relationship. I can do the same with my friends. *shrugs* Important that we have trust in each other and not stick our fingers in others' pies.
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What do you mean "pies" women? I prefer to go to men strip bar than women strip bar. :lol:
 
WhisperHorse said:
A question, what if that person do that EVERYDAY or TOO OFTEN than just once in a while?
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then... that woman is not doing her job :whistle: or... that man needs to seek help for sex addiction
 
Liza said:
I disagree only with this part about cybersex - I consider it having an emotional affair and a personal big turn off. Save all the sexy talk with a real person in bed. :hmm: Say what you may about it, but that's just me.
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true.... true.... but then.... that's better than in person with other woman, si? Maybe that guy cannot say it to his woman because she's not into it and/or she's no fun at all :laugh2:
 
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