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My best friend and I VPed each other this morning. I was right..she wasnt being honest with what the others (except for one) felt about me but they told her not to tell me so she felt in the middle. She said she will risk losing her friendship with them to save ours. Wow...so I told her how I felt and she said I had every right to feeling the way I did and that the wedding and the recent 40th bday bash werent held from me on purpose. Long story about those two events. As for the other events with another 40th bday bash, it was decided by the other 3 not to invite me. I forgot about the 5th one..the sister of the girl who "dated" my brother. She is deaf too but doesnt know sign language. So, there was the 6 of us.
Well, one of them is holding me fully responsible for what happened with her sister and my brother and I am not allowed in her house. Ok fine whatever.
The other one didnt feel comfortable with me cuz of my strong personality or some of the stuff I had said. Ok, would have been nice to know that instead of pretending to love me and being all that with me.
Then, the sister (who dated my brother) is not mad at me about my brother. She felt offended by something my hubby and I did with lack of manners when we stayed at her home one time. She told the others that we didnt pay for the food that was cooked at her house so that offended her but when I spoke with my husband, he said that we did. I cant remember so I guess it doesnt matter. I wish she had told me right there how she felt instead of keeping it from me.
So, I lost my friendship with the 3 of them but with my best friend and other girl, we are fine. I told my best friend that I am happy that she has them and that from now on, they will be considered "her" friends.
I guess what really hit me the hardest is that I felt like a fool thinking I was close to all of them all those years and being mad at myself for caring so much about "my girlfriends". I told my best friend that I need to stop caring tooo much about having girlfriends or going out of my way to treat them as my good friends when they dont show the same back.
My best friend said she cried all night and she didnt mean for any of this to happen.
Hopefully, it will be a lesson learned but it is also a time to reflect on myself and my character and how to improve myself.
thanks everyone for the support.
Well, one of them is holding me fully responsible for what happened with her sister and my brother and I am not allowed in her house. Ok fine whatever.
The other one didnt feel comfortable with me cuz of my strong personality or some of the stuff I had said. Ok, would have been nice to know that instead of pretending to love me and being all that with me.
Then, the sister (who dated my brother) is not mad at me about my brother. She felt offended by something my hubby and I did with lack of manners when we stayed at her home one time. She told the others that we didnt pay for the food that was cooked at her house so that offended her but when I spoke with my husband, he said that we did. I cant remember so I guess it doesnt matter. I wish she had told me right there how she felt instead of keeping it from me.
So, I lost my friendship with the 3 of them but with my best friend and other girl, we are fine. I told my best friend that I am happy that she has them and that from now on, they will be considered "her" friends.
I guess what really hit me the hardest is that I felt like a fool thinking I was close to all of them all those years and being mad at myself for caring so much about "my girlfriends". I told my best friend that I need to stop caring tooo much about having girlfriends or going out of my way to treat them as my good friends when they dont show the same back.
My best friend said she cried all night and she didnt mean for any of this to happen.
Hopefully, it will be a lesson learned but it is also a time to reflect on myself and my character and how to improve myself.
thanks everyone for the support.