Since this thread have been bothering my mind, for some reason my mind just kept telling me "Post it! Post it!", but I have some of interesting experience involve with a mother and a 17 years old daughter who was dating with 39 years old man, that time was 3 years ago (2005) when I was living in Salem, Oregon at my 18th age. The mother and her daughter was my roommate living in a property where I was used to own, the mother have totally 3 children living with her, one boy and two girls. One of the girls was not home that much, she have been staying at the school so I don't have much stories about her involving with the situation so it's just the mother, the boy, the girl, and me.
Since the girl have been dating with the man, my house was like a nuthouse, alot of drama going on, I thought a minor dating with a big different age is wrong so I took the mother's side at the first, I have been supporting her mom all the way, such like stop the girl from using my Ogo (a pager), stop her from using the computer, I have to lock my computer with the password to keep her off my computer, many things I have been trying to help the mother to protecting the girl.
Guess what have happened? It's all screw up, doesn't work! The girl became so emotionally, causing drama, many things, the mother and I have been calling the police on her coming to my house about twice or three times every month, or have to call the police to look for her while she was running away.
I still remember one time, I was in my room using the computer and somehow I feel stomping around right outside my room so I take a peek at the living room that was outside of my room's door and notice the mother and the girl was fighting, pushing each other, and the mother seems was fed up with her so she walked to the kitchen, the girl was tried to follow her to fight more, but I pulled her into my room, I gave her the cigarettes to calm her down, and I was trying to talk with her, asking her if she want to go to the mall instead of making the drama with the mother, I was trying to cool her off, but she was too pissed off that time and took whole of my cigarettes pack and was trying to leave my room, in my mind, it's obsiviously she is about to running away again so I grabbed my cigarettes pack away from her and told her "No... I am not support you running away, but I do support if you would just try to relax, try to cool down." She stare at me like I don't care about her but too over-controlling her so she got mad and storming out of the front door and walk off.
Also other time I remember, I just walked back to my home from the food store, right time when I was entering the front door of my house, the boy scream at me "Help us! Please hide any weapons!", and I saw the mother was trying to call something, the girl was stopping her from calling something by pressing the "Off" button on the tty, I didn't know what exactly going on, but things seems obsiviously serious going on so I went to the kitchen, I just drop the foods on the counter and ignore them, I open the drawer and grab all of knifes, went in the bathroom, doing the same thing. I packed all of stuff that could hurt each other and put those up in the attic to hide it, then I went to the living room to see what's up, it appeared that the mother gave up and still fighting with the girl, the boy was sitting next to the mother, the boy seems was protecting her, and I walked back in the kitchen. I voiced her name to get her attention and prefer to talk her when I was in the kitchen so that the girl won't see what I just said, I asked her "Do you want me to call the cops at the gas station next block?", the mother was sighing, told me "Sure you can if you wanna to", so I went to the gas station and explained what happened thus the worker called the police for me and the police went to my house, I went back to my house too and everything went chill down when the police was there..
Last part I am going to say, the night when the mother and her son, and other girl went to their friend's place, only me and the girl at my house. That night is the only night I would ever see she was left out by her family in my house, I was kinda surprised that the mother allowed her stay at my house alone with me while she knows that I was planning to go up to Vancouver, Washington to meet my parents. The girl was expressed to me how she loved her boyfriend, and I was starting to realized that everything I supported her mom was all waste. Love is love, period. But the problem is that her mom was paying me the rent, if I took her daughter's side, then her mom would move out immedately and it would be more expensive for me to paying the bills, but one more thing I realized, it's important to be happy than being too conservation, so this night is the only chance I can finally HELP HER. So I decide to let her to use my Ogo and she told me that her friends from Vancouver, Washington was planning to take her away from Salem, probably go with her boyfriend or moving out of state or whatever, but I was very scared because I don't know what her mom will say if she will never come back, but I keep that off my mind and focus on getting ready to drive up to Vancouver, Washington to meet my parents. Later the same night, her friends successfully arrived to my house to pick her up, I hugged her to tell her good bye and she told me "thank you for helping me".
When I was at my parent's house at Vancouver, Washington at the same night, her mom called my mom to talk with me, she asked me where was the girl?? I told her I don't know, the last time I see her was when I told her good bye and I left the house.
Next day, when I came back to home in Salem, Oregon, a police was at my house talking with the mother, I was not involved but when the police left, the mother was crying so hard, she kept expressing to me how she loved her, she told me that the girl was out of the state with the father, and she just kept talking to me, I just don't know what to say but I felt VERY bad for her while it was my responibilities for her daughter's running away, also her mom told me that the police can't do anything about it because she will be 18 in few months later, also they are out of state polices so they can't do anything.
After those horrible going on, I have been trying to keep in touch with the girl, asking her if she was doing ok, she kept telling me that she was very happy living with her boyfriend.
And... That was 3 years ago, they are still together and married.
I realized that the love would never can be tell if it was a true or not, no matter what kind of people are, it's just the love that was important.
Sorry if long post, but it's one of my worth learning experiences..
Since the girl have been dating with the man, my house was like a nuthouse, alot of drama going on, I thought a minor dating with a big different age is wrong so I took the mother's side at the first, I have been supporting her mom all the way, such like stop the girl from using my Ogo (a pager), stop her from using the computer, I have to lock my computer with the password to keep her off my computer, many things I have been trying to help the mother to protecting the girl.
Guess what have happened? It's all screw up, doesn't work! The girl became so emotionally, causing drama, many things, the mother and I have been calling the police on her coming to my house about twice or three times every month, or have to call the police to look for her while she was running away.
I still remember one time, I was in my room using the computer and somehow I feel stomping around right outside my room so I take a peek at the living room that was outside of my room's door and notice the mother and the girl was fighting, pushing each other, and the mother seems was fed up with her so she walked to the kitchen, the girl was tried to follow her to fight more, but I pulled her into my room, I gave her the cigarettes to calm her down, and I was trying to talk with her, asking her if she want to go to the mall instead of making the drama with the mother, I was trying to cool her off, but she was too pissed off that time and took whole of my cigarettes pack and was trying to leave my room, in my mind, it's obsiviously she is about to running away again so I grabbed my cigarettes pack away from her and told her "No... I am not support you running away, but I do support if you would just try to relax, try to cool down." She stare at me like I don't care about her but too over-controlling her so she got mad and storming out of the front door and walk off.
Also other time I remember, I just walked back to my home from the food store, right time when I was entering the front door of my house, the boy scream at me "Help us! Please hide any weapons!", and I saw the mother was trying to call something, the girl was stopping her from calling something by pressing the "Off" button on the tty, I didn't know what exactly going on, but things seems obsiviously serious going on so I went to the kitchen, I just drop the foods on the counter and ignore them, I open the drawer and grab all of knifes, went in the bathroom, doing the same thing. I packed all of stuff that could hurt each other and put those up in the attic to hide it, then I went to the living room to see what's up, it appeared that the mother gave up and still fighting with the girl, the boy was sitting next to the mother, the boy seems was protecting her, and I walked back in the kitchen. I voiced her name to get her attention and prefer to talk her when I was in the kitchen so that the girl won't see what I just said, I asked her "Do you want me to call the cops at the gas station next block?", the mother was sighing, told me "Sure you can if you wanna to", so I went to the gas station and explained what happened thus the worker called the police for me and the police went to my house, I went back to my house too and everything went chill down when the police was there..
Last part I am going to say, the night when the mother and her son, and other girl went to their friend's place, only me and the girl at my house. That night is the only night I would ever see she was left out by her family in my house, I was kinda surprised that the mother allowed her stay at my house alone with me while she knows that I was planning to go up to Vancouver, Washington to meet my parents. The girl was expressed to me how she loved her boyfriend, and I was starting to realized that everything I supported her mom was all waste. Love is love, period. But the problem is that her mom was paying me the rent, if I took her daughter's side, then her mom would move out immedately and it would be more expensive for me to paying the bills, but one more thing I realized, it's important to be happy than being too conservation, so this night is the only chance I can finally HELP HER. So I decide to let her to use my Ogo and she told me that her friends from Vancouver, Washington was planning to take her away from Salem, probably go with her boyfriend or moving out of state or whatever, but I was very scared because I don't know what her mom will say if she will never come back, but I keep that off my mind and focus on getting ready to drive up to Vancouver, Washington to meet my parents. Later the same night, her friends successfully arrived to my house to pick her up, I hugged her to tell her good bye and she told me "thank you for helping me".
When I was at my parent's house at Vancouver, Washington at the same night, her mom called my mom to talk with me, she asked me where was the girl?? I told her I don't know, the last time I see her was when I told her good bye and I left the house.
Next day, when I came back to home in Salem, Oregon, a police was at my house talking with the mother, I was not involved but when the police left, the mother was crying so hard, she kept expressing to me how she loved her, she told me that the girl was out of the state with the father, and she just kept talking to me, I just don't know what to say but I felt VERY bad for her while it was my responibilities for her daughter's running away, also her mom told me that the police can't do anything about it because she will be 18 in few months later, also they are out of state polices so they can't do anything.
After those horrible going on, I have been trying to keep in touch with the girl, asking her if she was doing ok, she kept telling me that she was very happy living with her boyfriend.
And... That was 3 years ago, they are still together and married.
I realized that the love would never can be tell if it was a true or not, no matter what kind of people are, it's just the love that was important.
Sorry if long post, but it's one of my worth learning experiences..
We were so much happier in our relationship for almost ten years.
