SKM4441, yeah, all these things have been said over and over, but group therapy is often soothing and helpful for future encounters.
The bobbing head when someone is passionately affirmative throws me for a loop, too. I want to reach out and neck-brace someone.
All versions of the “never mind” are annoying. Even though I speech-read and can talk, I sign I’m deaf when I say it. I add that I can read most lips, but I often get the wave-off and “never mind.” A guy came into the apiary looking for a job. I went through my say ‘n’ sign, and his look of contempt was something when he said, “I’ll talk to the boss.” Ha ha ha ha. He went to both other workers asking who did the hiring, and they both pointed to me. It was fun to see the look on his face change. Some days are diamond; some days are stone. That was pure diamond.
Not too many listeners know that closed captions wink off during and after a volume change. One of the perks of subtitles for DVDs is that doesn’t happen (though you give up the words to most songs and the title of what’s playing). My problem is opposite of yours, as I keep volume at zero when alone, and visiting hearies turn it up and keep fooling with it. If it’s a DVD on, I switch to subtitles, but if not, I ask them to fiddle with volume during commercial breaks.
Yeah, well, people getting stung by hornets are too sensitive and take it too personally, too.
Here’s another sting that came back pointedly to the stinger: A week ago, a friend recommended I go to the eye doctor where she works. I wrote on the application that I don’t have a land-line phone but use e-mail and/or text phone for communications.
The receptionist slashed the alternates out and said, “All you people have free TTY phones, don’t you? We have to do this over.” When I finally figured out what she had barked, I knew “we” meant me, so I left and e-mailed my friend. I was e-mailed back by the doctor, himself, apologizing and asking me to return the next day for my first appointment. He assured me all communications would be by e-mail or the media of my choice. No one said why, but the first receptionist wasn't there. There was no charge for my appointment.
I'm so glad you stopped & backed up to rethink the decision. Your son will always be grateful. I know I still am.
