G'day -- my parents, both hearing, were quite upset when they found out I was profoundly deaf at age 18 months old. Fortunately for me...they had the determination to ensure that I received the best type of education and support during my childhood years.
They weren't upset at all when my baby sister was also diagnoised with congential deafness as well. It was due to parents' recessive genes. My mum went on to learn and become proficient in sign language (SEE - Signing Exact English) then switched over to ASL after my sister and I had long graduated from high school. SEE's not really well received by the majority of the deaf community as they believe that ASL is their primary language.
I used Total Communication which consisted of both oralism and signing methods. I went through speech and auditory therapy sessions which greatly aided me in developing my skills in speaking and lipreading and so forth.
What I would suggest for you is to find some support groups -- I know one called, GLAD (Greater Los Angeles for the Deaf), but don't recommend that business for you to seek resources from due to some conflicts they have. Anyway, try googling for any deaf services available in L.A. -- I haven't heard of 'The House' before, but if they do provide any services and support for parents with deaf children, then go for it and find and collect as much information as you can.
There are some threads in AllDeaf about education and which are benefitial for deaf kids and all.
Cheers. Your daughter will be right.
