WTF does this even mean? Need advice on a friend matter

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Hoooboy. I have the world's most complex and confusing friendship.
We are very close. It's basicly one of those things where if it was a girl-guy realtionship everyone would be "OMG they're SO togehter."
The details aren't important....I mean we're both very touchy feely towards each other and everything. I know it's an awesome healthy friendship born out of the best love ever. It reminds me of my very close summer camp friendships as a matter of fact. I'm totally happy. And you know I think if anything else was added (ie a sexual realtionship) it might complicate things a lot. However, there is something that is utterly freaking me out. Sometimes I won't even be thinking of her at ALL....but then her picture comes up in my brain, like a radio transmission. It's not just thinking of her. I know the difference. When I think of her, her picture does not come up in my mind like a radio transmission. Then I'll hear from her or see her. Last year at an annual event we attend, i was working a shift and not even thinking of her. I decided to go see a group. A few seconds later, I got one of those "radio transmissions" of her clear as day. I went to go see the group about fifteen mintues later, and we were reunited for the year!!!!
I've had these "radio transmissions" right before she sent me postcards or letters or other contacts. Like the day before I got the postcard or letter, I'd get a "radio transmission" of her. I remember going down to the post office and seeing a card or letter and just KNOWING it was from her.
This is really freaking me out and scaring me. What the heck is this? What does it mean? I've had close friends before (including college and camp) but have never ever been so close, that I know when they send me postcards and letters and other stuff. Am I crazy? Has anyone ever had something simlair happen to them?
 
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You are not crazy. Sometimes when you have a drop bond with someone, your intuition relating to that person kicks into overdrive.
 
You are psychicatalismicallyintergalactically bonded. :lol: :giggle:
 
You're not crazy - I've freaked people out with my "telepathic" abilities. I woke up knowing my mother just died even though she was in Canada and I was in North Africa. I've correctly guessed dates on coins and prices on clothes, and I've randomly commented on what people were thinking about even though they didn't think out loud. My best friend got completely freaked out by that.

And once, when my best friend was sleeping over, we were sharing the same bed. In my sleep, I dreamt she was asking me to wake her up. I woke up and shook her awake. She said "thank god you woke me up. I was having a bad nightmare and kept yelling (in my dream) for you to please wake me up."

I don't know if it's telepathy or just that I'm more attuned in some ways.

all this to say, I don't think you're crazy at all and i'm rather pleased actually to see you're somewhat like me in that regard.
 
I don't often mention this to others, but I sometimes can feel other peoples emotions... I can sometimes tell when my family members are upset even though they are very far away (mostly my sister as I am very close to her). A couple of times I emailed my girlfriend to see if she was ok. She was shocked as she just had an argument with someone. I also can feel things from posters here in AD, but only if not too much time has passed from when they posted something. I've had to avoid a couple of threads because of too much energy passing through. Sometimes I can insulate myself from it, but not always. After my divorce, I could not feel anything from anybody - not even my sister. It took my girlfriend nearly a year to get me back to "normal" again. This also explains why I dislike large crowds as there is almost always one or more in the group that is broadcasting a really strong negative emotion. Sometimes this skill allows me to know if a new poster is serious about something they posted. Unfortunately this is not something I can turn of or off at will.
 
My daughter, at age 2 or 3, "knew" her best friend from daycare was going to be at church one Sunday. I had no idea what her friends family's religious beliefs/associations were and who do we see at church when we pull up? Now, you know, 2-3 year olds were not discussing where they go to church (especially since our parish actually has two churches).
She's done other things like that. I also have had "insights" of things to come.
 
You're not alone....... :)

Now, lets crank this up a bit.... to "Freaky mode"

Time is both linear and lateral... Not just linear... One can choose where to go. I believe these "deja vu" is actually because you've seen the future and don't remember it....

^^ is my experience and the best way I can explain it.
 
I've had similar experiences. When I was in high school, my youngest sister and I were particularly close. She would sometimes enter the living room, and I'd look up and answer the question she was going to ask but she hadn't even opened her mouth yet! That went on for about a year.

I also have a very good male friend, have known him ever since college, so more than 40 years now. Back when we wrote pen-and-paper letters to each other, I often had a sort of "tingling" the day or two before I'd get a letter, and just know that I was going to hear from him very soon. Once, when I was living in Africa, I had been out of the city for a day, and was returning to the office late in the afternoon. I was sort of snoozing in the back seat, vaguely thinking about whether I should just go straight home or stop in at the office first.

All of a sudden, I sat bolt upright, and thought "I HAVE to go in to the office, there will be a letter there from him."

And sure enough, there was.

Now this was when we only got mail delivery once a week, and that day wasn't even the scheduled day - but somehow I knew there would be a letter there.

I don't know how these things happen, but I do believe we all have the ability to recognize more than we do, to be better "receivers," if you will. I'm not sure it's in our conscious control, but I think when we have a strong intuition, we should respect it and not brush away the idea.
 
Wirelessly posted (droid)

Ya'll are freaking me out. I don't believe in this kind of stuff. I believe your experience, though, and I don't have an explaination for it.
 
its just patterns you can forced to recognised or its just right so it SEEMS supernatural
 
Wirelessly posted (Backberry)

There might be a scientific explination some day. But for now, believe whatever you wish.
 
My sister and I have always had a hilarious time with something like that. We always seem to know what the other is going to say. I would start signing for her to a deaf/hh person (she doesn't know as much vocabulary as I do) before she even started speaking or she would start speaking for me to a hearing person (as she is hearing also) before I even started signing. We would be right what the other wanted to say, even for random topics or off-topic remarks, and we didn't discuss it beforehand. We also teasingly yelled at each other for reading the other's mind and for one of us not giving the other the time to start speaking/signing before the one of us "interpreted". Or we'll say/sign something at the same time :blah::blah: (we did that ALL the time) and say "jink".

A hilaroius example in high school. We were studying history for the final exam (so there was A LOT to go over), but we wanted to do well. We didn't want to make it easy for the other by giving out information that might "give it away" or by going in an order, so we jumped around. We got to the point where we could accurately answer the question of "Who did what, when, where, and why? We cracked up after that. :laugh2:
 
All the time! I once had a dream there a horrible plane crash , the plane fell into the water near a bridge. When I woke up the in morning and turned on the TV there is was on news! Just the way I dreamed about it! And other time I had a boyfriend I woke up the next day and told him I had dream he meet a woman that had blond hair and blue eyes and she came from New Mexico and she was not able to stay out on the sun too long! My boyfriend looked at in shocked then said yeah I meet her yesterday ! I was right about everything down to her not being able to be in the sun! I had a lot things like this happen.
It called ESP. I tried to turn my off because I did not like some the things I picking up on! I was getting my car fix and the woman that did the accounting and appointments for my mechanic and something did not seem right to me , I was picking up that she was doing something wrong with the bookkeeping. It turn out I was right she messed up my mechanic taxes and it end costing him $2,000! I did not know how to tell my mechanic something was wrong and I felt bad I did not warn him to watch his bookkeeper.
I was like how do you tell something you know from ESP, I thought my mechanic would think I was 'crazy'.
 
OK, now i feel better. I swear to god, I thought that I would post and that everyone would be all " You're crazy!"
PFH, I go to Northampton MA to get my hearing aids. The last time I entered the city, I had one of those "radio transmissions" of her. I'm not sure if that means that I might see her the next time I go to Noho, or if we may live in Noho. I also went to an Indigo Girls concert last year. When they played this
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWBvhG2bzpA]SXSW 2009 - Indigo Girls - Love Of Our Lives - YouTube[/ame] and INDIGO GIRLS - LOVE OF OUR LIVES LYRICS (since it's not CC) I had another sighting of her....Very freaky. I guess it just means she and I are very very close, and perhaps someday.........It's freaking me out b/c I've never had something like this happen to me before....I have had close friends before....but this is crazy.
 
Whether it means anything romantic or not, who knows. There can be other energies around a friendship besides romance.

But here's another little anecdote: my dad was overseas in WWII, and of course my mom usually did not know exactly where he was. I mean, she had a general idea, but soldier's letters home could not discuss troop plans or anything of that nature.

Well, one day, when she hadn't had a letter from him in a while, she suddenly felt SO strongly that he was close, and that she would see him soon. She said she felt really happy all afternoon, because she just KNEW he was on his way home.

Late that afternoon, the phone rang. Dad: "Hi honey, guess where I am? In San Francisco, and I'm on the flight to see you tomorrow!" She said: "I KNEW you were back in the U.S.!"

He got all upset and said "You KNEW? How did you know? No one was supposed to know!"

She had to explain that no, no one told her about it, no, she had not seen any mention in the newspapers of his division or anything like that, just that she knew, at a very visceral level, that he was someplace close.
 
Beach girl said:
Whether it means anything romantic or not, who knows. There can be other energies around a friendship besides romance.


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Oh yeah I completely and totally understand that. It's been very confusing trying to figure out where the dividing line between very close friend and something more begins and ends. i'm not being all "OMG I'm in LOVE."
We love each other dearly....and in a lot of ways it's almost beyond erotic romance...It's an amazing (although very complex and confusing) realtionship.
 
Grummer said:
its just patterns you can forced to recognised or its just right so it SEEMS supernatural
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Grummer, it's not a pattern. It's really random that's the thing! And besides if it's just a pattern or just right, then how come there's that radio transmission of her? I can't call it...and it doesn't happen all the time.
 
I like what you call it "radio transmissions".

I had some deja vu episodes back in High school but haven't have any since.
 
Buffalo said:
I like what you call it "radio transmissions".

I had some deja vu episodes back in High school but haven't have any since.
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It's not deja vu. .....Seriously, its like a crystal clear radio transmission of her image appears in my brain briefly...It's beyond freaky
 
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