why me??? heartbroken.....

[fei ku]

let me tell u what happen.....

it was during thanksgiving i went to visit in PA to see my boyfriend....at one night when he was sleeping somehow in my guts urge me to look at his sidekick 2 (i know i arent suppose to do that) and end up saw girl sent him a nude pix of her a few nude pix include close up pussy.....i was like freak out by that in silence until my boyfriend woke up and i just gave him sidekick and quietly went upstair and cried abt it....then he came upstair and cuddle with me then next day....i nagged him a little abt that girl...her name is dulce...we agrued abt her a little bit...i sorta of nagged him for while until i came back home from PA we got into BIGGEST agruement abt her....i yelled at him why did he save that pix for??? he said that dulce sent it to him and asked him for his opintion which one is best for art class u know pose...i told him that i dont believe him and i think it is full of bullshit and i said that why did dulce choice him not other guys so obvious she do like him...he got mad abt it and wont speak to me for 7 days i got heartbroken that he wont talk to me....dec 1 to 7 not talk to me until dec 8th finally talk to me until dec 9 at night time he stop talked to me...cuz the way i sound different...u know in scare talk...not in flirty talk or anything he dont like it so he stopped talk to me because of that...i cant help it i mean i am afraid to lose him....i dont know what he really want from me....soo my mom and he talked and plus he talked to thomas one of my good friend the same story...my mom asked him 3 important questions....one is do he love me and he said yes and 2 is do he still want to stay with me and he said yes and 3 is...if he and i break up my mom wud like to talk with him as friend still and he said that we arent break up and he is put our relationship on hold...i was like wtf? soo at that night right after he done talk with thomas and my mom....he deleted my pix and comment abt me in his myspace.com i was so shocked when i saw that then for while he put a love away msg (the same one that belong to me) and this time it is for girl name is hyzul....i was so heartbroken...she is from CA and she will stay in PA for 2 weeks with him!!! well after i found out that he like other girl...i got heartbroken slightly so for while i felt little better and think positive and move on....but still keep my guard up until recently yesterday i found out who hyzul is i found her in myspace.com and i got worse heartbroken two things i found are that my boyfriend (or ex) said "cant wait to see u in few weeks" and she said "happy holiday much love!" but both of them are single....(abt his "single" in myspace...it has been like that since we were sweetheart nothing change) he havent talk to me for 3 weeks now.....last time i told him was "happy merry christmas and new year" and he didnt response me back why is he treat me like a crap!? why is he still give me a silence treatment!? why me???? if other people see wonderful abt me and everything why cant he see it abt me too??? after i saw hyzul in myspace.com i cried and today i still cry ...in my heart....i still do love him i am trying to move on but hard to do that....since he is not talk to me for 3 weeks i assume that i am single now cuz he didnt say that we are break up or anything just silence and plus he didnt give me much choice soo i just decided to be single....if he talk to me again....(my mom said he will for sure all i have to do is stay offline then it will make him wonder what happen to me since my mom have experience with those stuffs) i dont know what will happen after he talk to me again....i want him to feel my pain for what i have been thro by his stupid silence of treatment!!!!! I WANT HIM TO FEEL MY PAIN FOR WHAT HE HAVE DONE TO ME!!!!!!!!!! *sighs* can u guys tell me what shud i do??? how can i get thro this shit??? any advice or whatever u have in your mind...pls do tell me...i apprecation that thanks!!!!!!!

 

[chirowife03]

Why are you settling?? You are not seriously thinking this guy is worth it? what kind of decent guy would even accept trash photos like that and consider having any kind of relationship with her? Yuck!!! There is something about having a NICE guy-- no they are not as exciting as the bad boy, but when you get older.....there is something about a man with morals, integrity, honesty, and who works! We have ALL had heartaches.. the key is to learn from them. Best way to get over it is to seriously step back away from it. That is NOT the kind of guy you want. GROSE..and what kind of girl sends a photo like that?? GROSE!!!!

There was once wisdom given to me in my many years of being 40!! and it was that you need to BE the kind of person you want to FIND. Concentrate on being exactly what you want to marry and you will recognize that in each other when you do meet the right one. Be the right one and stop concentrating on finding the right one. Make sense? good luck- I have been there. This is wisdom and experience speaking.

Penni

 

[FreeWoman77]

i think sweetheart has made thread about her best friend similar ur story, i have replied, f**k him, find new guy and have fun with. i understand u feel hurt it will go away, good thing, u have sweetheart as best friend be there with u
hope u have good time this coming NYE

 

[diehardbiker]

My favorite new quote that helped me set myself free... So wanted to share with you..

"No man is worth your tears and the only one who is will never make you cry"

 

[chirowife03]

Amen!!!!!

 

[diehardbiker]

Fei Ku, may I suggest you? The most important person in the whole world wide is who? The simple answer is yourself. If you feel lonely, it is time to do your own personal inventory and find out why your lonely. Trust me, no man CAN make you feel unlonely. Only yourself! Rebounding relationship is VERY dangerous! I left my ex girlfriend quietly about 3 years ago, she does not even know because I can NOT stand her reaction. I was free, and thinking for myself for a long time... Finally I was able to let go of my previous ex whom I was madly in love and had trouble let her go. Then all of suddendly, Cheri came to my life. I wasn't even expect this to happen because I HATE Cheri to begin with. Fate can be strange and twisted. If you let fate do the dirty work, the best will await to happen for you. But it won't happen if you try to control the fate.
thats my 2 cents advice based on my experience.

 

[Cheri]

Hun, Not too long ago, you created a thread seeking for friendship possible love, before doing that you must overcome your feelings from your ex, before jumping into a newest relationship, because believe me you wouldn't want to have a rebound relationship, it will get a lot worst for you and the newest lover.

This guy you speaking of isn't worth it, If he is gotcha have a silence treatment with you, why bother wanted to know the major reason of him cheating on you? He isn't a man to stand up and say he doesn't wanna be with you anymore, or a man enough be faithful to you. He isn't worth it. You deserved so much better, and once you are over this feelings for you ex, You'll find the person that would give you all the love you deserved. Don't rush yourself, it takes time to find love.

 

[diehardbiker]

Amen! I hate silent treatment. When a person giving you silent treatment, it shows that this person is trying to escape the problem. You wouldn't want a person who think the best solution to the problem is to run away from it. I have had ex ex gf who thinks runaway is best solution. I am the problem solver, and it DOES devasate me when anyone refused to solve the problem outright, and sweep the problems under the rug.

Hun, Not too long ago, you created a thread seeking for friendship possible love, before doing that you must overcome your feelings from your ex, before jumping into a newest relationship, because believe me you wouldn't want to have a rebound relationship, it will get a lot worst for you and the newest lover.

This guy you speaking of isn't worth it, If he is gotcha have a silence treatment with you, why bother wanted to know the major reason of him cheating on you? He isn't a man to stand up and say he doesn't wanna be with you anymore, or a man enough be faithful to you. He isn't worth it. You deserved so much better, and once you are over this feelings for you ex, You'll find the person that would give you all the love you deserved. Don't rush yourself, it takes time to find love.

 

[Heath]

There is something about having a NICE guy-- no they are not as exciting as the bad boy, but when you get older.....there is something about a man with morals, integrity, honesty, and who works!

Penni

Yes !

 

[fei ku]

yea if he cheat on me balls is in his court....i back off cuz once he cheat on me i knew he wud be guilty cuz i didnt do anything wrong to him...all i do is give him alot alot of space that he need....but since u guys said that "silence treatment" it does mean something is going on....and i agree with u guys....i arent going to sit around and wait to find out what it is.....if he want that girl fine...go ahead...cuz he will be big sorry that he lose me....cuz i know that i am innocent and didnt do anything wrong just agrue that it.....i didnt look for other guys or whatever while we are together.....screw him! since i am single.....i will just laid back and wait for a guy to come to me....i hate to chase after a guy that i like....i am sick of it....i love when a guy chase after me and everthing u know? i have been chase after him but odd that he choice me in first place after that i chased after him how idiot i am .....but oh well too bad to him i am single thro .....if he think i cheat on him...since i am single i wud tell him he is the one that cheat on me cuz he have girl with him for 2 weeks not a good pix to see eh? he is a loser anyways

 

[diehardbiker]

Move on, and focus on yourself is the most important action that would lead you to better life. Trust me on that one. Always worked for me. Don't rush on anyone just yet.. Find out what you want for yourself, then pursuit your own dream. Take it easy, your too important to leave the planet!

yea if he cheat on me balls is in his court....i back off cuz once he cheat on me i knew he wud be guilty cuz i didnt do anything wrong to him...all i do is give him alot alot of space that he need....but since u guys said that "silence treatment" it does mean something is going on....and i agree with u guys....i arent going to sit around and wait to find out what it is.....if he want that girl fine...go ahead...cuz he will be big sorry that he lose me....cuz i know that i am innocent and didnt do anything wrong just agrue that it.....i didnt look for other guys or whatever while we are together.....screw him! since i am single.....i will just laid back and wait for a guy to come to me....i hate to chase after a guy that i like....i am sick of it....i love when a guy chase after me and everthing u know? i have been chase after him but odd that he choice me in first place after that i chased after him how idiot i am .....but oh well too bad to him i am single thro .....if he think i cheat on him...since i am single i wud tell him he is the one that cheat on me cuz he have girl with him for 2 weeks not a good pix to see eh? he is a loser anyways

 

[Endymion]

Fei Ku,

I understand what you mean when you say that you still have feelings for him. It's very hard to get over heartbreak. Many people don't and they spend their lives thinking about a love long lost. Charles Dickens' A Tale of Two Cities ends with a man who loves a woman so much that he is executed by guillotine so he can save a different man she loves.

Many people do heal too. You can do the same, just give it time. It takes a while. I think you will be fine, you seem like you have the toughness and resolve for it.

Remember I told you to never settle and to pick a man you deserve? Always remember that. I hope your new crush on Alldeaf is an awesome gentleman who will treat you right (who is he...? Shh. I won't tell!).

 

[fei ku]

Fei Ku,

I understand what you mean when you say that you still have feelings for him. It's very hard to get over heartbreak. Many people don't and they spend their lives thinking about a love long lost. Charles Dickens' A Tale of Two Cities ends with a man who loves a woman so much that he is executed by guillotine so he can save a different man she loves.

Many people do heal too. You can do the same, just give it time. It takes a while. I think you will be fine, you seem like you have the toughness and resolve for it.

Remember I told you to never settle and to pick a man you deserve? Always remember that. I hope your new crush on Alldeaf is an awesome gentleman who will treat you right (who is he...? Shh. I won't tell!).

thanks....yea i know i will be fine ...actually the fact is i feel little better heh since u guys gave me advice and i have been thinking abt it for while and i do agree with u guys....(actually i like two guys :Oops: ) hehe

 

[Gemtun]

Hon, you are now learning that there are two types of men out there - jerks and non-jerks.

Every one of us have gone through some kind of horrible experience with jerks but I am telling you that it is not the end of world. You WILL meet a nice mature man who will adore, respect, love, and care for you. Remember the saying - we have to kiss many frogs before finding that Prince? - it does ring true even though it may seem cliquish.

Keep your head up HIGH and march on - know that you are a better woman without him! Who needs a such immature and childish man who does a silent treatment and makes you feel as if you were the one who did anything wrong, not him?

Be glad you are without him.

Feel sorry for his new women - they will put up with his crap, not you!

 

[fei ku]

Hon, you are now learning that there are two types of men out there - jerks and non-jerks.

Every one of us have gone through some kind of horrible experience with jerks but I am telling you that it is not the end of world. You WILL meet a nice mature man who will adore, respect, love, and care for you. Remember the saying - we have to kiss many frogs before finding that Prince? - it does ring true even though it may seem cliquish.

Keep your head up HIGH and march on - know that you are a better woman without him! Who needs a such immature and childish man who does a silent treatment and makes you feel as if you were the one who did anything wrong, not him.

Be glad you are without him.

Feel sorry for his new women - they will put up with his crap, not you!

yayay UR RIGHT!!!!!!! i felt pityful for that new girl.....yea i think i shud go off without him thro.....he will be :Owned: one day lol

 

[sequoias]

Fei Ku, don't worry about him. He will be screwed up big time, trust me. I already knew he will screw you over because most of the time "bad boys" don't change and do the same thing over and over. The best thing is to move on and find a amazing guy in your dreams and take your time, also. You got plenty of time to find a new guy.

 

[WhisperHorse]

let me tell u what happen.....

it was during thanksgiving i went to visit in PA to see my boyfriend....at one night when he was sleeping somehow in my guts urge me to look at his sidekick 2 (i know i arent suppose to do that) and end up saw girl sent him a nude pix of her a few nude pix include close up pussy.....i was like freak out by that in silence until my boyfriend woke up and i just gave him sidekick and quietly went upstair and cried abt it....then he came upstair and cuddle with me then next day....i nagged him a little abt that girl...her name is dulce...we agrued abt her a little bit...i sorta of nagged him for while until i came back home from PA we got into BIGGEST agruement abt her....i yelled at him why did he save that pix for??? he said that dulce sent it to him and asked him for his opintion which one is best for art class u know pose...i told him that i dont believe him and i think it is full of bullshit and i said that why did dulce choice him not other guys so obvious she do like him...he got mad abt it and wont speak to me for 7 days i got heartbroken that he wont talk to me....dec 1 to 7 not talk to me until dec 8th finally talk to me until dec 9 at night time he stop talked to me...cuz the way i sound different...u know in scare talk...not in flirty talk or anything he dont like it so he stopped talk to me because of that...i cant help it i mean i am afraid to lose him....i dont know what he really want from me....soo my mom and he talked and plus he talked to thomas one of my good friend the same story...my mom asked him 3 important questions....one is do he love me and he said yes and 2 is do he still want to stay with me and he said yes and 3 is...if he and i break up my mom wud like to talk with him as friend still and he said that we arent break up and he is put our relationship on hold...i was like wtf? soo at that night right after he done talk with thomas and my mom....he deleted my pix and comment abt me in his myspace.com i was so shocked when i saw that then for while he put a love away msg (the same one that belong to me) and this time it is for girl name is hyzul....i was so heartbroken...she is from CA and she will stay in PA for 2 weeks with him!!! well after i found out that he like other girl...i got heartbroken slightly so for while i felt little better and think positive and move on....but still keep my guard up until recently yesterday i found out who hyzul is i found her in myspace.com and i got worse heartbroken two things i found are that my boyfriend (or ex) said "cant wait to see u in few weeks" and she said "happy holiday much love!" but both of them are single....(abt his "single" in myspace...it has been like that since we were sweetheart nothing change) he havent talk to me for 3 weeks now.....last time i told him was "happy merry christmas and new year" and he didnt response me back why is he treat me like a crap!? why is he still give me a silence treatment!? why me???? if other people see wonderful abt me and everything why cant he see it abt me too??? after i saw hyzul in myspace.com i cried and today i still cry ...in my heart....i still do love him i am trying to move on but hard to do that....since he is not talk to me for 3 weeks i assume that i am single now cuz he didnt say that we are break up or anything just silence and plus he didnt give me much choice soo i just decided to be single....if he talk to me again....(my mom said he will for sure all i have to do is stay offline then it will make him wonder what happen to me since my mom have experience with those stuffs) i dont know what will happen after he talk to me again....i want him to feel my pain for what i have been thro by his stupid silence of treatment!!!!! I WANT HIM TO FEEL MY PAIN FOR WHAT HE HAVE DONE TO ME!!!!!!!!!! *sighs* can u guys tell me what shud i do??? how can i get thro this shit??? any advice or whatever u have in your mind...pls do tell me...i apprecation that thanks!!!!!!!

I do understand how your painful are with him because I felt that before when I dated with my first true and serious love, Troy. He dumped me for another girl also he cheated on me and even he left me behind with his baby in my stomach but miscarriaged, you knew what happened abt him and me. I'd been waiting and waiting for him to return back with me becuase I loved him.. Until I met few guys to dating with but I turned them down, I realized why did I turn them down and had to getting my ass dow2n and waiting for him for nothing? I decided to move on to tating with guys until Troy showed up without I expect that and he asked me to come back and I looked in his eyes and said you want me back? And he said oh yeah! And I was like.. *ahems* excuse me, my love for you are fade now, I'd been waiting for you longer time and it is ENOUGH... I should let you come back with me? I dont think so... He got upset and gone, never hear from him again since.. Why not you do that same thing as I did with Troy? Because it DID make him realize that Im good woman for him... Gordon will realize ALSO... Men realize that they make miskates with good women like all of us! They will apologize big time.. Same thing with women who will make realize with good men... Just let Gordon go and date with that girl, whatever he want to.. I dont want to seeing you to be with him right after what he DID to you. It make me feeling sick... We never know if he have sex with her, such like that... Ewww.... You should find another man or one of your two crushes which I knew who to try be with... Maybe they or a man that we dont know who OR knew who in out of the world that you find and he is your right guy... We will find out in one day, just dont rush your time and just let love and guy come up to you.. Remember, I will be right here for you no matter what it is EVEN if Im in desert or on the island in nowhere, I will be always there for you no matter what it is.. Just email me or text me or im me or calling to getting my attention then I will be there all of sudden... I love you as my wonderful friend!

 

[FreeWoman77]

fei-ku, what if he ask for forgive wants to be with u back, would u forgive him if u love or still feel for him? everyone makes mistake

 

[fei ku]

fei-ku, what if he ask for forgive wants to be with u back, would u forgive him if u love or still feel for him? everyone makes mistake

that is goody question....i wud forgive him ofc....but be with him...i dont know what will happen in future soo hard to tell right now but actually i wud like to be his friend...for now....if possible....cuz of what he did to me .....my heart is "numb" i mean no pain only need is love a true love to love me and treat me right....i mean i cried my heart out yesterday and today...soo since it all out in that tears drop that carry all of my pains...now i am all numb just need a true love....cuz being in love is wonderful feeling to me....it make me want to fly and dance in the light....just too WONDERFUL feeling.....i love to being in love....ofc personality is important that i love the most.....just that i need a guy who love me for who i am no matter what my clothes style or whatever important is personality i hate to be enemy with any of my exs it not worth to hate each other.....i just want to have peace btw us....soo....i bet that when he talk to me again we will have a big serious talk since he gave me that damn silence treatment! geez!!!!! soo honest i dont know the answer if we will be back together or not....sometime i want to sometime i dont want to hard to tell actually but being friend wud be nice better than being enemy with each other only if he accpect being my friend that it

 

[Gemtun]

that is goody question....i wud forgive him ofc....but be with him...i dont know what will happen in future soo hard to tell right now but actually i wud like to be his friend...for now....if possible....cuz of what he did to me .....my heart is "numb" i mean no pain only need is love a true love to love me and treat me right....i mean i cried my heart out yesterday and today...soo since it all out in that tears drop that carry all of my pains...now i am all numb just need a true love....cuz being in love is wonderful feeling to me....it make me want to fly and dance in the light....just too WONDERFUL feeling.....i love to being in love....ofc personality is important that i love the most.....just that i need a guy who love me for who i am no matter what my clothes style or whatever important is personality i hate to be enemy with any of my exs it not worth to hate each other.....i just want to have peace btw us....soo....i bet that when he talk to me again we will have a big serious talk since he gave me that damn silence treatment! geez!!!!! soo honest i dont know the answer if we will be back together or not....sometime i want to sometime i dont want to hard to tell actually but being friend wud be nice better than being enemy with each other only if he accpect being my friend that it

Errm.....why would you actually want to be friends with a guy who treated you badly? We all dont have to be friends with our exes, especially if they treated us badly. Some exes are worth being friends if parted on amicable terms.

Why would you want to subject yourself to more torture? Why even want to have a talk when hes given you a silent treatment?

It is none of my beeswax but I guess I just cant understand why some people would even give a jerk another moment of her or his time and try to remain friends after such callous treatment.