What would you do in this situation?

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Let's say there's a vacancy at a residential house, and one day that vacancy was filled, and the new person is a woman.

Now, I don't believe in messing around before marriage, but this woman appears to have a very high interest in me, and that could be a problem. What would you do?
 
Well, you could always just make friends. If she just moved in you might not want to jump to paranoia that's she's going to try to jump your bones because she made eye contact and said hi. Or whatever.

I'd also put this thread in the relationship section.
 
And how do I do that? I'm only looking for general advice, not love-- yet, anyways.
 
I'm not sure if you were interested in that person.

Talk. Talk. Try to see if this person is going to be a permanent resident or is this temporary? I do agree to take time. I would hate to see it end badly with a roommate.
 
markengland29 said:
And how do I do that? I'm only looking for general advice, not love-- yet, anyways.
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Well, you could ask the mods to move it, or you can just remember for next time. You created 40 threads in a couple weeks I'm sure there will be a next time. A friendship is also a relationship.
 
What do you mean by "residential house?" Is it a place where people have their own locking apartments, or a common residence like a home?

If an apartment, lock your door and ignore her if not interested.

If a common house , consider moving to a place with more privacy if you have no say in who lives there.
 
I'm not sure, either, but I can tell you for certain that she has a lot of energy, and that's the kind of thing I am on the lookout for when it comes to women who are looking for relationships or just looking for something else.
 
It's actually a common house, and if I could move, I would, but the prices for an apartment around here are way too high.
 
Why do you think she's interested? What has she said/done? I've had problems with guys thinking I was interested just because I didn't tell them to piss off the second I saw them.

No offense, but you seem socially awkward, things may not be what they appear to be to you. So....what makes you think this?
 
I'm not socially awkward-- it's just that I'm leery of certain things that I've heard of in the past, and I want to be careful to not fall in one of those traps. I go out of the house all the time, and I chat with people. And as for offending me, none taken. I understand where you're coming from. As for what she's done, she showed me a lot of interest, and that put me on high alert-- I am somewhat likable for ladies, and I do not know why.
 
Ok how did she show high interest. Seriously I'm not fully convinced you haven't misinterpreted the situation and making much ado about nothing. Maybe you're right, or maybe you need a woman's perspective. Humor me.
 
Actually, it turns out I may have-- a friend is telling me some info right now. I think she showed interest because possibly I lived here longer than she did? And not only that, I found out some info I didn't need to know about, so that's the end of that.
 
You may be feeling some infatuation towards her, but from my point of view, a good sign is if she starts talking to you, you may want to facilitate some small talk on your part. . But if you only glanced at her, don't immediately assume she's interested.
 
markengland29 said:
Let's say there's a vacancy at a residential house, and one day that vacancy was filled, and the new person is a woman.

Now, I don't believe in messing around before marriage, but this woman appears to have a very high interest in me, and that could be a problem. What would you do?
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Why could this be a problem to you and what make you think the woman so hot for you? I would get to know the woman before worrying about this, and take a cold shower before talking to her if you think there 'could a problem' .
 
Well, it turns out I jumped the gun a little bit, but I'm still on high alert, though, but not with her, though.
 
markengland29 said:
Let's say there's a vacancy at a residential house, and one day that vacancy was filled, and the new person is a woman.

Now, I don't believe in messing around before marriage, but this woman appears to have a very high interest in me, and that could be a problem. What would you do?
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nada *shrug*

keep it strictly business.
 
markengland29 said:
Well, it turns out I jumped the gun a little bit, but I'm still on high alert, though, but not with her, though.
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High alert? :hmm:

Just remember, you have a tendency to misread communication cues (you told us), so think before you leap.

That is, don't make any assumptions. Some people are simply outgoing and friendly with people in general. It's not always an invitation to romance.

Just be pleasant back, and don't read any deep meanings into anything.
 
Rule of thumb - outgoing and friendly hmmm wait and see... not so friendly intent on her tasks basically ignoring you... wait for a chance to be nice and then give her another chance to realize someone is being nice.
 
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