wat wud u do if you're me?

The*Empress

The*Empress

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I have Treacher Collins Syndrome and I am 34.
And if a man wants to love me... and marry me,
and want to have children with me.

But doctors said I will have 50% chance of having
a TCS baby.

What would you do if you are me?

Would you marry that guy?
Would you dump that guy?
Would you adopt children?
Would you try have children?
Would you have an abortion if unborn child have TCS?


And because of my bad negative attitude....
if you are me, what would you do to change that attitude?

Would you find a way to be positive?
Make friends with everybody?
Or what? :ugh2:
 
I would marry that guy...

I don't believe in 50 - 50 in relationship

I would try my best to please him...
because most of the time I am a people pleaser...

I don't argue, I just do it.

Just like I am taking care of my nephew's puppy,
I hate picking up poop everyday in the back yard, yuck.

And if he wants kids, I'll try my best to raise them.

And I don't care about presents and roses.
 
i think adopting a child is a good idea. you'll be giving a child a loving home that he didn't have.
 
If you know you'll be a good mother and can have all the time for the child whenever the child needs you, then you can adopt one..
 
If I were you, I would work on my self-esteem more and learn to love myself than I can love another and have a positive attitude toward others around me...

So if you were to find someone to have a relationship with or to have children, then the important thing is that you would need to take care of yourself FIRST before you can take care of others....
 
^Angel^ said:
If I were you, I would work on my self-esteem more and learn to love myself than I can love another and have a positive attitude toward others around me...

So if you were to find someone to have a relationship with or to have children, then the important thing is that you would need to take care of yourself FIRST before you can take care of others....
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:werd: Building self esteem is the key for a better life. All the nagging needs to stop. You need to take that time to help yourself Miss P. Nobody can help you, only you can. So, make that goal on your wishing list. ;)
 
MissP, dear, you have to learn how to love yourself first before you can love another person. Before you can even think to have a child, a big responsibility, you have to take care of a puppy the proper way, which is picking up after its' poop, feeding it properly and so on. If you can't take care of a puppy, you can't take care of a baby. To love yourself first wholeheartedly, TCS and all, you can love a baby. To love yourself is to stop all the attention-seeking, nitpicking and baiting other people.
 
:gpost: @ CookieMonster!! I agree 100% of what she stated above! ....


We're not trying to make you look bad Miss P, we all have had our share of mistakes from time to time but we learn by those mistakes and become a better person....

:hug:
 
^Angel^ said:
:gpost: @ CookieMonster!! I agree 100% of what she stated above! ....


We're not trying to make you look bad Miss P, we all have had our share of mistakes from time to time but we learn by those mistakes and become a better person....

:hug:
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Exactly, Angel. We all learn from our mistakes and we learn from our personal growths. We can recollect from the personal growths and say "Wow, what a big difference from the past to now!" We all can safely say we appreciate who we are now from the past. :hug:

You will love yourself MissP, you owe it to yourself to stop the negative seeking patterns to allow for us to see the real character of MissP.
 
Hun don't let the thought that your child MIGHT have your problem stop you from having children. I'm legally physically disabled and there is a chance my children could have it. But it's JUST that a chance. EVERYONE deserves happiness and a family no MATTER their problems.

You need to work on your self esteem I agree but I also think you just need to realize you are JUST as GREAT a person as everyone else. And you would make a WONDERFUL mother and probably a better mother then some people who do not have problems because you'd understand things at a deeper level
 
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Miss Pinocchio already proved she is taking an excellent care of her nephew puppy, she is now doing w/o grumbling (complain) the most disgusting job there is with a dog,
and if she can do that to somebody's pet imagine how great she would be with her own!

I am not worried about Miss P being a mother. No one is prepared how to be a mother, (or a father), NO ONE.
This is something we learn on the go. A lot of it depends the way we were raised ourselves- we mostly copy what our parents did to us.

MissP you say you don't believe in 50-5O relationship.
Why not, MissP, you are as important and respectable as everyone, you are NOT anybody's servant, please remember that.
What you give you should receive back and more, sweetie.

Whenever I read your posts Miss Pinocchio I see you are very intelligent, articulate and you know a lot. Why underestimate yourself? Please don't think you don't deserve loving and caring partner because you DO! - everyone does.

One more thing to consider about "this pleasing your man" thing.
That's generous, but there should be "pleasing my woman", too. Also, it's important to take under consideration that unfortunate things may happen of we have no way of knowing but we can sort of "predict".
For example husbands die, they walk away, they turn out to be irresponsible babies themselves- c*ap happens.
What will you do Miss P in (God forbid) such unfortunate circumstances, alone Miss P with a baby of your own?
Will you be able to take care of it by yourself?
You probably would - I am just saying please do not think at marriage as only "I'll do what he wants" because marriage affects you in every way too and especcially as a mother you'll need all the support and love you'll ever need...

Do not sell yourself short MissP.

Fuzzy

ps Miss Pinocchio this is probably stupid question- but have you joinded any TCS forums?
 
What is Treacher Collins Syndrome? Miss P...care to tell us as maybe some
of us might be in the dark as to what this syndrome is....i have never heard
of it..Thanks...Smile! Miss P.
 
There is a plenty about TCS on Google.

But Miss Pinocchio, have you ever been re-tested to confirm whether or not you have this gene?

Fuzzy
 
If I were you, I quit feeling sorry for myself just because of TCS. Your self-pity is bringing you down....and other people notice it.
 
yeah I joined TCS forum. But they only helped parents who
have TCS children, answer their medical question.

It isn't like AllDeaf forum, which talk about general stuff.

No I haven't re test to confirm if I do have TCS...
but I am afraid
 
I see Miss Pinocchio. Perhaps you could create a forum like this for TCS?

Fuzzy
 
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