The Living Will?...

[KristinaB]

What really bothers me is that if you have to change doctors for some reason, then you have to get a whole new living will. Also, if you move and change states, then again a new living will. We've been going through this with my mother and the hard part is, her dementia wasn't this bad when we left Missouri, but now, she doesn't understand and has to have yet another new one.

 

[diehardbiker]

It depends on how you write the living will, you could be either be very specific or very general. So, if you are tad specifies about doctors, etc then your going to have headache.

I would just prefer assign my wife making decision for me, so I am leaving all decisions making on her.

What really bothers me is that if you have to change doctors for some reason, then you have to get a whole new living will. Also, if you move and change states, then again a new living will. We've been going through this with my mother and the hard part is, her dementia wasn't this bad when we left Missouri, but now, she doesn't understand and has to have yet another new one.

 

[Bebonang]

What really bothers me is that if you have to change doctors for some reason, then you have to get a whole new living will. Also, if you move and change states, then again a new living will. We've been going through this with my mother and the hard part is, her dementia wasn't this bad when we left Missouri, but now, she doesn't understand and has to have yet another new one.

I don't think you need not to worry about changing her living will. It is up to her to decide what she want to do on her life. If she does not want the machine to make her breath or if she is having pains so bad that you have to let her go. If she want to continue living in spite of her pains, then that would be her decision, not yours or your husband. Even if she or you move her would not change the living will if her living will remain the same. What would happen if her family members like her sisters, brothers and other loving family members want to keep her living when she only want to be let go? That is the purpose of writing the living will without the fuss or argument over her.

 

[Bebonang]

It depends on how you write the living will, you could be either be very specific or very general. So, if you are tad specifies about doctors, etc then your going to have headache.

I would just prefer assign my wife making decision for me, so I am leaving all decisions making on her.

As for you, diehardbiker, you may have the only person who is your wife to tell other family members but if they are against your wife's words about what you want to live or not to live. They would take up against your wife's word. So it is better if you just write and sign your name in your living will to let other family members know that you mean seriously. You don't want your wife to go to court and have all the family members make an argument or a big fuss over you? I hope you get the picture what I am talking about.

 

[Reba]

What really bothers me is that if you have to change doctors for some reason, then you have to get a whole new living will. Also, if you move and change states, then again a new living will. We've been going through this with my mother and the hard part is, her dementia wasn't this bad when we left Missouri, but now, she doesn't understand and has to have yet another new one.

Is that a law that is peculiar to your state? TCS and I have living wills, and they don't specify any doctors by name, or any restrictions to state. I never heard of making new ones unless the person's end of life desires change.

 

[Reba]

...So it is better if you just write and sign your name in your living will to let other family members know that you mean seriously. You don't want your wife to go to court and have all the family members make an argument or a big fuss over you? I hope you get the picture what I am talking about.

True, I agree. Also, by leaving the decision with family members, that's a huge burden to pass on to them. There's also the possibility that you both could be in one accident at the same time, leaving no one available for making a decision.

It's a lot to think about.

 

[Bebonang]

True, I agree. Also, by leaving the decision with family members, that's a huge burden to pass on to them. There's also the possibility that you both could be in one accident at the same time, leaving no one available for making a decision.

It's a lot to think about.

Then you might as well make copies of the living will that you have wrote and sign up so that you can give them all your living wills to your family members to help them remembered to respect your wishes. That way when there was an accident like you and your husband, the family members will do what you wish to live or to end your life.

Make copies.