The BEST Christmas gift ever!!!

:tears: :gpost: Hope you keep in touch with your real family , no matter what happens Good or bad. :thumb: :) :) :type: :angel: :fingersx:
 
That's good you finally met your real family.

Sorry to hear about your bio-mother passed away, and hope Alicia will show you plenty of photos of your Mother to see if you looks like as her or your 4 sisters.

Its important to remember your adopted family is your family.
 
Bewitched said:
Thanks!!! I have heard few stories about adopted parents did not tell their children that they were adopted. Some children were mad or they were accepting that they were adopted. As for me, it is easy to know that I am adopted because I am mexican and my adopted parents are white. All of my siblings are adopted. (nine children are adopted) My parents were very honest with us about our parents. My dad told me a story that he was my birth mother's doctor. I felt so honored by having him as her doctor.

I know you are scared. Maybe you shouldn't be scared anymore after you tell your son the truth? I m just tryin' to help. :)
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Ahh I see that nine children are adopted. Yea I assume that being scared is normal, isn't it?
Sorry for off-topic, I was bit curious, since you have brothers and sisters (adoption), do you feel relate to them as being your real brothers and sisters ? I have been thinking about adopt another child but sometimes I feel bit worried cuz sometimes I am afraid that my son would feel left over or not wanting to have any sisters or brothers. Hes 4 going on 40 heh anyway will be 5 next July...

Back on-topic, I am seeing few of AD members who are adopted.
 
PurrMeow said:
Ahh I see that nine children are adopted. Yea I assume that being scared is normal, isn't it?
Sorry for off-topic, I was bit curious, since you have brothers and sisters (adoption), do you feel relate to them as being your real brothers and sisters ? I have been thinking about adopt another child but sometimes I feel bit worried cuz sometimes I am afraid that my son would feel left over or not wanting to have any sisters or brothers. Hes 4 going on 40 heh anyway will be 5 next July...

Back on-topic, I am seeing few of AD members who are adopted.
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Hiya Purr meow,


Ok.... thats a very interesting question. Yes, I do feel that they were my real brothers and sisters because of our parents have taught us a lot of love and encouraged us to love one another. Knowing that I am mexican but I dont feel that I am mexican. I feel that I am like my parents (who are white) and I have five siblings are white and 3 of my other siblings are mexican/indian. So honestly, I couldn't tell that I was different and I feel like we are ONE. Because of love at home. It is important for parents who give a lot of example of love, kind, sharing and patience. So the children could learn from each other. That s what I have learned. I love my adopted brothers and sisters. I know that I am theirs forever.

I remember a lady who was going to adopted african american baby and she asked me " I am WHITE! How can he knows I am his mother? What am I supposed to do?" I told her that to tell the truth...and tell him that you love him. It is important to let him know where he comes from and what is his background. Maybe take him to cultural activities for african american. My adopted mother always takes me places that defines my ancestors/ethnicity. It was nice to know who I was even though I never knew where I was coming from until now. So just give your adopted child a lot of love, honesty and respect for their background so that they wont be very confused about themselves. Hope I made myself sense! haha.

Remember to add that to your son, "your mother loves you and she was unselfish enough to give you a better home...." my mother told me that and I knew that my bio mother did the right thing. After talking to my sister, and she was explaining to me that my birth mother was no good shape to have me because she was addicted to drugs and I don't think she could have handle well because I was born deaf.... you know?

I know that my birth sisters are so excited to meet me and I know that they will always be part of me and I will always be part of them not as close as my adopted family.
 
Update: the best birthday ever!!!

Hello!!! Here is a part two story!!!



So... finally my sisters and I agreed to meet on February 11th, my 2nd sister, thought it would be better if my sisters and their husbands would come down here to see me so that I wouldn't be so overwheming at the first meeting to meet the W H O L E family. Sure enough, yesterday was very overwhelming experience!!! I was so scared that they wouldn't like mmmee!! or I wouldn't like them!! It was very scary moment!!!

When they arrived at my friend's house, I saw their van. I told Stephanie (my friend) "Steph, you go and answer the door!" She said, "NO!!! YOU!!" then she pointed at my husband," Danny, you do it!!" I agreed, "Yeah!!!! You do it!" We were doing that for a few seconds. Then I gave up, "Danny, you and I do it together!" He agreed. As we walked together to the front door, we saw 3 beautiful sisters (I have four, but one of them couldn't make it!) two of their husbands, and my nephew, (12 yrs old). He is so adorrrable!!!! Hehe. It was very emotional moment. We sat down and ate lunch. Then my older sister, was carrying a scrapbook and there was a picture of my birth mother when she was a little girl. I honestly thought it was ME!!!! I was in shock that my birth mother looked like me when I was little! It was amazing!! Then 2nd sister opened the book, she showed me all the pictures of my mother. It was really cool!! I have gotten to know my mother better. She was truly a beautiful lady. All of my life, I have wondered what she looked like and I always knew she was a beautiful lady! It was incredible!!! So we talked and laughed. I asked my sisters about my birth father. I learned that my birth father had no idea about me. I doubt he knows about me. Hopefully I will meet him someday! When the timing will be right! So about 6pm, they came with us to Community Center for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing for the fundraiser. I don't know how they feel about it! I guess I have to ask! I bet it was different environment for them but great one! My boss, my closest friends and my old interpreters have met them. Some of them or some of you should be honor to meet them before my adopted family. I am sure they felt so welcome when some deaf people came to us. My husband and I love them already!! We can't wait to see them again in two weeks (I hope!). Now I am working on my scrapbook to show them my life. It is soo exciting!! I know I am soo overwhelmed with this experience. I honestly never thought it would happen to me. It is the best birthday present ever! So,. ahh... so... I dunno what I am supposed to say. Well, I will share some more later. Remember, my birth family are wonderful so is my adopted family. I couldn't ask for replacing my adopted family. They are my life and they are my guidance angels! So if you wanna ask about my families, just ask away!!! aahhh!!! :)


(more info, if you know myspace.com/(name) if you dont....try to find 'em! hehehe or pm me.
 
Pleased to know you had a special birthday to see your family get together.
 
Bewitched,

Honestly, I'm happy-tears.. r u wrote whole thing what happend and etc etc issues update..
Melts my heart.. I'm very happy for you big time because to get them know more better and one day you'll meet birth dad. As same me, I've search my birth Dad and hopefully one day will come found him soon..
Wishes you good luck as same me2.. *smiling*~:)
 
I didn't notice it until today for a first time...

It's beautiful thread, I ever read... It touch my heart after read your lovely post how you describe your feel about reunion your real parents...


I'm really happy for you because you are happy... :hug:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I didn't notice it until today for a first time...

It's beautiful thread, I ever read... It touch my heart after read your lovely post how you describe your feel about reunion your real parents...


I'm really happy for you because you are happy... :hug:
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Thanks!!! Uhm I never met my real parents. My real mom passed away two years ago. I met my 3 sisters, bro in laws and one nephew. Pretty soon, I will be meeting everyone, including cousins, aunts and uncles. Also great niece!! crazy!!! Hehe. I am somewhat still grieving for my real mother's death because all of my life I dreamt of meeting her...now I don't get the opportunity to get that fortunately, meeting her daughters and her family are just perfect for me. I am cloud 9 about meeting them. My husband loves them.... as we love our adopted families.

AH...thanks!


P.s. just learned that my real father has no idea about me. Someday I will find a courage to meet him. My 'real' aunt knows where he is now. So.. it s kind of weird for me now. Ya know? :hug:
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Bewitched,

Honestly, I'm happy-tears.. r u wrote whole thing what happend and etc etc issues update..
Melts my heart.. I'm very happy for you big time because to get them know more better and one day you'll meet birth dad. As same me, I've search my birth Dad and hopefully one day will come found him soon..
Wishes you good luck as same me2.. *smiling*~:)
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GOOOOD LUCKKK!!!!! :hug: :hug:
 
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