Tcs

[The*Empress]

Roadrunner, you can remove the posts now.....
or you can put some in here.
Sorry about that Downings.

From Silva....

I am going to give you one simple pop quiz question...MISS P...

Earlier in this thread you told everyone that My therapist told me today to hug everyone. is that correct?

WOULD YOU HUG A GAY PERSON?

As you know, NOT every gay parents will screw up the child's life, even straight parents screw kid's life as well just like you say your cousin told her grandmom not to come in class with rollers in her hair. SIMPLE ANSWER: everyone screw up sometimes, no one perfect. Just like YOU, YOU just got TCS and going through hard times and not have a easy life include your opinions. I have one perfect example for you Miss P.

LET PRETEND THIS by put your shoes in this child's life with tcs since you have one, and let say YOUR father have TCS with lot of love and you are closer to father more than mother but your mother is an normal person, WHO would you pick as IF they let you choose your parents to live with. IF they dont give you choices and they decide to put you in with an parents you dont really want to live with, what will you do?

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Yeah I would hug a gay person.

I would hope that the Judge would grant this ruling...

Let me spend holidays, summer and weekends with my father who have TCS.
And let me spend the rest of the days with my mother.

But if the father is irresponsible and not loving, then I would rather
stay with mother.

But if the mother is irresponsible and not loving, then I would rather
stay with father.

But if both father and mother are not responsible and not loving, then
I hope that there is a good home for me...

But anyway... I have never learn about a parent with disfigurement, or I never seen a parent with no arm or leg to come pick up the child from school.
It would be a great experience, if I have a normal child...
I want to know what it is like to pick up my child from school...
and see how many friends my child will have... will she/he
be popular or not?

 

[Cheri]

But anyway... I have never learn about a parent with disfigurement, or I never seen a parent with no arm or leg to come pick up the child from school.
It would be a great experience, if I have a normal child...
I want to know what it is like to pick up my child from school...
and see how many friends my child will have... will she/he
be popular or not?

Well, Miss Pinocchio

I am going to be honest with you, Parents should be teaching their own children to respect others and treat them the way you want to be treat, no matter how different they look. I tell both of my boys the same thing. If I find out they bullied or picked on someone that looks different from them, I will be very disappointing and they are aware of that. I hate the idea of a child being hurt just because a child looks different from the rest of the children in school, I won't and am not going to put up with that. I have seen one child at my son's school which my son told me that he was bullied a lot at his school and I asked him did that boy reported the children who bullied on him? He said he doesn't know, That one time I told him to show me which boy whom was bullied by other children.(He was a big kid I can see why they made fun of him) *Shaking my head* I went up to him and told him, I heard what those children did to you, Don't let them get to you, and I gave him a hug and he just looked surprised! His mother and I talk every time We are there to pick up our children, She have told me how many times she had broke down when her son comes home upset about children at school making fun of him. I told her why don't you tell the principal how you feel and I am sure they will do something about it. She did from that day forward he wasn't picked on anymore. It's very important to listen to your child and stand up for your child because children developed a lot of emotion from stress receiving from other kids that make fun of them. It can lead to commit suicide or run away from home or etc. If you have a child some days, Even if the child looks like you, So what. Don't let them run your child out of school, Don't let them win. Fight back and let them stop.

 

[The*Empress]

if my child look like me, I will take your advice, thank you.

 

[Tikra]

right on cheri i do agree...

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Yes, I´m agree with Cheri totally.

I do the same with my boys. I teach my sons to not judge/bitching/bully anyone.

 

[downing]

I would teach my boys the same thing. I would teach them to respect other people even they may have disabilities or not. Like in wheelchair or downs or anything. My oldest son did play with a boy who had Downs Sydrome, he was ten years old and my son is only three. he just accepted who he was, my son did not ask me what was wrong with him. THis downs sydrome boy was deaf and didn't talk much. I am proud but i know my boy is little too young to see the difference. I would like to exposure my boys to any disabilities. WHich is one reason we are going to deaf convention this May 14th so Elias can be exposured to many deaf ppl and try to encourgage him to use signs. if he is too shy, fine with me.

I did look up a good link about a girl who had TCS, I didn't realize it was genetic thing, meaning you have 50-50 percent chance passing to the children if you wanted some of your own.

If you dont mind me being so blunt here, I know you have TCS, is TCS difficult to have by medically?...by going thru sugeries and all to have trachemony or have your pathway open for air passage, and all?

I totally agree with Cheri's post....

 

[Cheri]

Children do ask a lot of questions, And I don't see anything wrong with them curious what happen to that person. If the children have Downs Syndrome, or etc. Sometimes children are curious and wondering why., And I just explain to them they were born that way,(caused by abnormal cell) But, they are no different than "you" nor "I". I do tell them not to scare at them long because it makes them feel uncomfortable, because "they might think that you are looking at them differently."


I'm glad to see parents/soon to be parents in the nearest future in here agreeing to teach our children to respect others and treat them equally. That does make me happy to see that really!Thanks!

 

[The*Empress]

Sad news


Brock student dies at party

By Vivian Thomas
Published: Tuesday, March 15, 2005



Mike Holmes, a theatre student at Brock University and a friend to many, passed away early Saturday morning due to a tragic accident that took place at a cast party celebrating the final performance of Troy, a play in which he performed Friday evening.

According to Francine McCarthy, an associate professor of earth sciences and of great books/liberal studies at Brock, and a close family friend, Holmes\' death was partly caused by alcohol and partly caused by the malfunction of an accessory worn by Holmes to help with a craniofacial birth defect called Treacher Collins Syndrome (TCS) which is characterized by a range of facial anomalies which can cause problems with hearing, breathing and eating. The accessory is a tracheostomy (trach), which is a hollow tube that is inserted in the neck into the airway to help with breathing.

Holmes had been having difficulty breathing during the party, and went into the bathroom, where he collapsed.

"Other people at the party noticed that he had not come out of the bathroom," said McCarthy.

"They tried to resuscitate him, but it is very difficult, even for an expert, to do CPR with someone who has a trach ... but they called 911 and by the time the paramedics got there ... there was nothing more they could do. It\'s just a freak accident."

On Monday morning in the theatre department, a mournful group of students constantly referred to Holmes as someone who was vital in "bringing people together" because he was a friend to so many people and was actively involved in campus life.

According to McCarthy, Holmes was best known for "not having to let his disability define him and taking on all sorts of challenges, even those you might think unlikely, making people comfortable with his disability and not making you feel awkward about it."

"He was involved in rowing. He was quite a competitive rower in high school," said McCarthy. "He did a lot of amateur film making and cartoon drawing and things like that. He really loved video games and just really, really enjoyed campus life. His time at Brock was the best time of his life. Especially in residence where he fit in so well and where he was accepted."

McCarthy said that Holmes lived in residence for his first three years at Brock and that this year, his fourth year, he lived off campus.

"[His birth defect] never, ever got to him," said Natalie Comeau, a fellow drama student. ';paragraph[1] = '"His attitude was as if nothing was different about him at all," she added.

"I was in the scene ... he was doing for [directing class]," said Curtis Thompson, the drama student and friend who found Holmes unconscious early Saturday morning. "He made every rehearsal fun. Sometimes you wake up and you\'re like \'I don\'t want to go to rehearsal,\' but knowing that Mike was there was a plus, because you knew it was going to be fun and you were going to get lots accomplished."

"I\'ve never seen a person almost always happy," he said. "He got stressed, that was the worst ... never mad, angry, depressed, even when life got him down ... he would never let anyone tell him no."

Many Brock students remember Holmes because of his active social life both on and off campus and his excellent dancing skills.

"He went all out," said Thompson. "We went to Montréal for reading week, and we were at this bar ... and the dance floor was entirely empty, and he danced by himself for, like, an hour trying to get these girls\' attention ... I couldn\'t do that. He was an amazing dancer."

Holmes\' death was shocking to family, friends and fellow students at Brock.

"He\'s got a brother and sister slightly younger than him," said McCarthy. "I think his brother is a year and a half [younger] and his sister is three years younger ... They\'re both just out of high school and they\'re competitive rowers as well. They\'ll both probably be going to the Olympics actually ... His mother is at her mother\'s house ... they plan to come down for any memorial type service ... They are all shocked and saddened, but his mother\'s first response to the news of the tragedy ... was her concern towards his brother and sister and how they would deal with it and then after [her concern was for] his friends at Brock because they really were a family."

"It was probably the greatest night of his life too when you think about it," said McCarthy. "He always wanted to have a speaking part [in a play]."


"His attitude was as if nothing was different about him at all," she added.

"I was in the scene ... he was doing for [directing class]," said Curtis Thompson, the drama student and friend who found Holmes unconscious early Saturday morning. "He made every rehearsal fun. Sometimes you wake up and you're like 'I don't want to go to rehearsal,' but knowing that Mike was there was a plus, because you knew it was going to be fun and you were going to get lots accomplished."

"I've never seen a person almost always happy," he said. "He got stressed, that was the worst ... never mad, angry, depressed, even when life got him down ... he would never let anyone tell him no."

Many Brock students remember Holmes because of his active social life both on and off campus and his excellent dancing skills.

"He went all out," said Thompson. "We went to Montréal for reading week, and we were at this bar ... and the dance floor was entirely empty, and he danced by himself for, like, an hour trying to get these girls' attention ... I couldn't do that. He was an amazing dancer."

Holmes' death was shocking to family, friends and fellow students at Brock.

"He's got a brother and sister slightly younger than him," said McCarthy. "I think his brother is a year and a half [younger] and his sister is three years younger ... They're both just out of high school and they're competitive rowers as well. They'll both probably be going to the Olympics actually ... His mother is at her mother's house ... they plan to come down for any memorial type service ... They are all shocked and saddened, but his mother's first response to the news of the tragedy ... was her concern towards his brother and sister and how they would deal with it and then after [her concern was for] his friends at Brock because they really were a family."

"It was probably the greatest night of his life too when you think about it," said McCarthy. "He always wanted to have a speaking part [in a play]."