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[FreeWoman77]

Dear Angel,

That is so True! How do you get Help? How do you get Out? I am too scared to Run. I am with him for 2 years and I am dying Inside. I can't use phone, computer, or any type of communication method without his Permission. I am at Library, which is how I found This Website.

Girls, get out while you Can. It is too Easy to be Trapped. I will try to come back to Library later. Just tell me How to get out Safety.

Your Sincerely,
ScaredGirl

same here I was controlled/brainwashed by husband/stalker/spy/hacker on my emails and conversations on AIM/MSN/YAHOO I am getting sick to death of him even I tried to go in Library to create new accts find rent to move in there alone if he gonna threat u get RO

Angel, same here I was stupid to marry him and stayed with him for 6 yrs when he hit me our first year of marriage, controlling me and more I am unhappy with him i would have been divorced him before, in 6 yrs later he has slept at his friend's, girl, house... :/ during 6 yrs i didnt talk to anyone i felt embarassed hold my chest..

now u'rent stupid u did right time to leave him and met ur beloved RR

 

[dolphlynn]

Dear Angel,

That is so True! How do you get Help? How do you get Out? I am too scared to Run. I am with him for 2 years and I am dying Inside. I can't use phone, computer, or any type of communication method without his Permission. I am at Library, which is how I found This Website.

Girls, get out while you Can. It is too Easy to be Trapped. I will try to come back to Library later. Just tell me How to get out Safety.

Your Sincerely,
ScaredGirl

Here's the number for the National Domestic Hotline:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline:

1-800-799-safe (7233) or tdd (1-800-787-3224)

Good Luck and be safe! I had a friend who was in an abusive relationship and I helped her move out twice but she KEPT going back to him because she loved him. Unfortunately, they're still together after 12 years and apparently he FINALLY got the help he needed. I'm happy that you got the courage to go to this website and ask for help! Not many women can do that (men can be abused too from their wives also).

 

[Angel]

Dear Angel,

That is so True! How do you get Help? How do you get Out? I am too scared to Run. I am with him for 2 years and I am dying Inside. I can't use phone, computer, or any type of communication method without his Permission. I am at Library, which is how I found This Website.

Girls, get out while you Can. It is too Easy to be Trapped. I will try to come back to Library later. Just tell me How to get out Safety.

Your Sincerely,
ScaredGirl

Hello ScaredGirl,


I'll be honest with you, it wasn't easy getting out of that abusive marriage is because I have three children by him, and I also made a promise to stick with the marriage vows for better and for worse, even when the shoveling, hitting, kicking, choking was going on in the household even in front of my children, what I did is I learned about God, and start having faith in Him, as He has helped me grow stronger, given me the strength and courage to stand up and ask for a divorce which I did, that was the last beaten I got that day before he walked out....


I'm still here and very much alive, it's been 3 years since the divorce has been final, and from that day on, I've never been this much happy...I still live with my three children and in a new relationship with a gentleman who shows me what LOVE really is....I finally have a second chance by being able to feel love again, and even it took me awhile to get used to this new relationship, but I learned that not all men are alike....


I know you are scared hon, and don't know what will happen once you do leave, but the more you stay there, the more u know you might not make it out alive, for your sake, please call the The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-safe (7233) or tdd (1-800-787-3224) and do not think for a second that you will not make it out alive if you do leave, they will do anything to make sure you are safe and out of danger....


Please do keep us post on how things are going with you and I will say a prayer for you girl and I pray that you will have strength and the will to leave him...

 

[Angel]

Angel, same here I was stupid to marry him and stayed with him for 6 yrs when he hit me our first year of marriage, controlling me and more I am unhappy with him i would have been divorced him before, in 6 yrs later he has slept at his friend's, girl, house... :/ during 6 yrs i didnt talk to anyone i felt embarassed hold my chest..

now u'rent stupid u did right time to leave him and met ur beloved RR

Aww hon


Look sweetie, we didn't know this would have happened to any of us, some men really did hide it quite well, I know he hit me once before I married him, but he swear he wouldn't do it again, and I believe him, just like you did and the rest of the girls here, I guess we were fooled and blind to see that it didn't stop....

I guess we all learned by this, and know what to expect next time we get into a new relationship, we know the " signs " and we also know once a man hit or control us, will likely keep doing this to us if we stay in that relationship, I made a promise that if I ever get hit, I will leave, and I know you would too because u , I and the rest of the girls here knows never put ourselves in that situation again.....NOT EVER!


You aren't stupid either hon, we both were fooled, and that the biggest lesson we learned from this....I know you will have a second chance of being in love again with someone who would treat you just the way you want to be treat....I also wanted to say how proud I am that you got out of this too..that's my girl


Yep, I have RR :grins:....

 

[Tousi]

I'm sorry for all of the physical & emotional abuse and heartache you all went through. I am glad some of you saw light at the end of the tunnel and persevered! The rest of you CAN do it!

 

[CODAchild]

AJ, I am so very sorry about your friend Allison!!! It's good that you posted this on AD, it's a lesson for all of us to learn.

Cheri, you made so many good points, and I hope that anyone who is in an abusive relationship, will learn by your advice.

Angel and Sweetheart, both of you have come out of your former relationships so brave and so strong. Because of your strength, you both were able to find love again with 2 amazing men. You both have put your pasts behind you, and have moved on to much happiness.

Between Cheri, Angel and Sweetheart you all are such a wonderful example of women who have been through it, are much more understanding and compassionate, and have hearts that can and have learned to love again.

 

[ScaredGirl]

I am Calling right now and I am getting Some Help. Thank you. Especially Angel.

I hope He doesnt Find out until its Too Late.

 

[moonflower]

angel you not stupid

i wish that AJ's friend have left him at first place when he hit her

if i got hit first time i will leave knowing that he didn't love me that it

 

[Angel]

I am Calling right now and I am getting Some Help. Thank you. Especially Angel.

I hope He doesnt Find out until its Too Late.

Hi ScaredGirl


You're doing the right thing hon, and I'm so proud of you girl


I also know you are scared, but we are with you all the way and we'll make sure you follow thru this by getting the help you need.....


Anytime you need a friend to talk to, you know where to find me or anyone of us here in Alldeaf...I'll still keep you in my thoughts and prayers....Let us know how it's going....

 

[Cheri]

I watched another abusive fact-based true crime story about the murder of the wife who is the mother also, Her husband killed her with a hammer that blow to her head. She did died 6 days later at the hospital and they found her soon to be ex husband 3 months later when he jumped off the bridge.


The name of the movie was, "Our Mother's Murder" (1997) I cried at the whole movie, It was so sad, He beaten her pretty bad through the marriage, and she left him, went back with him, left him again, went back and she was going to leave him for the final time, but he end up killing her.