Sexual Abuse Survivors

Are you a Sexual Abuse Survivor?

  • Yes.

    Votes: 5 23.8%

  • No, but I know someone who is.

    Votes: 4 19.0%

  • No.

    Votes: 12 57.1%

  • I don't know.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    21
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Deaf258

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Are you a sexual abuse survivor? Have you gotten help or still suffering with it? Do you know of any Deaf support groups for sexual abuse survivors? Do you know someone who has been abused?

Please keep this respectful towards each other and the survivors as well. Thanks!
 
uhmm good question Deaf258 -- i believe Oddball would be a great person to post the informational links ref to Deaf support groups for abuse survivors -- she did that for the domestic abuse thread that was discussed quite some time ago
 
Yeppers. I went to DeafHope auction dinner last night. That night was very interesting. I met Shoshannah Stein there. She was invited to speak about DV/SA and her acting experiences at historical Old Firehouse in Old Sacramento. I found her very gentle and friendly unlike Marlee, u know.

I have her autograph photo here.

Anyway, her speech touched everyone in the room. Her mom was almost raped in her Gallaudet dorm where she has been worked for years (I think). She opened the door for the guy whom she thought he was from construction crew because the dorms were renovated at that time. Somehow, the guy beat her up. Her mom fought with him for two hours. She found her Dr. Scolls scandal and used it to fight off the guy. She is only 5 ft and 90 lbs lady whereas, the guy is over 5 ft and 200 lbs. She is a survivor.

Shoshannah mentioned that her role of raped victim was very personal and difficult because of her mom's incident. I considered that Dr. Scolls scandal saved her life. Pardon me for being irony, let's buy Dr. Scolls! Use it as your protection against rapists, abusers, etc.

Psst, by the way, I finally met BabyPhat21. She is an attractive lady who loves to talk. I enjoyed her company though. Hee hee
 
Deaf528,
I'm sexually abused survivor, but
i've never gotten enough help.
However, this might be too late
for me to get help cuz i'm too old
for that crap anyway....
i simply feel that i do not really miss
anything really .. it's not
a top priority, not an emergency
nor a critical issue. Thats why
I no longer ask or seek any help.
Thanks for your concern !!

FYI: DAWN (Deaf Abused Women's
Network was recently founded in
Wash DC area www.deafdawn.org)
 
Oddball said:
Anyway, her speech touched everyone in the room. Her mom was almost raped in her Gallaudet dorm where she has been worked for years (I think). She opened the door for the guy whom she thought he was from construction crew because the dorms were renovated at that time. Somehow, the guy beat her up. Her mom fought with him for two hours. She found her Dr. Scolls scandal and used it to fight off the guy. She is only 5 ft and 90 lbs lady whereas, the guy is over 5 ft and 200 lbs. She is a survivor.
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Interesting and sad story about
Shoshannah Stein and her mom
especially at Gallaudet campus...
Wonder if they did file any lawsuit
against Gallaudet about this ?
I missed the old times it used to be
a real safe place, but not anymore sigh...
 
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You are never too old to get help! ;) I am 30 years old and still go to counseling.
 
Deaf258 said:
You are never too old to get help! ;) I am 30 years old and still go to counseling.
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Well, I'm over 30 something and older than you :)
i believe that anyone who "feel motivated" to
get help through counseling will be able to
get recovered faster than others who
do NOT feel motivated. For my situation,
i'm afraid this might or might not be worth
to get help due to the lack of motivation/timing and
its already been damaged for a long time
and it's almost impossible to get it fixed.
If I ever "feel motivated" to get help
on a right timing,
then i will ask for help with counseling etc.
Since i just got laid off from work,
that's another priority that
i must find and get a job offer somewhere
before i can focus on that.
Does that make any sense ?
 
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Yeah...and you are never alone in this, Y. :) There will be alot of people to support you and to help you out in the near future so I wish you the best of luck with that, in fact, God will alwasy be with you, anyway so pray for your protection and guidiance wherever you go, and so you'll be fine...

Sometimes God can't always help ppl get out of those situations alive...because that's what brains are for! You gotta use stragety and focus on yourself, trying to escape the situtation, etc..you know? but I'm glad to hear that you already got another chance to live and you are pretty lucky for that...so, just hang in there. :)
 
Steel said:
Yeah...and you are never alone in this, Y. :) There will be alot of people to support you and to help you out in the near future so I wish you the best of luck with that, in fact, God will alwasy be with you, anyway so pray for your protection and guidiance wherever you go, and so you'll be fine...

Sometimes God can't always help ppl get out of those situations alive...because that's what brains are for! You gotta use stragety and focus on yourself, trying to escape the situtation, etc..you know? but I'm glad to hear that you already got another chance to live and you are pretty lucky for that...so, just hang in there. :)
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Even though you are the AD's Pervert, have you ever been sexually abused, Steel?
 
Nope, and I'm not trying to brag, but I was physically abused, in some ways, from my father when I was little...smack me in the head, kick me, and choke me...etc but as I got older, he stopped because he knows I can kick his sorry old fart ass if he ever threaten me and my family again but he wont do that anyway...haven't seen him in 5 yrs so we are doing fine without him anyway
 
But you never experienced sexual abuse?

Sexual abuse is different than physical abuse. The psychological damage is much different when comparing those two.
 
no I never experienced sexual ambuse...that's what I'm saying

nobody has ever tried to touch me in private areas or anything like that...so no I was never in that part anyway
 
I am sure there are many deaf people with sexual abuse ... not many of them wish to disclose.

I know more than "few" and many of those never have the therapy for it. They only realized their sexual abuse years later (most of their incidents occured in their childhood) and lashed out. Some who were recentally sexually abused don't step forward to the police to arrest that perp etc... it is really sad because many of those deaf people are fearing that the deaf community would lash out on them if they dare to report.. you know, "small world" and everybody would know about it so they are very hesistant to report. This angers me even more because I know THOSE perps who sexually assulted the victims and they contiunally hang out with the victims. THis is SO wrong. It is not something casual that you can do once just for the hell of it and expect everything would be fine.

in many cases, it lowers the victim's self-esteem and numb their emotions to the point where they don't care who they sleep with and they dont believe they are loved. :|

I am not sure if domestic violence support groups count?
 
I already made the story at other thread.
I didn´t know that I´m sexual abuse until I learn from the Self-Help group therapy as long as I thought it´s only phychologiscal emotion abuse (mental suffering) because he didn´t touch me. It belong to Sexual abuse what I witnessed everything in the house, - being forced us do something what he
want etc, watch them rape, sex, etc etc... I thought sexual abuse mean is who touch the children/hurt the children or adults.
Honestly the therapy helps really alot... That´s how I learn alot about those tips to rid of my physchoiscal emotion etc...
It will be not too late for anyone go to therapy because they need help...
It doesn´t matter with those ages... Alot of people I met at therapy are over 30 years old.
I would recommend strongly that anyone should go to therapy...
 
well I have one friend who said she was sexually abused by her mother's best friend and her cousin, because they were drunk and then started attacking her for no reason and ever since that happened, she was so confused about the opposite sex and stuff like that...so she became bi because she was confused about it at first...I dunno it's kind of hard to explain but I just hope she's doing all right though the guy who raped her is still in prison and her cousin is forced to stay away from her as far as possible
 
Um, good question. There's a couple things I remember that weren't "right," from when I was a kid, but then again, I don't remember details...could be I blocked something out.

BUT, I was raped, 7 years ago...does this count as sexual abuse? Ah, well, doesn't matter, I guess...they're both crimes that alter lives, emotions and TRUST.

Malfoyish
 
I know you would feel scared when you find yourself in this harsh situation and then after that, you proably wouldn't want to notify the cops or anybody like that, but why wait? I mean, sure, it's perfectly NORMAL to be afraid but you gotta do something! fight or lose. If you wanna protect yourself, then find someone who always have supported you and is there for you, to notify the cops and get that person AFTER the attack, and then they would have to examine you to test DNA from the rapist and then if they find it positve, then he's dead as shit but if you wait until forever, then you lose and you proably will have that horrible feeling haunting you for the rest of your life...so dont let anybody control your life because you have the right to control your OWN life...not them. FIGHT and KEEP fighting until it's over.

Who cares about age anyway? nobody is too old to get help :)
 
Wow We need more men like Steel!..who's helping those ladies! ;)

Good Advice Steel!...
 
Steel said:
I know you would feel scared when you find yourself in this harsh situation and then after that, you proably wouldn't want to notify the cops or anybody like that, but why wait? I mean, sure, it's perfectly NORMAL to be afraid but you gotta do something! fight or lose. If you wanna protect yourself, then find someone who always have supported you and is there for you, to notify the cops and get that person AFTER the attack, and then they would have to examine you to test DNA from the rapist and then if they find it positve, then he's dead as shit but if you wait until forever, then you lose and you proably will have that horrible feeling haunting you for the rest of your life...so dont let anybody control your life because you have the right to control your OWN life...not them. FIGHT and KEEP fighting until it's over.

Who cares about age anyway? nobody is too old to get help :)
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I've already waited too long...Statute of Limitations sucks, doesn't it? Not to mention I don't know who the person was. I did know a first name, but not enough to put him away. I should have, I know, but I didn't...and I regret it. But don't worry about it...I'm doing pretty good, considering.

Thanks,
Malfoyish
 
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