question about nightmare..

Nika said:
I am dating someone with PTSD and DID. I am basically dating two people. When she is triggered, she goes into an alter that is highly irrational and in a LOT of pain. It just makes me feel so awful to know that she was hurt to the point she created an alter as a coping mechanism. <sad>
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that's really sad and unfortunate. i'm sorry. <hugs>

my therapist told me he's surpised i don't have DID given the 4 traumas i experienced over the span of 18 years. i consider myself fortunate in that regard. one of the traumas i experienced is the 3rd leading cause of PTSD (according to my therapist) and is primarily responsible for causing co-morbid DID.
 
Hear Again said:
that's really sad and unfortunate. i'm sorry. <hugs>

my therapist told me he's surpised i don't have DID given the 4 traumas i experienced over the span of 18 years. i consider myself fortunate in that regard. one of the traumas i experienced is the 3rd leading cause of PTSD (according to my therapist) and is primarily responsible for causing co-morbid DID.
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Same here. My therapist said the exact same thing. The traumas I experienced are the classic ones for C-PTSD, which has a higher rate of becoming DID I think (because C-PTSD has the added symptom of dissociation.)
 
Nika said:
Same here. My therapist said the exact same thing. The traumas I experienced are the classic ones for C-PTSD, which has a higher rate of becoming DID I think (because C-PTSD has the added symptom of dissociation.)
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i have C-PTSD as well. i dissociate, but not severely.
 
I have so many dissociative techniques up my sleeve my therapist has a hard time telling what form of dissociation I am using at the moment. Dissociation I think shows up the most from childhood abuse, especially sexual. I might be wrong though.
 
I know that DID is the most common among folks that were ritualistically abused, in that their family had traditions that were abusive by nature.
 
Nika said:
I have so many dissociative techniques up my sleeve my therapist has a hard time telling what form of dissociation I am using at the moment. Dissociation I think shows up the most from childhood abuse, especially sexual. I might be wrong though.
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i'd rather not say what kind of traumas i experienced, but i agree with you about dissociation. i don't really understand dissociation, so i'll have to talk to my therapist about the kinds that i have. this is all new to me. i didn't even know i had PTSD until now (even though my therapist thinks i've had it for many years).
 
Nika said:
I know that DID is the most common among folks that were ritualistically abused, in that their family had traditions that were abusive by nature.
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what is ritualistic abuse? would sexual abuse be an example of that?
 
Oh I'm sorry Hear Again I didn't mean to ask you what kind of traumas you had. I was just saying generally speaking that dissociation tends to show up most with child abuse. But it can show up for anyone, and people abused as children may have mild or no forms of dissociation.

I'm sorry Hear Again. It must be such a huge blow to find out you have PTSD.
 
Hear Again said:
what is ritualistic abuse? would sexual abuse be an example of that?
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Some examples are cults that have "rites of passage" that involve sexual/physical abuse. Another example is that in some countries it's believed that raping a child makes them immune to AIDS. Ritualistic abuse can be any form of abuse. It tends to be regular and is socially accepted within the community (which makes it that much more damaging because there isn't even a higher standard that's trying to be met.)
 
Nika said:
I'm sorry Hear Again. It must be such a huge blow to find out you have PTSD.
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to be honest, on top of my bipolar, it sucks. sorry for the language, but that's how i feel. hope you understand.
 
Nika said:
Some examples are cults that have "rites of passage" that involve sexual/physical abuse. Another example is that in some countries it's believed that raping a child makes them immune to AIDS. Ritualistic abuse can be any form of abuse. It tends to be regular and is socially accepted within the community (which makes it that much more damaging because there isn't even a higher standard that's trying to be met.)
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i didn't know sexual and physical abuse could be considered ritualistic abuse, but it does make sense. since ritualistic abuse can be any abuse, i suppose that includes emotional abuse as well? i'm just trying to understand more about it.
 
Hear Again said:
i didn't know sexual and physical abuse could be considered ritualistic abuse, but it does make sense. since ritualistic abuse can be any abuse, i suppose that includes emotional abuse as well?
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Yes -- any type of abuse. An example of emotional would be a culture where it's the norm to "raise the bar" on expectations every time someone tries to reach it.
 
Also just to clarify -- ritualistic abuse can be in the form of other types of abuse, but not all abuse is ritualistic.
 
Hear Again said:
thanks. no offense to anyone, but sometimes i feel like a mental defect.
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Aw, I'm sorry Hear Again.

You're such a kind person with a huge heart. You can empathize so deep. You're really a special person, as far from a defect as you can get.
 
Nika said:
Some examples are cults that have "rites of passage" that involve sexual/physical abuse. Another example is that in some countries it's believed that raping a child makes them immune to AIDS. Ritualistic abuse can be any form of abuse. It tends to be regular and is socially accepted within the community (which makes it that much more damaging because there isn't even a higher standard that's trying to be met.)
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I just want to slightly correct you there. The men infected with AIDS thought they can be cured by having sex with the virgins. It's becoming "rare" to find a mate who is not infected. If I remember the statistic correctly - more than 50% Africans are infected.
 
Jiro said:
I just want to slightly correct you there. The men infected with AIDS thought they can be cured by having sex with the virgins. It's becoming "rare" to find a mate who is not infected. If I remember the statistic correctly - more than 50% Africans are infected.
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Oh yeah that's right. The point is that leads to the ritualistic rape of children in the attempt to cure men of AIDS.
 
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