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For about a month - I had a dating profile online. I was wondering if other people have tried this. I was wondering when you bring up your hearing loss. If you bring up too soon - the guy could back out before any attachment, and if you do it later - it might seem like you were hiding it. Any advice? I didn't put it in the profile - but maybe it would be easier - if I just put it in the profile from the get-go. (sorry if this a repost).
 
you can always try both and see what happens
 
I did - both went south. I didn't have high expectations though - especially since I was the one who contacted them. I didn't have a profile picture up either - which might encourage a more positive reply if they have some assurance that I'm real.
 
I met several and become friends from deaf dating online. It still seem work well anyway.
 
I only have tried deaf online dating.
 
I tired number of these - none came as good as this, so I dropped it. Never going to do it ever again. Just an experience of my own.
 
Definitely put your picture in the profile. Most people won't even respond if you don't have a picture. Sad, but true.

About hearing loss: I would mention it in profile. It's obviously going to be a factor in any potential relationship, so it's something you should be clear about from the beginning. If someone is not willing to date you because of it, or feels weird about it, they're not worth your time anyway. Trust me on this.

Good luck!
 
TheWriteAlex said:
Definitely put your picture in the profile. Most people won't even respond if you don't have a picture. Sad, but true.

About hearing loss: I would mention it in profile. It's obviously going to be a factor in any potential relationship, so it's something you should be clear about from the beginning. If someone is not willing to date you because of it, or feels weird about it, they're not worth your time anyway. Trust me on this.

Good luck!
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Alex is right. A picture definitely makes a difference. I set up a profile for online dating and I mentioned I was deaf - it didn't stop guys from contacting me.
 
I agree with what everyone said about the picture.

Also, I am a 28 year old hearing woman, and I never thought about dating a deaf man until I got an email from a deaf man on an online dating site. He told me right away that he was deaf, and he asked me if I would feel comfortable with him. I think that is the best way to do it - tell the person that you are deaf/hoh, and let them tell you if they will be comfortable dating you.

Who Knows? Great things could happen! Because of the man who emailed me, I am now learning ASL and thinking about becoming an interpreter or ASL teacher! ;)
 
I mention it right off the bat in my profile:

"I have a pretty good idea of what I'm looking for. I know she won't be perfect and I'm not looking for that. Must have a sense of humor and be able to poke fun at yourself :). You'll find a lot of things I do funny and sometimes baffling. I'm reminded everyday -lovingly- by my roommates. Running jokes and gags make our household a pleasant one. A lot of it is centered around my hard-of-hearing or my supposed "selective hearing". I argue the former and not the latter as often. I try to pay attention and if I don't want to, it'll be very obvious."

my HOH can play a role in our relationship, it's just how we can overcome it to maintain good communication, and it's better to be sincere about it than to just sweep it under the rug. I have offered my excellent vision in return for better ears :).
 
I've never done the whole online dating. I'm not sure it's for me, however, I've had MANY friends develop relationships and even marriage due to online dating...I have a friend who's been married to her husband for 9 yrs....go for it...and be honest.
 
Shattered_Ones said:
I've never done the whole online dating. I'm not sure it's for me, however, I've had MANY friends develop relationships and even marriage due to online dating...I have a friend who's been married to her husband for 9 yrs....go for it...and be honest.
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That is the problem with online dating... some people are not honest with you.

Online dating sites are cool, but be sure you meet the person (in person) before you fall for him/her. Several people hide who they really are, behind the keyboard.
 
I started talking with a cute girl online for a couple weeks, every other day or so exchanging an email, then i sent her my number. We texted for a night then the next night we were texting and I called her. She didn't pick up and then 30min later she texted that she had become deaf. I at first thought to myself "wow, if you don't want to talk to me anymore, just say so and don't make stuff up." After her explaining things to me I believed her and we have developed an amazing relationship. I didn't feel at all like she was hiding it. If I knew she was deaf right off the bat I know my natural tendency would have been to just pass her by but man, I would have been making the biggest mistake ever passing her by because of that. She is so amazing.

Hope that helps!
 
I know my natural tendency would have been to just pass her
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Sadly, that is the reaction most people have when they find out someone is deaf.
 
A said:
Sadly, that is the reaction most people have when they find out someone is deaf.
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I know! It really sucks and I'm embarrassed to admit it. I am thanking God every day that I met this woman though. I wouldn't change one single thing about here. Not one. :hug:
 
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