Not completely deaf but...

[Jenae90]

Can't hear a lot of men's voices. Me being female makes it hard on relationships. My boyfriend thinks I zone him out but if I'm not paying attention I most likely won't hear him. I think my left ear is mostly deaf, my right ear can hear most higher pitched sounds but both deaf to low tones. I've had 4 seta of tubes, my most recent being 4 years ago. If I don't have tubes or steroids I've been told I'll have ear infections indefinitely... But what fixes the permanent hearing loss? Tho is my first time reaching out in hopes of someone sharing the same struggle

 

[Jenae90]

Another thing... I can't enjoy concerts... The base makes a static noise sound that drives me insane... Any kind of base, the first time I noticed was at a Christian concert in high school. The only base I can handle is the max bass in my generic stereo system in my car

 

[Bottesini]

Another thing... I can't enjoy concerts... The base makes a static noise sound that drives me insane... Any kind of base, the first time I noticed was at a Christian concert in high school. The only base I can handle is the max bass in my generic stereo system in my car

Bass? You could probably get a different interest than music.

I don't enjoy pain in my feet, so I gave up walking on hot coals.

 

[dereksbicycles]

I learned the hard way that cats will bite me if I make them clap. It took me time dealing with frustration, confusion, denial, loss of word, and worry of being bitten by cats. It took me time to laugh and find people that were in same boat with me and able to laugh about this.

 

[Jenae90]

Ok I guess so far I've learned that I'm just an idiot. Thanks guys. I thought I was signing up for this forum for insight on what I'm dealing with. But just like everything else I'm being judged.

 

[Bottesini]

Ok I guess so far I've learned that I'm just an idiot. Thanks guys. I thought I was signing up for this forum for insight on what I'm dealing with. But just like everything else I'm being judged.

It's good to learn to know yourself.

A forum is no place to gain medical advice.

A qualified medical professional can do far more for you, and also do no harm by giving the wrong advice.

 

[Jenae90]

Medical advice is good yes...but it also goo to have outside opinions. My dr can give me technical advice and medicate me for whatever reason but that doesn't help the mental side of things

 

[Jenae90]

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And I wasn't looking for medical advice. I was hoping there were people out there who understood the frustrations I have. I still to this day get embarrassed when I ask someone to repeat themselves multiple times. It angers me when people think that I just decided to stop listening. And I don't have the money to cover going to see another specialist at the moment. I have received a lot of help from ent's but just for the medical issues causing my hearing loss but nobody has addressed the hearing loss itself. I'm, for the most part, not a very outspoken person to begin with.

 

[Raywyn]

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And I wasn't looking for medical advice. I was hoping there were people out there who understood the frustrations I have. I still to this day get embarrassed when I ask someone to repeat themselves multiple times. It angers me when people think that I just decided to stop listening. And I don't have the money to cover going to see another specialist at the moment. I have received a lot of help from ent's but just for the medical issues causing my hearing loss but nobody has addressed the hearing loss itself. I'm, for the most part, not a very outspoken person to begin with.

Dont take any notice of that judgemental lot up there, I know where you are coming from with the embarrassment etc and just wanting to reach out to someone who experiences the same as you.

I've been called a snob many times simply because I havent heard something so didnt answer.

I was born profoundly deaf, way back in 1951 when deafness (especially here in NZ) wasnt understood as it is now, have struggled with peoples idiotic misperceptions all my life. I now have CI which is way better as HA werent doing anything for me.

Music has been pretty much a no go zone for me, tho I do enjoy certain types now with CI, but as you say not the thumping bass.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

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And I wasn't looking for medical advice. I was hoping there were people out there who understood the frustrations I have. I still to this day get embarrassed when I ask someone to repeat themselves multiple times. It angers me when people think that I just decided to stop listening. And I don't have the money to cover going to see another specialist at the moment. I have received a lot of help from ent's but just for the medical issues causing my hearing loss but nobody has addressed the hearing loss itself. I'm, for the most part, not a very outspoken person to begin with.

I find if I can't understand a word I will ask the person to try and use another word instead of yelling the same word over and over again. Try and ask the person to speak slower or try to use another word and have the person facing you while talking to you. There is nothing to be embarrassed about being HOH and if anyone made you feel this way whatever they're saying is not worth listening to. You're going find a lot people that are clueless about what it's like being deaf or hoh so you just have to not let it get to so much. You can try educating the person , I have been able to do with some people.

 

[deafguy2013]

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And I wasn't looking for medical advice. I was hoping there were people out there who understood the frustrations I have. I still to this day get embarrassed when I ask someone to repeat themselves multiple times. It angers me when people think that I just decided to stop listening. And I don't have the money to cover going to see another specialist at the moment. I have received a lot of help from ent's but just for the medical issues causing my hearing loss but nobody has addressed the hearing loss itself. I'm, for the most part, not a very outspoken person to begin with.

Never be embarrassed by this. On a daily basis I have to ask people to repeat themselves a lot, mainly when they are talking to me with my back turned to them or when loud equipment is around. Been like that since I was a kid.

 

[Angel1989]

With my spouse and people I know, I have them get my attention before they start talking to me. This prevents a lot of "what". Good luck.

 

[ambrosia]

Okay I'm jumping in here after reading your posts in the lip reading.

First off no need to get defensive, although I can understand where the insecurity would come from and why it would make you defensive. Secondly, not all if us on here are completely deaf, or born that way for that matter. We're a very mixed bag here and an audiogram is relatively huge and we fall all over the place on, there are a lot of degrees of loss between perfect hearing and perfectly deaf, and we all have different ways of dealing with our loss and ways of communicating. Some of us have hearing aids, some have CI, some (yo me) have hearing aids but want CI, some that have a CI but don't use them, some that are strictly ASL users. Some of were born with loss, some with just some loss that progressed through child and adulthood. Some of us yeah like me, started losing it as a young adult, or in our later years. Sine if us had sudden loss, some a gradual progression. So don't worry about not being "all the way deaf", we are all different, but share many if the sand experiences to skme degree. I hate labels but describe myself as deaf w/out my aid (s) and hard if hearing with them. I deal, and so do many here, deal with what you're dealing with all day everyday WITH our hearing aids on. Although I have an easier time with men's voices and a harder time with women, little children? Fahgedaboudit, it's all gibberish.

So my question is......why don't you have aids? If you're hearing speech at all without being aided it must be in the mild or moderate range. Slap sone aids on you and you'd be doing fabulous. If you've only gotten hearing tests with beeps you're not getting a full hearing test. Was this test with an audiologist in a booth? Or did the nurse at your family physician just stick one if those things in your ears? Have you only seen the family doc or have you been to an ENT?

 

[Mewtilation]

I wouldn't say you're being judged here... So far I've only seen people being sarcastic with you. You're going to have to learn to deal with sarcasm in life... it's everywhere.... ESPECIALLY in the Deaf community!

Of course there are people dealing with what you're dealing with every day. I sincerely doubt you're the first person to have issues hearing low tones. Actually, I can guarantee you're not. Just because people don't respond to what you're asking directly in the first day or two of a post doesn't mean you're not going to get them. Sometimes you have to wait and develop patience.

You can either throw a hissy fit about the sarcasm ( As you did above ) Respond back to it with sarcasm ( A wise decision ) or you can just ignore it ( Also a wise decision ) Just don't take it to heart, otherwise your life will be full of hissy fits and sadness because you can't take a little poking.

Even if people are just being mean and not being sarcastic, you can't take that to heart either. Just let it roll off of you like water... welcome to the life of an adult.

Go seek a real ENT or audiologist and fix your issue... it's that simple.

 

[ambrosia]

Throwing another 2 cents in there........when people come on here crying about not hearing stuff when they just have mild loss and would do great with hearing aids, for those of us with profound loss it does bring on urges to punch that person in the throat.


Maybe that's just me? Maybe I'm the only one going "bitch please"

 

[Mewtilation]

Throwing another 2 cents in there........when people come on here crying about not hearing stuff when they just have mild loss and would do great with hearing aids, for those of us with profound loss it does bring on urges to punch that person in the throat.


Maybe that's just me? Maybe I'm the only one going "bitch please"

I can see where a person with sudden loss like yourself would definitely get the *snap snap Oh no you didn't complain about that!* Going on though...

Personally I can usually empathize with almost anyone. I can understand how this person might think things will only get worse down the road I suppose. At the same time I find myself thinking "It's not a huge deal, you'll live!" I'm definitely always able to see both sides in most situations. However, I can reason with you a little more on this one.

 

[ambrosia]

I can see where a person with sudden loss like yourself would definitely get the *snap snap Oh no you didn't complain about that!* Going on though...

Personally I can usually empathize with almost anyone. I can understand how this person might think things will only get worse down the road I suppose. At the same time I find myself thinking "It's not a huge deal, you'll live!" I'm definitely always able to see both sides in most situations. However, I can reason with you a little more on this one.

I agree, for the most part I'm an annoying devils advocate kind of person. Are you an Aquarius? Mine wasn't like over night sudden, and it went in 2 waves. Actually I don't even count my left ear in that, I have 2 ears and it wasn't til my hearing on the right started to go did I really start omging I still rely on my right, I kind if disregard my left ear, it's just like this thing on the side if my head I put ear rings in ANYWAY, it wasn't sudden, but aggressive for sure. It went from normal to severe in less than a year. But it stayed at severe for like I don't know 10ish years, then dropped again like 2-3 years ago. It honest to god wasn't too bad when I was severe in one ear and profound in the other. Seriously, it wasn't that bad. It wasn't until I got to profound in one ear and profound to no response in the other that I was just, this sucks big hairy sweaty stink donkey dick :/

So yeah I can understand the how's and whys, but at the same time want give tell them to put on they're big girl panties and quitcha bitchin. Go to the doctor!!! DOOO something about it.

 

[Mewtilation]

I agree, for the most part I'm an annoying devils advocate kind of person. Are you an Aquarius? Mine wasn't like over night sudden, and it went in 2 waves. Actually I don't even count my left ear in that, I have 2 ears and it wasn't til my hearing on the right started to go did I really start omging I still rely on my right, I kind if disregard my left ear, it's just like this thing on the side if my head I put ear rings in ANYWAY, it wasn't sudden, but aggressive for sure. It went from normal to severe in less than a year. But it stayed at severe for like I don't know 10ish years, then dropped again like 2-3 years ago. It honest to god wasn't too bad when I was severe in one ear and profound in the other. Seriously, it wasn't that bad. It wasn't until I got to profound in one ear and profound to no response in the other that I was just, this sucks big hairy sweaty stink donkey dick :/

So yeah I can understand the how's and whys, but at the same time want give tell them to put on they're big girl panties and quitcha bitchin. Go to the doctor!!! DOOO something about it.

I don't keep up much on astrology. I think I'm a Libra? I just live life trying to put myself in other peoples shoes. I know things seem different to everyone depending on their viewpoint, however I always try to see the other side of the story. I know there's times when I state my opinion and people are swift to judge or assume without seeing my point of view and it's rather upsetting. However, I never let it get me down because I don't live for other people, just myself. :P

More times than not do I find myself saying "suck it up buttercup" and pull up your big girl panties and move on! That's what doctors and specialists are for. :P

Still pretty fast loss. However I can see how losing something you were used to your whole life taken away in any amount of time is devastating. My grandmother had to surrender her license ( THANK GOD!!! ) and she's super upset. While it's good for EVERYONE ( including her ) she's been driving since she was a teen, so I can also see why she's upset... I would be too. Still, THANK GOD!!! Someone out there will live longer now....

 

[CrazyPaul]

Still pretty fast loss. However I can see how losing something you were used to your whole life taken away in any amount of time is devastating. My grandmother had to surrender her license ( THANK GOD!!! ) and she's super upset. While it's good for EVERYONE ( including her ) she's been driving since she was a teen, so I can also see why she's upset... I would be too. Still, THANK GOD!!! Someone out there will live longer now....

Due to her hearing loss??

 

[Mewtilation]

Due to her hearing loss??

Oh no no no no.... She's just getting up there in age and her driving is terrifying... She couldn't pass the vision part of the driving test. Was just using it as a similar thing where I can see both sides. Florida is now a safer state due to Grandma not driving... that's for sure. Poor woman though, really. I understand being upset... I would be too.