No War: Single vs Marriage

PowerON said:
I want to marry rich woman and I would be mr. mom. No more worry about job. weee! Time to clean, cooking, and massage my busy wife. wee wee.
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Oh boy,, if you want to be Mr. MOM,, that means cleaning the house, watching the kids, change their dirty dipars, having kids to give you hard time, clean up after the pets, cook dinner, food shopping, chasing after kids running around the store,, good luck LOL
 
GarnetTigerMom said:
Oh boy,, if you want to be Mr. MOM,, that means cleaning the house, watching the kids, change their dirty dipars, having kids to give you hard time, clean up after the pets, cook dinner, food shopping, chasing after kids running around the store,, good luck LOL
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Oh, I don't mind. I would love it! And I am will massage wife's stink bare feet. ;)
 
VamPyroX said:
I don't really have any PROs or CONs for either. My bigger concern is the type of person that I'm with.

If she's a good person, then everything would be PROs. :)
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:lol: How about in the long run ? At first, it will go deep in your heart that will grow love - but, then later on down the road it turns out " bad " ... that will hurt you. Had that experience before, Vampy ? :cool:
 
Jolie_77 said:
Actually, both sides has it's own pros and cons. Rather than listing it out, I'd say it's all about how to balance it. It doesn't mean that we are biased towards one side or other side. It all comes together in a way, so to speak.

Sure, Being single is wonderful and being in a relationship is wonderful too.
Being single can be bitter and lonesome, being in a relationship can drive you up to the wall. If both parts are compatible, then that's great because it doesn't always have to be revolved around one part.
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Said well!

AS my opinion, I'm comforable to be single person. :D
 
GarnetTigerMom said:
You mention about single are so free from the pain, I have to disagree on that one because there is no way in life a single person free from pain, Pain is always around. Single means you have the time to grow and be the person you want to be. I do understand that being single means freedom.

As for marriage, I don't see that as a life sentence or prison. Marriage life is full of excitement and frustration. Marriage has a way of making people grow up and think about the future. When you love someone so much you want to be married to that person for the rest of your life. Life is short.
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Oh, I refer to have no pain from headaches of being married, if you know what I mean. :):)

Oh, yeah, marriage is a life sentence (or prison) is not in my view of my own eyes. lol

My personal life, I am an asexual woman so it's hard for me to attach a male while I just like-like a somebody else. Obviously, I may be not good enough for any man. ^ ^
 
Etoile said:
I am going to answer this in terms of "single vs. relationship" because I think that is really the question. Right?

Relationship:
* Someone to listen to you when you need to talk about something important
* Someone who understands you better than anybody else in the world
* Feeling good about yourself when you help your partner
* Have someone to experience everything with and get their viewpoint on same activities
* Never have to feel alone, somebody always loves you

Single:
* When you are sick nobody comes to take care of you
* If you die, and you have no family, nobody gets your stuff
* Harder to make decisions because you have nobody to discuss them with
* Being alone is very boring and you have nobody to share fun things with
* Nobody to applaud you when you succeed, nobody to comfort you when you fail
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Heh, your opinions are good enough. Unfortunately, I respectfully disagree with you. ^_^

- Any one of my family relations can take of me, possibly my friend will if he/she wants to.
- Actually, not true. There is a way to take my stuff: a concant of agreement for giving my stuff to some of my best friends or to donate my stuff for ophranage, homeless families, and some personal others. I actually signed it as agreement, in a case if I have no family. ;) So, I'd rather to give some of my stuff to donate them for chairty. <3
- Hard decisions?? Not so quite! Heh, if I have no idea how to figure it out what I need/want, then there is a simple answer: researching, surfing, and... BINGO. I found many answers as many as I can. I actually did it by myself. :D
- Being alone? Mmm.. Yeah, it's true. Fortunately for me, not at all! How? I'm an outgoing person. ;);)
- I have friends, they will. :)
 
PowerON said:
I want to marry rich woman and I would be mr. mom. No more worry about job. weee! Time to clean, cooking, and massage my busy wife. wee wee.
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GarnetTigerMom said:
Oh boy,, if you want to be Mr. MOM,, that means cleaning the house, watching the kids, change their dirty dipars, having kids to give you hard time, clean up after the pets, cook dinner, food shopping, chasing after kids running around the store,, good luck LOL
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PowerON said:
Oh, I don't mind. I would love it! And I am will massage wife's stink bare feet. ;)
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:lol: Very funny.
 
Maria said:
:lol: How about in the long run ? At first, it will go deep in your heart that will grow love - but, then later on down the road it turns out " bad " ... that will hurt you. Had that experience before, Vampy ? :cool:
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Yes, times change... and we adapt to those changes because our lives need them. However, if bad changes happen... they need to be worked out. If they don't and love can't work out, then it's over.

I've been through it before. For over three years of seeing things that I thought were good, I find out that it was all a lie.
 
VamPyroX said:
Yes, times change... and we adapt to those changes because our lives need them. However, if bad changes happen... they need to be worked out. If they don't and love can't work out, then it's over.

I've been through it before. For over three years of seeing things that I thought were good, I find out that it was all a lie.
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Times change ? I also think that it has to do with each person's perspective, because it changes as each person grows mature and learn their mistakes from the past. Each person wants something better for their own benefits - IMO.

I've been through it before, too. I hate that -- it hurts soo much. Lie/dishonesty really sucks. It deserves nothin'.

I prefer to remain single for a long time to heal myself first. When I am courage enough, then I will try another chance. I want to avoid " jump ", if you get my drift. Pssst...I don't want to know " how high it jumps ". :)
 
I always prefer to be single, hardly to have good relationship since I was 16 due to my independent status. I like to be single because feel very independent and love it!
 
Marraige okay but the couple have to know each other well first before going into it. Have to be right for each other and be on the same page and view marraige the same way. It is an institution and not something to be tested to 'see how it goes'. Love is blind. When we are young we tend to bee alike somewhat becaause of school environment and raised as youth. But we develop individual characteristics as we get older which can become a problem with a mate. We also change thru life and some peeps not so loyal always. Without getting all religious.....living in 'higher powers' image helps put us on the same page....we know what the ground rules are. It makes us humble and committed.
 
Maria said:
Times change ? I also think that it has to do with each person's perspective, because it changes as each person grows mature and learn their mistakes from the past. Each person wants something better for their own benefits - IMO.

I've been through it before, too. I hate that -- it hurts soo much. Lie/dishonesty really sucks. It deserves nothin'.

I prefer to remain single for a long time to heal myself first. When I am courage enough, then I will try another chance. I want to avoid " jump ", if you get my drift. Pssst...I don't want to know " how high it jumps ". :)
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I'm fine with her changing to improve on mistakes.

I'm talking about changes that aren't even related to mistakes.

For instance, she does everything I do. She insists that it's also something she likes, a hobby of hers... something she loves/enjoys doing.

Later, she starts complaining... "Hey, I followed your hobbies. I followed the things you enjoy doing. Therefore, you should follow my hobby to make me happy!" Whoa, where did that come from? She insisted that she liked those things and I was simply happy that she liked those things. Now, she's using it against me as if she never liked them in the first place and changed just for me. If I had known that she had different interests, I wouldn't have gotten her involved in my interests.

Another example would be... she always buys me gifts. I tell her that she doesn't have to, but she insists that she wants to because she loves me. Later, she gets mad because I don't get her "enough" gifts. If I get her something big, then a couple months later, I get her something small... she gets mad and starts thinking that I don't love her any more or I love her less. Gee... the size of the gifts determine how much I love her? *groans*
 
VamPyroX said:
I'm fine with her changing to improve on mistakes.

I'm talking about changes that aren't even related to mistakes.

For instance, she does everything I do. She insists that it's also something she likes, a hobby of hers... something she loves/enjoys doing.

Later, she starts complaining... "Hey, I followed your hobbies. I followed the things you enjoy doing. Therefore, you should follow my hobby to make me happy!" Whoa, where did that come from? She insisted that she liked those things and I was simply happy that she liked those things. Now, she's using it against me as if she never liked them in the first place and changed just for me. If I had known that she had different interests, I wouldn't have gotten her involved in my interests.

Another example would be... she always buys me gifts. I tell her that she doesn't have to, but she insists that she wants to because she loves me. Later, she gets mad because I don't get her "enough" gifts. If I get her something big, then a couple months later, I get her something small... she gets mad and starts thinking that I don't love her any more or I love her less. Gee... the size of the gifts determine how much I love her? *groans*
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Gotcha... know what you mean.

If, you really love that woman that much.... why don't you give her what she wants in return ? And, that will less her complaints or bitch about it.

I know " love " is pretty heavy issue some men don't want to deal, because some women are soo emotional than men.
 
Maria said:
Gotcha... know what you mean.

If, you really love that woman that much.... why don't you give her what she wants in return ? And, that will less her complaints or bitch about it.

I know " love " is pretty heavy issue some men don't want to deal, because some women are soo emotional than men.
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Oh, I do... I try. Unfortunately, it wasn't "enough".

For instance, I get her gifts every month. Sometimes, I'll get her something big spontaneously. When I go back to the usual gift routine, she will ask why I went back and think that I don't love her any more.

She even went to her friends for stupid advice. "Oh, my friends think that you want an open relationship. I'm sad!" WTF?
 
Vampy : I can understand. Been there and through this before. :)

If, you are interested in wantin' to talk more about anything... just PM me and exchange emails/or IMs and we will go from there. ;)
 
PuyoPiyo said:
I always prefer to be single, hardly to have good relationship since I was 16 due to my independent status. I like to be single because feel very independent and love it!
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I feel same like that, sometime I'm too lazy to be in relationship, lol.
 
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