My daughter is being bullied! Help!

Oh my gosh, are you sure you don't live near me? because that lady sounds like the lady who lives next door of me, which she has 4 children that keeps bully my kids every year since the day I brought this house.....

I'm sorry to hear what happened , I know you're feeling really down about this whole thing and for what happened at school today, but things will get better I know they will, cause no matter how hard it gets, you will still be fighting for your daughter likewise with my children, I won't let the bully win, if this keeps going on, keep calling the school and the tranperation before they do something about it, cause the more you complain the more they're going to say geeze this woman not going to give up :lol:


Hang in there Rebelgirl, I know it's hard, but you're doing pretty good so far :hug:


I'll keep praying for you two, and hope things will get better tmr for you both! :sadwave:
 
DeafGeorgiaLady said:
Dang!!!!!!!!!!!! That woman is damn :crazy: You or your daughter do not deserve that kind of bullsh.t from them. Damn, I hope everything works out the best for you and your daughter.

You are not the only one here. My baby nephew been thru it and the kids who been messing with my nephew were suspensed for 4 days because of that. They have not messed with my nephew ever since. *knocks on wood*. We have ZERO TOLERENCE at our schools and we really take it very serious. So I hope everything works out for the best for both of you. Sigh, man you both dont deserve that. :hug: for you and your daughter.

Will pray for both of you!
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Thank you DGL and Butterflygirl! I'm gonna watch like a hawk to make sure my daughter is safe.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Cheri, I didn't deny anything.
Let the child stand up for self.

Because there are parents that might
get violent..

For example, remember when the father got angry with coach for rejecting his son and that father bang that coach's head on the hard floor many many times and killed him.

That father wanted his son to not have low self esteem.

Same thing with Cheerleaders' moms...
A mom wants her daughter's self esteem to be high and got angry when her daughter didn't make the team and shot the other girl who made it.

So you don't need to worry so much about your child's self esteem cause you're gonna get so obsessed.

I don't care if you put me on ignore.
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Excuse me, Miss Piggy

Let me tell you something.. you have NO clue what its like having to deal with that bullshit because YOU DON'T HAVE KIDS! You may have a nephew but you sure don't do the nuturing, your sis or bro does the job. Its NOT ABOUT BEING OBSESSED! its about protecting our kid/kids for safety. What you're trying to say is its okay for your nephew to be violent when it comes to getting bullied as you say.. for him to hit him/her back.. no! That's inappropriate! Just wait til you have your own kid.. you'll know what it feels like. Just don't say we the parents are obsessed with our child/children's self-esteem. Its our friggin' job to protect them not beat it up.

whatever the violent between the parents and kids its entirely up to them.. We're not all the same like them. I can control my own situation without thinking any further. Not everybody is the same. Thank you
 
^Angel^ said:
Oh my gosh, are you sure you don't live near me? because that lady sounds like the lady who lives next door of me, which she has 4 children that keeps bully my kids every year since the day I brought this house.....

I'm sorry to hear what happened , I know you're feeling really down about this whole thing and for what happened at school today, but things will get better I know they will, cause no matter how hard it gets, you will still be fighting for your daughter likewise with my children, I won't let the bully win, if this keeps going on, keep calling the school and the tranperation before they do something about it, cause the more you complain the more they're going to say geeze this woman not going to give up :lol:


Hang in there Rebelgirl, I know it's hard, but you're doing pretty good so far :hug:


I'll keep praying for you two, and hope things will get better tmr for you both! :sadwave:
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I'm hanging! :D :hug:
 
RebelGirl said:
Excuse me, Miss Piggy

Let me tell you something.. you have NO clue what its like having to deal with that bullshit because YOU DON'T HAVE KIDS! You may have a nephew but you sure don't do the nuturing, your sis or bro does the job. Its NOT ABOUT BEING OBSESSED! its about protecting our kid/kids for safety. What you're trying to say is its okay for your nephew to be violent when it comes to getting bullied as you say.. for him to hit him/her back.. no! That's inappropriate! Just wait til you have your own kid.. you'll know what it feels like. Just don't say we the parents are obsessed with our child/children's self-esteem. Its our friggin' job to protect them not beat it up.

whatever the violent between the parents and kids its entirely up to them.. We're not all the same like them. I can control my own situation without thinking any further. Not everybody is the same. Thank you
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Well if children beat up my child, I'll see to that they face consequence.
I'll take the children's parents to court if they won't pay for my child's medical bills.

Because children do not understand why they can't fight or why you are protecting them.

I rather have them face reality than living in la la land.

You are right I don't know about raising children... But sometimes any advice is helpful.
 
I may not know how to raise children, we were all children once.

My mom could not be there for me because she had to work. She wasn't a housemom.
I had to stand up for myself.

And yes I was in school fight, it was my first and then my last...

Because a black deaf girl was trying to bully me... And I said hell no, you are messing with the wrong person... I ain't gonna get bully by anybody...
So I pushed her azz out the bus.

I felt so good and so proud, that was when my self esteem was the highest.

And then I face consequence, of course me and that girl had to go to principal.
And yes we both had punishment.
And my mom talked to her mom.

And it was all over and I and the little girl became friends.

Whew.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Well if children beat up my child, I'll see to that they face consequence.
I'll take the children's parents to court if they won't pay for my child's medical bills.

Because children do not understand why they can't fight or why you are protecting them.

I rather have them face reality than living in la la land.

You are right I don't know about raising children... But sometimes any advice is helpful.
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in my case, its verbal abuse and not yet to be physical abuse. That's why I'm doing something NOW before it goes to far. If my daughter does get beat up badly, yes, I'll be reporting it to the police for assault. But I will not allow my kid hit them back but to go to an adult and let them know first. My daughter tells me most of everything that's going on in her life. Its important to be a "friend" to your child so you can understand her/him better. I always explain to my child about personal things such as sex, sexual molestation, bullies, not riding in the car with strangers.. We even have our own secret code in case if someone says "your mom told me to pick you up" She'll say what's the code. if the person doesn't know then she'll know not to go with them. Its very important to communicate with your child.

maybe you can learn our advices instead cuz most of them agrees with me and i agree with most of them too. I hate to say but i disagreed with you about hitting back.
 
I think that would confuse child...
What happen if a sicko grab your kid and put that kid in the car?

Would you want your kid to fight, scratch, kick, scream, and run?

I think it is a bad idea to tell kids not to hit back.
 
Sheesh Rebelgirl, I told you that some parents would not listen and think their child is innocent, same thing happened to me with Markus my oldest son, What happened was he got punched in the stomach by two 6th graders when he was in 4th grade on the bus, Markus got off the bus in tears, and told me what had happened, Right away I phoned the school and the transportation, The principal said that they will take care of it the first thing in the morning and would want Markus to pointed out the two 6th graders. The following morning, Markus pointed out two students right after they all got off the bus, while the principal waited outside at the front of the school for bus number 4 to arrive, which that would be Markus's bus. Then the two other students were taken to the office and got suspended for 3 days and if they do it again they would not allow to ride the bus anymore, and would be required to have a parents or adult to drop them off and pick up from school. I was so thrill to hear how all this had turned out for the better,


Until then, one of the boys mother disagree with the punishment that her son was suspended for beating someone up, She came to school and wanted to set up a meeting with me, the principal, and her because she felt that her son was frame for something he did not do.

The meeting was set up, I believe two days later, The boy's mother, the principal, the bus driver, and I were at the meeting. The principal let the mother speak first, and she went on about how her son is so innocent that he would never hurt a fly, and felt that her son was frame because of his color of skin. I was like whoaaaaaaa!! :shock: If color of the skin was the issue, then Markus wouldn't be have friends who are black. The color of skin has nothing to do with anything! It's the action that her son did to my son.

So then, the bus driver spoke and said that she was the driver of the bus and that she had several witness who said who was hitting whom, and stated that Markus was very upset, She had to order two bully up front seats after dropping Markus off. It shut the mother up after-all, She had nothing else to say other than that her son is just being a boy. It sure shows to me that she doesn't care about her son's action, what he did was wrong. But, whatever :roll: I'm just glad that it was taken care of and he wasn't bothered anymore on the bus until Jordan came along. This year, Jordan was bullied by a female student who is in 6th grade. What's with the 6 graders??!! Are they acting like they are all big, strong and think they can beat up someone smaller than them?! :|
 
yea u told me on aim, i cant believe that she is... if she is play with ur mind then call cops once... too bad for her.. :thumb:
 
RebelGirl said:
in my case, its verbal abuse and not yet to be physical abuse. That's why I'm doing something NOW before it goes to far. If my daughter does get beat up badly, yes, I'll be reporting it to the police for assault. But I will not allow my kid hit them back but to go to an adult and let them know first. My daughter tells me most of everything that's going on in her life. Its important to be a "friend" to your child so you can understand her/him better. I always explain to my child about personal things such as sex, sexual molestation, bullies, not riding in the car with strangers.. We even have our own secret code in case if someone says "your mom told me to pick you up" She'll say what's the code. if the person doesn't know then she'll know not to go with them. Its very important to communicate with your child.

maybe you can learn our advices instead cuz most of them agrees with me and i agree with most of them too. I hate to say but i disagreed with you about hitting back.
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:gpost: Well said sis Rebelgirl!! :applause:
 
^Angel^ said:
:gpost: Well said sis Rebelgirl!! :applause:
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Becarefully what you totally agree about verbal abuse. It is easily to break a law or file on lawsuit againsit a person for verbal abuse...
 
Interesting...

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/bullies.html

Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Tell your child to look the bully in the eye and say something like, "I want you to stop right now." Counsel your child to then walk away and ignore any further taunts. Encourage your child to "walk tall" and hold his or her head up high (using this type of body language sends a message that your child isn't vulnerable). Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and by walking away, or ignoring hurtful emails or instant messages, your child will be telling the bully that he or she just doesn't care. Sooner or later, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother your child.
 
Cheri said:
Guess I am on ignored. :(
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What were you doing at 5 in morning? Still waiting for your shinning knight on Webcam?

You did the right things to contact school officals about your son's situation. Taht's exactly what I expected you. Don't worry about the mother since she wanted to protect their family name's reputation.

Sorry about your second son for being beaten up by tall girls. Tell your son to be patience to wait for a few more years to grow taller than girls...

Feel better that I answer for your post? :thumb:
 
Mookie said:
What were you doing at 5 in morning? Still waiting for your shinning knight on Webcam?

You did the right things to contact school officals about your son's situation. Taht's exactly what I expected you. Don't worry about the mother since she wanted to protect their family name's reputation.

Sorry about your second son for being beaten up by tall girls. Tell your son to be patience to wait for a few more years to grow taller than girls...

Feel better that I answer for your post? :thumb:
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Yep, :mrgreen: I was up early cuz I had a lot to do before the birthday party this weekend for my boys birthday, since both of their birthdays are in Jan. ;) I'm not worried about Jordan, because Markus is the big brother who would watch out for his little brother, which he did by getting his brother's hat back from that 6th grader female bully. Isn't it sweet to have someone to watch over your shoulders? :thumb:
 
Mookie said:
Becarefully what you totally agree about verbal abuse. It is easily to break a law or file on lawsuit againsit a person for verbal abuse...
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Huh?...


Cheri said:
Guess I am on ignored
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Aw sis, why say that?... :hug:
 
 
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