Methadone: to use or not to use

My biological father was a IV heroin user. He died of Hepatitis B back in 1982. I was 13.
 
Frisky Feline said:
I know but think of your future, will it flush your dream going into the toliet when he may become addicting to something stronger than methodane because of his habits. i know it will affect the relationship.

She and her date know each other before 3 weeks but they are in relationship for three weeks. She knows that he wants to make it work with her. But there are few things about him that bothers her, for example, he sweats a lot, he got tired very easily, and he often got jerk in his body when he goes to bed that she feels uncomfortable about it. She has a normal life until she met him as a former drug addict. It isn't easy for her either.
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She should know that reciting a marriage vow is not like a line from movie.

I, (her name), take you, (her name), to be my husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. I, (her name), take you, (her name), for my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
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if she's not ready to accept that vow to her heart... she's definitely not ready for any marriage even with a "normal" guy.

So a big question is.... does she expect same in return from her husband if she's very sick?
 
what if there would be a craving or trigger, or high risk situation for his relapse that would happen? :|
 
Jiro said:
She should know that reciting a marriage vow is not like a line from movie.



if she's not ready to accept that vow to her heart... she's definitely not ready for any marriage even with a "normal" guy.

So a big question is.... does she expect same in return from her husband if she's very sick?
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She is ready for cancer or any other things but drug abuse. That is not soemthing what she does not want to deal with. She had experiences with a certain guy before and she would not go down there again. She does not do any drugs.
 
Frisky Feline said:
what if there would be a craving or trigger, or high risk situation for his relapse that would happen? :|
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same question can be asked for her - what if the stress or situation made her turn into an alcoholic? cuz of.... postpartum depression?
 
Frisky Feline said:
She is ready for cancer or any other things but drug abuse. That is not soemthing what she does not want to deal with. She had experiences with a certain guy before and she would not go down there again. She does not do any drugs.
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well then it's pretty obvious. "sorry. i can't do this. it's not you. it's me. good bye."
 
Jiro said:
same question can be asked for her - what if the stress or situation made her turn into an alcoholic? cuz of.... postpartum depression?
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:slap: you purrfectly know what this thread meant to be. lol
 
Really hard to trust a recovering drug addict. Lots of relapses.
 
Frisky Feline said:
:slap: you purrfectly know what this thread meant to be. lol
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nah. I see double standard but if she's like that... then it's best if she just ends the relationship because they will always have a fight about it at later date and again and again over same issue. and the guy's better off with a girl who would be very understanding.
 
sometimes, being a very understanding can go too far and become bitter at a much later. :|
 
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No offense, but if this is an issue when the relationship is only three weeks old: the drug addiction isn't the problem; someone is looking for faults.
 
souggy said:
Wirelessly posted

No offense, but if this is an issue when the relationship is only three weeks old: the drug addiction isn't the problem; someone is looking for faults.
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True. Actually, She's not ready for dumping him yet. She has a few concern questions to ask him such as how long has he been on treatment, how much is treatment and will he reduce taking it or not.

She really likes him very much. She's willing to check things out first to give her more comfort to understand about it.
 
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Jiro said:
simple - ask the doctor. or drug hotline.
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You beat me to it, but, I was going to suggest the same thing. We're not equipped to figure out whether this guy has a problem or not. It's best left up to someone who has direct knowledge such as a drug addiction specialist.

FF...I would strongly suggest that you consult a professional. If necessary, they can help you get this person into treatment.

Good luck.
 
souggy said:
Wirelessly posted

No offense, but if this is an issue when the relationship is only three weeks old: the drug addiction isn't the problem; someone is looking for faults.
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I agree. It's hard to figure out what is going on. I also don't think this is for the forum to debate or figure out. One or both of the persons involved needs professional help; either from couples counseling or a drug addiction specialist (whichever is applicable to the situation).
 
Oceanbreeze said:
You beat me to it, but, I was going to suggest the same thing. We're not equipped to figure out whether this guy has a problem or not. It's best left up to someone who has direct knowledge such as a drug addiction specialist.

FF...I would strongly suggest that you consult a professional. If necessary, they can help you get this person into treatment.

Good luck.
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I agree. I would mention this to her and according to her statement that he goes to the hospital every morning before he goes to work or other errands. He's in the treatment program at the hospital. The way it sounds that he is doing as he takes care of himself. so

She did google as much as she learns more. I ll mention about seeing someone who's a professional to give some information more in reality. Thanks.
 
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