medical issue?

Bottesini said:
The extreme vulgarity and obscenity in the way you referred to your wife and stepdaughter are not normal.

They are characteristic symptom of some brain tumors. The assessing doctor should be aware of this.
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I understand your concern on the subjects, but Im not the only one who says that ( my friends, my daughter and even friends of theirs say the same ) My wife sister (and her ex hubby) even says she is a hard person to live with, and I should have ran years ago. Well, we live and learn.
But no its not said out of some voices in my head... it is from the way they are and their attitudes towards me.

Example: Her daughter will disagree and rebel when told to do something or whatever the situation is, and when you say something they wont answer and lastly their response is... " Im not Deaf" or "At least I can hear"
and so many more and all along my wife doesnt correct them or gets mad at me because I will call them out. they are lazy and dont do any chores and expect me to clean after them... Nope, Im done with these little turds of hers as well as her. Her daughter talks to me like Im some punk kid at school or something so when I call her out at how lazy she is, she crys like a 2 year old, I told her if she is gonna put her big girl panties on, Im gonna talk to her like a big girl, suck it up, its the real world, she is 16. and so much more... All I will say, and to be nice about it is.... Im glad she is not my kid.
 
sonocativo said:
I understand your concern on the subjects, but Im not the only one who says that ( my friends, my daughter and even friends of theirs say the same ) My wife sister (and her ex hubby) even says she is a hard person to live with, and I should have ran years ago. Well, we live and learn.
But no its not said out of some voices in my head... it is from the way they are and their attitudes towards me.

Example: Her daughter will disagree and rebel when told to do something or whatever the situation is, and when you say something they wont answer and lastly their response is... " Im not Deaf" or "At least I can hear"
and so many more and all along my wife doesnt correct them or gets mad at me because I will call them out. they are lazy and dont do any chores and expect me to clean after them... Nope, Im done with these little turds of hers as well as her. Her daughter talks to me like Im some punk kid at school or something so when I call her out at how lazy she is, she crys like a 2 year old, I told her if she is gonna put her big girl panties on, Im gonna talk to her like a big girl, suck it up, its the real world, she is 16. and so much more... All I will say, and to be nice about it is.... Im glad she is not my kid.
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No one ever said raising teenagers is an easy job....and most all teens are somewhat "lazy". And of course, the smart mouth here and there. But you are the adult. And there are much better ways of repremanding a teen than calling them names, insulting them...even calling them "lazy"....Name calling is taboo!...And "asking" not "demanding" is the best way to go....

And feel you being the "step-parent" has something to do with it also....I, too, was so frustrated about 1 of my boys room...such a mess all the time!...Fussing, grounding never worked...so I just shut their door....and when he complained of nothing clean to wear...I would just say "you didn't put ur dirty clothes in the laundry room"...and left it at that....I also spent more time with him, quality time together....and after a few months, things got to be much better....Now, he's 21....and clean as a whistle!...Patience is the key...with all teens. NO amount of fussing, insulting will work.
 
rockin'robin said:
No one ever said raising teenagers is an easy job....and most all teens are somewhat "lazy". And of course, the smart mouth here and there. But you are the adult. And there are much better ways of repremanding a teen than calling them names, insulting them...even calling them "lazy"....Name calling is taboo!...And "asking" not "demanding" is the best way to go....

And feel you being the "step-parent" has something to do with it also....I, too, was so frustrated about 1 of my boys room...such a mess all the time!...Fussing, grounding never worked...so I just shut their door....and when he complained of nothing clean to wear...I would just say "you didn't put ur dirty clothes in the laundry room"...and left it at that....I also spent more time with him, quality time together....and after a few months, things got to be much better....Now, he's 21....and clean as a whistle!...Patience is the key...with all teens. NO amount of fussing, insulting will work.
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RR... You can ask in the nices way, say pretty please with sugar on top and they will straight up blurt out "NO" !
They have all been dianosed with ADD/ADHD and now Bi-Polar which adds to the mix. I even get told, you cant tell us what to do, you are not our dad...ect... And talking to their dad, he says he cant even talk to his own kids ( same reaction ) mom just let them run all over her too long and they became accostomed to it. Mom agrees she gave them too much say and freedom but she wont correct them because they threaten to run away from home... and guess what... I get blamed for that too.
Im just glad my wife is agreeable for me to be primary of our son since she works all day and does nothing but sleep whenever she is home ( she wont get up til 4pm weekends and so you see where its going, I watch my son damn near 24/7 anyways. Now I just got to get that house together.
I am still on the list for an apartment in town, so if it comes up soon I will move there with my boy away from all this drama. I just wish everyone could see for themselves.
 
Unfortunately if these things are not a part of their lives growing up, it is very hard to change when they become teens. Both parents have to be a team. If one is always giving in the kids will take over. Plus kids learn what they live, if there is not a loving, caring, safe place away from name calling then you can't really blame them. It is how they were raised. Parenting is the most important job in the world. IMO!!!
 
Angel1989 said:
Unfortunately if these things are not a part of their lives growing up, it is very hard to change when they become teens. Both parents have to be a team. If one is always giving in the kids will take over. Plus kids learn what they live, if there is not a loving, caring, safe place away from name calling then you can't really blame them. It is how they were raised. Parenting is the most important job in the world. IMO!!!
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Yes, I know. I raised my daughter since she was 3, alone. Mom wanted to run wild, so she gave me full custody and left, moved out of state and only seen her daughter a few times. My daughter is a TKD blackbelt, A+ student. Graduated college and working as a Vet Tech in Surgery, she is 19. So, I did really good raising her. She had a few friends in school ( one shop lifted, the other drugs ) there was an incident once at the Mall her friend picked up something and got stopped, they detained all of them because they were as a group. Once they found who had it they were released, My daughter was upset that I was right about her friends but it scared her enough to make better friends. Her other friends would cuss their parents out and did so in front of me once, I looked at my daughter and told her straight up, " If you EVER do that to me, you will have a boot print on your hind end and out the door" and she knew I was serious as a heart attack too. She had everything she ever wanted and was a happy child, been through alot with me. Today she is a fine young woman with a great career, looking for her first house with her boyfriend of 6 years who is an awesome kid from a loving family as well.
 
Raising my 3 boys (adopted), coming from alcoholic/drug parents was no easy task!...and I admit, I made many mistakes along the way. They were wild and rowdy....and it was a 24/7 job.

I'm sorry you were not able to help with these children, Mike....it's very hard to raise teenagers.
 
Thanks, its been 5 years and they were decent the first year till they went to the next levels in school and started hanging with the "bad boy" club in high school/middle school. I give up.

Going to go as soon as my wife gets home, dont have a vehicle.
 
rockin'robin said:
Raising my 3 boys (adopted), coming from alcoholic/drug parents was no easy task!...and I admit, I made many mistakes along the way. They were wild and rowdy....and it was a 24/7 job.

I'm sorry you were not able to help with these children, Mike....it's very hard to raise teenagers.
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RR this is a very sweet message, made me smile. You should be very proud of yourself raising three boys by yourself.
They can stray so quickly if you don't stay involved in their lives. So hard when we both worked. Sports help and keeps them out of trouble. All the hours we spent at baseball, soccer, softball, gymnastics and karate OMG. Thank god they all turned out to be incredible adults. I have a great spouse and my parents were a significant part of their lives. I got sick when my youngest was around eight and that brings a whole bunch of new challenges.
 
Its 606am, just got home from the ER... did an EKG, CAT scan, and monitored me for hours, turned out to be Vertigo, got a couple scripts to fill later and hope it takes care of it. When my head started spinning my heartrate would drop as well and cause a more severe dizziness from time to time. So, Heart and brain are both good, just something with the inner ear causing all the issues.
 
Glad it's only vertigo though its no fun. Read the precautions on the meds. I had vertigo (though not as bad as yours) a few years ago & was given meds ... which could cause vertigo. I managed to wait out the vertigo without taking the meds.
 
sonocativo said:
Its 606am, just got home from the ER... did an EKG, CAT scan, and monitored me for hours, turned out to be Vertigo, got a couple scripts to fill later and hope it takes care of it. When my head started spinning my heartrate would drop as well and cause a more severe dizziness from time to time. So, Heart and brain are both good, just something with the inner ear causing all the issues.
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I hope the drugs work for you. However, they are just for the symptoms rather than the cause. You need to look into what is causing the inner ear problems. As I said, it's probably either viral, allergy or physical problem with inner ear.

Hope it all works out.
 
I've have and had Vertigo from time to time. Not very pleasent and the nausea, along with the lights flashing....but not severe enough to take any meds for it...yet....

It's scary whenever I do have an episode, can't hear or see due to the dizzness....I use my eyes a heck of a lot...along with the daily stress...so I do try to get as much rest as I can and when I feel an episode coming , I lay down until it passes. And feel "light-headed" for several hours....I don't drive....

Hope the meds work for you...seems you may have a severe case of Vertigo.
 
I just tried generic Dramamine (meclizine) for the first time a few days ago. It is OTC, and inexpensive.
 
Doc thinks it due to wearing my hearing aids almost 24/7 as I dont sleep much and they are only out for a maximum of 4 hours a day or less. So my ears are not drying and fluid is building up.
 
Ever get your eyes checked out good by a eye doc? The flashing lights especially can mean the retina becoming detached. Veins on the back of the eyeball can disort and screw up everything. If possible get a picture of the back of the eyeball
 
See doctor, most likely you need to see neurologist and get MRI.

There are many different potential causes. The symptoms of flashes in your eyes can be detached retina, or optic neuritis. However those do not cause vertigo with nystamugus (involuntary movement of your eyeballs as you describe them).

However I am not medically trained, I am patient who experience similar symptoms.

Anyhow, take a look:

Symptoms | Vestibular Disorders Association

Wish you speedy recovery.
 
deafbirk said:
Ever get your eyes checked out good by a eye doc? The flashing lights especially can mean the retina becoming detached. Veins on the back of the eyeball can disort and screw up everything. If possible get a picture of the back of the eyeball
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Yes, My eyes are good, 20/20-20/15 never had issues with my vision. I have to go see my primary for a followup soon.
 
I got a prescription for meclizine last fall when I had a nasty case of vertigo, it was really bad for like 2 days, and then for 2 weeks it calmed a little bit., but was still dizzy all the time just didn't spin so fast. For a while after I always felt like I just got off an elevator, not exactly dizzy but didn't feel quite right. I never took the meclizine though, that's to treat motion sickness, and I wasn't puking.

My first ever bout of vertigo I puked though. I had been standing in front of the computer desk and I leaned for a little to look at something on the moniter and bam, room started spinning like crazy. Tried to lay on the floor, smacked my head into because I couldn't tell where the floor was. Then I started feeling nauseous and crawled on my hands and knees to the bathroom, walking was not an otpion!, and threw up, then it all went away. weird? Get vertigo every once in awhile ever since but nothing like that first episode.

I think that long bout of vertigo I got in fall of '11 happened around the same time my hearing took another nose dive...connected? or coincidence?
 
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