Is that irony??

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Hi!

I wonder if any of you ever had experiences getting negative perspectives/judgements from teachers/other peers in the past? Ok, I am using my personal experience as an example. FYI, please understand this..I am not biased against anyone. I just speak out from my own ironic experience.

One Deaf student is well known at my HS and got involved in several activities. She got a scholarship from HS to attend a college. Everyone thought she would be successful upon her graduation from a college. Teachers and other peers looked down at me..they felt that I did not make it to college or university. Or maybe I end up in the jail and have any criminal records. Well, I was an outsider with a history of troublemaking...reason? I was not happy at that school in the past. I had my own personal problems and struggled with authority. I did get involved in some activities in order trying to get fit into, but it did not work out in my end. That's allright, at least I tried. Of course, I was so rebellious and not a saint. I was close to get expelled at total of three times. I made it and won my own personal battles.

Well, it is not that case. Look at that student, she end up getting a "certificate" in business. She was unable to obtain a BA/BS degree in social work due to English composition which a college mandates every student to take. She flunked it a several times. Then, she is married with two boys. She has no job and on SSI to get by. Her spouse works under the table. It is tough for them financially. :hmm:

What happen to me now? I got a BS/MS degrees at two universities, so I proved some teachers and other peers wrong. I have no criminal records thus far. *knock on the wood.*

That's so irony for someone who is an outsider ends up doing well whereas a "popular" person gets fucked up.

:roll: at teachers and other peers who wrongily passed the judgement about me...they are so retarded. :aw:

So, now, do any of you ever have a similiar experience as I do? Do tell!
 
Oddball said:
Hi!

I wonder if any of you ever had experiences getting negative perspectives/judgements from teachers/other peers in the past? Ok, I am using my personal experience as an example. FYI, please understand this..I am not biased against anyone. I just speak out from my own ironic experience.

One Deaf student is well known at my HS and got involved in several activities. She got a scholarship from HS to attend a college. Everyone thought she would be successful upon her graduation from a college. Teachers and other peers looked down at me..they felt that I did not make it to college or university. Or maybe I end up in the jail and have any criminal records. Well, I was an outsider with a history of troublemaking...reason? I was not happy at that school in the past. I had my own personal problems and struggled with authority. I did get involved in some activities in order trying to get fit into, but it did not work out in my end. That's allright, at least I tried. Of course, I was so rebellious and not a saint. I was close to get expelled at total of three times. I made it and won my own personal battles.

Well, it is not that case. Look at that student, she end up getting a "certificate" in business. She was unable to obtain a BA/BS degree in social work due to English composition which a college mandates every student to take. She flunked it a several times. Then, she is married with two boys. She has no job and on SSI to get by. Her spouse works under the table. It is tough for them financially. :hmm:

What happen to me now? I got a BS/MS degrees at two universities, so I proved some teachers and other peers wrong. I have no criminal records thus far. *knock on the wood.*

That's so irony for someone who is an outsider ends up doing well whereas a "popular" person gets fucked up.

:roll: at teachers and other peers who wrongily passed the judgement about me...they are so retarded. :aw:

So, now, do any of you ever have a similiar experience as I do? Do tell!
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Sad. I am like this person you mentioned above. It is not right for you to judge people alike her and me. My english sucks and it will always be struggle for me even I had a higher gpa. I work and still same as I was when I was younger. I worked hard but I made a choice not to get higher education alike yours. I knew so many people alike yours, some of them did well in later life but others don't. It depends on individual. Your rebellion remind me of my husband. He will always have problem with authority especailly in work field alike do what his boss tell him and he refused because he knew his boss was wrong. He is a perfectionist. He never finished high school because of what they did to him when he was younger. I understand you where you came from. I made a decision after one teacher told me What a shame on you for not being talking. I decided I never wanted to be a teacher and hurt a child alike this ever.

anyway you should be proud of yourself. :) You did well. I am glad.
 
Unfortunately many people only see one side of a person - the negative side - and not the good side!

I'm glad you were strong enough and made it through! You should be proud of yourself!

On personal level I don't have similar experience to share. I have always been nice to everybody at school even though I have been bullied most of the time. Somehow I have always been on that middle line between cool people and dorks... :shrug: which I still am nowadays....

I somehow managed my way through HS and unfortunately never felt strong enough to attend university or college... I'm sure I would have been bullied even further and I would have never made it, hence I started working right after HS.
 
It is not for me to harp on someone's misfortunes.

I don't find any joy in that.

Congratulations to you on your successes as it shows hard work pays off.
 
Consider this that you are a lucky one. just forget everyone but yourself and your own needs that makes you happy. That's your life, not everyone's.
 
There are always exceptions to the rule. In this case it's a two way street. I am happy you are doing well. All the best!
 
Oddball said:
Hi!


What happen to me now? I got a BS/MS degrees at two universities, so I proved some teachers and other peers wrong. I have no criminal records thus far. *knock on the wood.*

That's so irony for someone who is an outsider ends up doing well whereas a "popular" person gets fucked up.

:roll: at teachers and other peers who wrongily passed the judgement about me...they are so retarded. :aw:

So, now, do any of you ever have a similiar experience as I do? Do tell!
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I am one of the outsiders who did not do well. So sometimes the judgements are right. :shrug:
 
I am happy for you, Oddball.

I was always a good student so it wasnt surprising that I am where I am now but I surprised a lot of people because they admitted that they thought I would never go to college due to being deaf. Whatever.
 
I've been in a similar situation... twice.

The first time was from the director of the deaf education department. She was always putting me down and telling me how I would never do well in college and how everyone else (she names them one-by-one) will do better than me. She goes on and on about how they will get college degrees and I will spend the rest of my life living with my parents doing nothing. Well, myself along with very few other deaf students (out of 30) actually finished college and got at least one degree. The rest of them never went to college, dropped out of college, and/or are still living with their parents. Unfortunately, she died before I could go back and shove my diploma in her face.

The second time was from my VR counselor who was an asshole. He would always brag about how he got his degree from Gallaudet. He would always put me down whenever I was struggling through community college. When I wanted to go to UNT (University of North Texas), he refused to support me cuz I was "slow". He said that he would only support me if I went to community college instead, then support me when I transfer to UNT a few years later. He was willing to support everyone else when they went to RIT, but refused to support me no matter where I went (except that community college). During my time at community college, he said that since he's covering my tuition... I should cover my own books. I thought it was a reasonable deal considering how much he was paying for my tuition. After listening to him put me down over and over for 3 years about how he was wasting his money on me, I barely kept going. By the end of the 3rd year, I found out that he wasn't paying for anything since I was already going to college for free. After changing VR counselors, I got 100% full support when I went to RIT. When I arrived at RIT, I found out that almost everyone else that he supported 100% (at RIT)... flunked out of RIT. Boy, what a wonderful VR counselor he is! :roll:
 
I'm at the age where people from high school aren't trying to impress each other anymore. I'm 45. By this time, all of us have been kicked around in life and we know what's truly important. If you've got some people who care about you, you're lucky. I ended up with more education than my classmates, but I wouldn't say that I'm any happier than my classmates. Maybe when you get older you'll feel differently about it.
 
sallylou said:
I'm at the age where people from high school aren't trying to impress each other anymore. I'm 45. By this time, all of us have been kicked around in life and we know what's truly important. If you've got some people who care about you, you're lucky. I ended up with more education than my classmates, but I wouldn't say that I'm any happier than my classmates. Maybe when you get older you'll feel differently about it.
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I feel the same too. I look back, then look at today... and consider myself lucky and am happy to be where I am. I do wonder how things would be if various things were changed in life... like in The Butterfly Effect. ;)
 
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