Is spanking on the kids belong kind of abuse?

[GalaxyAngel]

I raised abused by adopt father. I had been suffered and until finally turned 16 yrs old and left my family for good.. Unwanted to see my family ever again... Should I bring my children seeing my father...err no thanks.. what he has done to me hell in my past.

I refused allow my dad seeing my children... Glad have not seen him since 1992 until now.. Extactly I can feel what Luckysmile's situation.. really painful..

Eve you quite rude remarks to luckysmile.. "Luckysmile23 acted like a spoiled BRAT." you did SPOKE to her.. That very quite inslut strong word!

Geez.

My older son has A.D.H.D. since 4 yrs old until now 14 yrs old. I can't spank him.. because he is ADHD... and have another way displinice as well.. He is great kid and bright boy!

 

[Mookie]

I raised abused by adopt father. I had been suffered and until finally turned 16 yrs old and left my family for good.. Unwanted to see my family ever again... Should I bring my children seeing my father...err no thanks.. what he has done to me hell in my past.

I refused allow my dad seeing my children... Glad have not seen him since 1992 until now.. Extactly I can feel what Luckysmile's situation.. really painful..

Eve you quite rude remarks to luckysmile.. "Luckysmile23 acted like a spoiled BRAT." you did SPOKE to her.. That very quite inslut strong word!

Geez.

My older son has A.D.H.D. since 4 yrs old until now 14 yrs old. I can't spank him.. because he is ADHD... and have another way displinice as well.. He is great kid and bright boy!

BullyMom, I do share the pain of your kid with ADHD....

Shame on you, Eve...

 

[Eve]

I raised abused by adopt father. I had been suffered and until finally turned 16 yrs old and left my family for good.. Unwanted to see my family ever again... Should I bring my children seeing my father...err no thanks.. what he has done to me hell in my past.

Again, you are confusing spanking with abuse.

NOBODY HERE HAS YET TO ANSWER MY QUESTION:Would you quit speaking to your child just to avoid being verbally abusive? Anything can be taken to an extreme.

Eve you quite rude remarks to luckysmile.. "Luckysmile23 acted like a spoiled BRAT." you did SPOKE to her.. That very quite inslut strong word!

Too bad, it's honest.

My older son has A.D.H.D. since 4 yrs old until now 14 yrs old. I can't spank him.. because he is ADHD... and have another way displinice as well.. He is great kid and bright boy!

There is a big difference between A.D.H.D. and S.I.D. A.D.H.D. is no excuse for not properly disciplining a child when they need it.

 

[Mookie]

Again, you are confusing spanking with abuse.

NOBODY HERE HAS YET TO ANSWER MY QUESTION:Would you quit speaking to your child just to avoid being verbally abusive? Anything can be taken to an extreme.

Too bad, it's honest.

There is a big difference between A.D.H.D. and S.I.D. A.D.H.D. is no excuse for not properly disciplining a child when they need it.

Becareful what you say or Heaven Father will provide you a good or bad child...

 

[GalaxyAngel]

Eve wrote:

Again, you are confusing spanking with abuse.

"SPANKING is part of abuse too"
My A-Dad did bare his hands *whooping* my butt, even his belts *whamm'n my body* kept tell me, Go work Dishes, mopping, and everything.. He put me slave whole of chores.. not let my sister or bro.. Both are HEARING... espically ME deaf.. why me ?

I started cooking when I was 5 yrs old and home alone.. After school...
My A-Dad gave me instruction:
1. Turn on the oven 350*
2. Peel the potatoes skins
3. Chopped the potatoes and put into the pot and fill up the water.
4. Shred Carrots..
So many instruction where he left on the dining table
What did you see..... my own eyes seeing Carrots, potatoes, Meats on the baking sheets.. I had to take meats on the baking sheets into the oven and turn on.. blah blah... Make me nerves.. When parents arrive home... ready the dinner... eat eat eat gobbling... then finished... tell you have to clean up the dine table... I had to whole work...
Almost everyday afterschool... even weekends Only chores other do.. Mom do work cooking.. I rested for wknd but still work work chores tidy garabge, laundry and much more... I LIVE HELL ADOPT PARENT...
BASTARD DAD!!

My husband was kind surprised and knows... My adopt mother and sister already explained to my husband what happend my childhood. My husband did yelling "Why she start FIVE YEARS OLD?" That nuts!!!
I have not much fun play w/my siblings..

*Done my venting* (break my heart) I've already open too much here..
*sigh*


Obvouisly you have not experience ABUSED or HELL STOOPID SPANKING.. Probably your parent give you tiny spank! That small! Sounds you have harshly remarks to other members.. You know-it-all... :sure: Bravo.. keep letcure(sp)You think , Oh that... right for displince spanking or not that right abuse.. blah blah.. I don't need frigg'n your comment..

 

[Mookie]

Eve, you happy now? Please leave BullyMom fraking alone.....

Dear BullyMom,

Oh boy, you are the tough cookie...I do deeply apologize for your terrible childhood. I can't imagine why....

I wonder if you may have seen your mother, brother and sister yet? You do not have to answer since it is none of my business.

Dont' look in past, just go forward and march on......

You are the best mother who does not believe in spanking. Watch your beloved children growing up in your peaceful environment.

 

[jazzy]

Eve wrote:

"SPANKING is part of abuse too"
My A-Dad did bare his hands *whooping* my butt, even his belts *whamm'n my body* kept tell me, Go work Dishes, mopping, and everything.. He put me slave whole of chores.. not let my sister or bro.. Both are HEARING... espically ME deaf.. why me ?

I started cooking when I was 5 yrs old and home alone.. After school...
My A-Dad gave me instruction:
1. Turn on the oven 350*
2. Peel the potatoes skins
3. Chopped the potatoes and put into the pot and fill up the water.
4. Shred Carrots..
So many instruction where he left on the dining table
What did you see..... my own eyes seeing Carrots, potatoes, Meats on the baking sheets.. I had to take meats on the baking sheets into the oven and turn on.. blah blah... Make me nerves.. When parents arrive home... ready the dinner... eat eat eat gobbling... then finished... tell you have to clean up the dine table... I had to whole work...
Almost everyday afterschool... even weekends Only chores other do.. Mom do work cooking.. I rested for wknd but still work work chores tidy garabge, laundry and much more... I LIVE HELL ADOPT PARENT...
BASTARD DAD!!

My husband was kind surprised and knows... My adopt mother and sister already explained to my husband what happend my childhood. My husband did yelling "Why she start FIVE YEARS OLD?" That nuts!!!
I have not much fun play w/my siblings..

*Done my venting* (break my heart) I've already open too much here..
*sigh*


Obvouisly you have not experience ABUSED or HELL STOOPID SPANKING.. Probably your parent give you tiny spank! That small! Sounds you have harshly remarks to other members.. You know-it-all... :sure: Bravo.. keep letcure(sp)You think , Oh that... right for displince spanking or not that right abuse.. blah blah.. I don't need frigg'n your comment..

This story reminds me of cinderalla. Sorry you had a such terrible childhood.

 

[jazzy]

Eve, what was your question again? I am against spanking cuz it is form of child abuse. Maybe not to you but it is to me. That is my IHMO.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

it show your true color. You show yourself what the kind person you are. No wonder that you has the problem with anyone.

In that case, you’re acting like an ass.

wow, this is an insult...

You obviously didn’t have a nature childbirth experience, did you? I can assure you, my fun ended with conception.

Don´t deny my post. I said I owe my children NOTHING because they are my WISH children.. I love them dearly. It´s mother´s nature and love.

I am certainly not saying that you are wrong for disciplining your children in your own way, but you can certainly go straight to hell, do not pass go, do not collect $200, if you think I am going to sit by idly while you lecture me on my parenting style.

Me lecture you... I thought you are interesting to share the feedback/agree/disagree with us here. wow, you don´t have to post in my thread if you don´t like it. Why you continue to post to cause more problem because you don´t like my or others´s posts? Do you expect us to agree with you all the time?

Did I ever use the word “liar”? No, I don’t think so. As for respect, where was your respect for your mother?

No, it´s not word "liar" but it´s way of your posting to describe Luckysmile into liar and bad person. We all see that you didn´t know how to respect anyone but cause the problem.

Exactly my point, all we have is YOUR version of what happened, which could be completely different from your mother’s version. As Patty said, there are always 3 sides to a story.

Really? You keep on saying there´re alway 3 sides to a story but what about yourself? You keep saying to anyone in some threads here about your problem with stepchildren, ex spouse, etc. etc. etc for months.

See the example of your post here in my thread:

Eve´s earlier post.
My husband’s ex-wife told my stepson that if I spanked him, I would go to jail. I took him to the police station and asked one of the police officers if I would go to jail if I spanked him. The officer informed my SS that I would NOT go to jail if I spanked him unless I beat him to the point of leaving bruises (which I would never do). Consequently, I do not have to spank my SS because he knows that the consequence is there, he doesn’t push the limits to the point of needing a spanking. Some children will be defiant until they realize that there is a meaningful consequence available for their behavior.

Have you see anyone disrespect your post tell you to need 3 sided to a story or accussed you as abusive mother? It´s disrespectful and judgement what you did to Luckysmile. *shake the head*

You should shame yourself for insult anyone here in my thread because NOBODY here disrespect or judge your posts... *shake the head*

I didn’t name calling you either, I stated that you ACTED like a spoiled brat, which you did.

And by the looks of it, you are STILL acting like a spoiled brat, and might I add, SELF-ABSORBED as well.

No wonder, you denied it.

You name "Spoiled brat" & "self-absorbed"? You said this YOURSELF.

And yet you brought it up.

*shake the head*

And I’m not the only one who considers you and Luckysmile23 as disrespectful and judgmental. Get over it.

And I see that you have been disrespectful and judgmental of others throughout this entire topic.

Nobody here but yourself.

I am not interesting to repeat my previous posts to you the reason why I create my thread here is help the people and share our feedback... I won´t let you to spoil my good thread here. You already put the people down in my thread. You see this yourself how the people don´t like you for that.

Now I´m going to ask you to leave my thread please if you consider my thread as judgement & disrespectful. I´m not interesting to play immature games with you to spoil my good thread here but share the feedback/opinion in agreement/disagreement respectful. You are welcome to share your posts here with us with your feedback/opinion only if you act in respectful way instead of upset us and accussed us because you dont like our posts....

uhhhh, YEAH you did.

Can you show me the link or paste where I judge you because I didn´t find it.

Practice what you preach, sister.

you didnt know how to respect anyone.

I would be happy to apologize to her if I felt I owed her an apology, but alas, I DON’T. However, I will apologize to her when she apologizes to her mother for being such an ingrate.

I can´t remember for seeing you apology for your rude behavior toward anyone because you don´t like to admit your mistake. It´s you!

And yet this topic isn’t about SID, now is it?

I see nothing wrong that Luckysmile post to explain us what SID is and explain why spankling is no good. I find the link, Luckysmile gave is interesting because it relate "spanking"/"abuse" on my thread

boo frickin hoo

It shows yourself...

No, you created this thread to tell other people how to parent their children. You have no respect for anyone’s ways but your own.

I see the problem is you don´t like that we have different opinion than you I feel sorry for you.

*cough*bullshit*cough* Examples of where you have accused several members of “abusing” their children:

Me accused members here because I consider spanking as abuse... I´m not only person who consider spanking as abuse. *shake the head* You are the most diffuiclt person that anyone can resolve the issues with. No wonder that you has the problem with anyone. *shake the head* There´re no accusation show in my posts toward members here but consider my opinion.... I see nothing wrong when anyone consider their own opinion different than me. It´s difference between judgement and opinion. I consider it as "hurt" when parents, husband and wife hurt each other with their own hands is an abuse... Yes, it´s my opinion. I can´t see the reason why you are upset over my opinion.

bite me.

then bite yourself

Now I´m DONE!

I´m asking you to leave my thread please. You cause more problem and upset members in my good thread here. The members already said that they like to share their feedback/opinion how to deal with the children. If you are not interesting to share our discussion then leave my thread alone please. I have to report Admin. or Moderator if you cause more problem again in my thread.

Thank you for attention.

 

[Cookie Monster]

Alrighty, I can see this is a sensitive issue for all parents and parents to be. I would love for this thread to be kept open so please don't flame this or start a flaming war. Whether I provoked anyone here, I apologise. Let's stick to the agree to disagree adage. Let's go back to our cages and simmer out. :P

 

[Liebling:-)))]

mld4ds, I´m surprise to see you as good person here to share your feeling with us. I appreciate it very much what you did in my thread

Bullym0m, thank you for share your post here to show us how you feel about spankling as abuse. It´s very very very sad to read your story... It touch my heart and can´t image how suffer you had been through.

Jazzy, yes I second that.

Cookie Monster, your apologise is accept to all of us here. We appreciate it very much. It shows that you are a good person

Alrighty, I can see this is a sensitive issue for all parents and parents to be. I would love for this thread to be kept open so please don't flame this or start a flaming war. Whether I provoked anyone here, I apologise. Let's stick to the agree to disagree adage. Let's go back to our cages and simmer out.

Dear friends,
Please don´t take Eve´s posts as serious/personal.

 

[Mookie]

=Liebling))]mld4ds, I´m surprise to see you as good person here to share your feeling with us. I appreciate it very much what you did in my thread

Can I have your permission to be a bad dude like RS?

Never mind, Thanks...

 

[Angel]

Again, you are confusing spanking with abuse.

They're not confused Eve, This is how some parents do see " spanking " as a form of an abuse to them when other parents out there who doesn't see it that way... There is nothing wrong with parents feeling this way or saying it may hurt their children...I can truly understand how they feel when it comes to spanking their children, if they feel it would hurt their children then let them be....You can't expect others to see it the way you're hoping them to see...

We're suppose to be able to disagree to agree in a nicer way, but it sure doesn't look like it going into that direction here....

I do spank my children and I'm not shame of doing so, if others think its an abuse that fine, but to me it isn't....so I'm not going to sit here and agrue about it but to understand where each of them are coming from....that's all I can do cause I can't change people's mind out there and say it isn't when they don't see it that way....

 

[Mookie]

They're not confused Eve, This is how some parents do see " spanking " as a form of an abuse to them when other parents out there who doesn't see it that way... There is nothing wrong with parents feeling this way or saying it may hurt their children...I can truly understand how they feel when it comes to spanking their children, if they feel it would hurt their children then let them be....You can't expect others to see it the way you're hoping them to see...

We're suppose to be able to disagree to agree in a nicer way, but it sure doesn't look like it going into that direction here....

I do spank my children and I'm not shame of doing so, if others think its an abused that fine, but to me it isn't....so I'm not going to sit here and agrue about it but to understand where each of them are coming from....that's all I can do cause I can't change people's mind out there and say it isn't when they don't see it that way....

Maybe you need to contact 911Nanny and she will give you techniques how to discipline your kids without spanking....

 

[Angel]

Maybe you need to contact 911Nanny and she will give you techniques how to discipline your kids without spanking....

No thanks!

 

[Mookie]

No thanks!

Too shy on camera?

I thought you may want to earn a great prize like a cruise. It's a perfect honeymoon gift for you and RR...

 

[Angel]

Too shy on camera?

I thought you may want to earn a great prize like a cruise. It's a perfect honeymoon gift for you and RR...

Yes I'm a camera shy!

That would be REAL nice since I've always wanted to go to Hawaii...

Maybe you could go on the camera take my place and pretend you're me?...

 

[Liebling:-)))]

mld4ds, please respect when Angel has different opinion than us. It doesn´t mean that Angel is a bad mother because she has different form of discplline on their children. That´s way how her discpline on her children work on her well.


Thank you for posting, Angel... I appeciate it very much...

 

[Angel]

mld4ds, please respect when Angel has different opinion than us. It doesn´t mean that Angel is a bad mother because she has different form of discplline on their children. That´s way how her discpline on her children work on her well.


Thank you for posting, Angel... I appeciate it very much...

It's alright I can handle mld4ds *patting on top of his head*....

And You're very welcome

 

[Mookie]

mld4ds, please respect when Angel has different opinion than us. It doesn´t mean that Angel is a bad mother because she has different form of discplline on their children. That´s way how her discpline on her children work on her well.


Thank you for posting, Angel... I appeciate it very much...

Liebling, Whoa...take it easy. I have not started a flame...maybe I am too lazy to start a next sentence so that you would understand peacefully...

Angel knows I was kidding...