Is society more tolerant with teenage boys than teenage girls??

Daredevel7 said:
Oh they let me go out, but it's SUCH a process and a problem it's almost not even worth going out. When I go out, I have to tell my mom where Im going, when Im coming back, who I am going to be with, which roads I am taking to go there. Is that enough? Nope. She STILL texts me "where are you?" and if I don't respond within 5 minutes, she assumes that I am dead/kidnapped/eaten. My aunt, who is actually WORSE with me, lets her sons go out without even asking them where they are going or when they will be back. All she asks for is that they call her when it's getting late. I pointed out to my aunt how she lets her sons do anything with no questions asked and they give me the 3rd degree. Her response? "You're a girl. They can rape you. You might drink and your guy "friends" can rape you."

Makes my blood boil.
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Wow, that sucks, sorry about that.. I think it's too much when accusing as raped/kidnapped/eaten just because of the unanswered message over 5 min..

I also remember my parents was so much nosy on me when I leave the house alone, it's annoying. I understand how you feel..
 
I can't really say who had more freedom. I lived in the dorms for much of my teenage years. And my brothers at home.

During the summer months we would all be home. I feel that it was about the same for my brothers and I.
 
PuyoPiyo said:
Maybe boys tend to be stronger and able to do much of works compare to the girls? Also I know it's because the girls are more in risk to be raped compare to the boys..
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What do you mean stronger?





Also, sheltering girls and whatnot is obviously not stopping rape.
 
Daredevel7 said:
Also Cuban culture!!!! :mad::mad::mad::mad:
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I have noticed that the Spanish culture are more protective over girls than guys.

Guys are more of proving their macholiam. And given more freedom. While the girls are more sheltered to stay home to tend to the family.
 
Babyblue said:
I have noticed that the Spanish culture are more protective over girls than guys.

Guys are more of proving their macholiam. And given more freedom. While the girls are more sheltered to stay home to tend to the family.
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I think gender roles are even more strictly defined in the Hispanic culture. I am on the edge of Appalachia, and I find that the gender roles are strictly defined in this area as well, as compared to some of the more urban areas.
 
Babyblue said:
I have noticed that the Spanish culture are more protective over girls than guys.

Guys are more of proving their macholiam. And given more freedom. While the girls are more sheltered to stay home to tend to the family.
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Yep about the bolded statement. However, the more Americanized families, even though they still hold on to some of those characteristics you mentioned, are becoming lenient with women going off to college. Also, if the woman does not have kids, the family does persuade the woman to work or go to college nearby home.

In the Spanish culture, it's more about the men/older generation thinking that young women need to be protected rather than women are below men, if that makes sense? Education and career wise, it's encouraged for women, but not being watched or protected by their husband or parents is when they freak the hell out. (i.e. going off to college away from home, not living with the parents/husband, and so on.). Also, we are BIG on family, if you move away from family (or at least don't visit them often), it's a direct attack on family.
 
Babyblue said:
I have noticed that the Spanish culture are more protective over girls than guys.

Guys are more of proving their macholiam. And given more freedom. While the girls are more sheltered to stay home to tend to the family.
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Right. And that is because of our gender binary, patriarchial culture.
 
Daredevel7 said:
Yep about the bolded statement. However, the more Americanized families, even though they still hold on to some of those characteristics you mentioned, are becoming lenient with women going off to college. Also, if the woman does not have kids, the family does persuade the woman to work or go to college nearby home.

In the Spanish culture, it's more about the men/older generation thinking that young women need to be protected rather than women are below men, if that makes sense? Education and career wise, it's encouraged for women, but not being watched or protected by their husband or parents is when they freak the hell out. (i.e. going off to college away from home, not living with the parents/husband, and so on.). Also, we are BIG on family, if you move away from family (or at least don't visit them often), it's a direct attack on family.
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Yup.

My mom was married to a Mexican for 16 years. I have seen a lot on my Step Dads side.

I think the cool part, is how close knitted the family is.
 
Guys are also given degraded names when they don't step up for something, or don't act.
Jabroni. Wimp. Wuss. Pussy. Sissie.

Meanwhile, it becomes accepted for petite girls to be already considered as one of those.
Girls have to actually "man up" to show that they aren't.
 
naisho said:
Guys are also given degraded names when they don't step up for something, or don't act.
Jabroni. Wimp. Wuss. Pussy. Sissie.

Meanwhile, it becomes accepted for petite girls to be already considered as one of those.
Girls have to actually "man up" to show that they aren't.
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Those are classic examples which demonstrate how gender polarizations and roles hurt men; and how the Male Standard affects women.
 
naisho said:
Guys are also given degraded names when they don't step up for something, or don't act.
Jabroni. Wimp. Wuss. Pussy. Sissie.

Meanwhile, it becomes accepted for petite girls to be already considered as one of those.
Girls have to actually "man up" to show that they aren't.
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I agree.

Men do get the brunt of having to be the strong one. Not being allowed to cry or show weakness in front of each other.

So Society treats men differently as well.
 
SFShawn13 said:
Lol, glad my minor in women and gender studies is coming in handy :giggle:
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Please do share more of what you learned. :)

I know it is inevitable that gender roles will always be different in some form or shape.
 
Babyblue said:
Please do share more of what you learned. :)

I know it is inevitable that gender roles will always be different in some form or shape.
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Well I just finished my first year, my major is psychology. So far I have learned a lot about how gender is a social construct, gender polarization, roles, norms, and the so called "differences between men and women." I also learned about cultures where there is more than 1 gender, people who do not identify with any gender or have their own gender, transsexualism, transgenderism, gender variance, the Male Standard, Feminism, etc.

Basically, I think for men and women to be treated equally (on a social/cultural and legal level) gender roles and expectations need to go away. It has to be okay for a straight male to cry and wear lipstick and not be called a fag, and the same goes for women (though, gender roles are typically more relaxed for women).

You should read Female Chauvinist Pigs by Ariel Levy, its really good.

Anyways!
 
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