In France, It May Become Illegal to Call Your Spouse Fat

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In France, It May Become Illegal to Call Your Spouse Fat - That's Fit

As obese and overweight people know all too well, judgment about your appearance isn't always kind. But for women in France, harsh weight criticism from a partner or boyfriend could become criminal.

National Public Radio recently reported on a proposed law in France that could make it illegal to mentally abuse your loved one. The abuse could cover a range of verbal threats, including berating someone over their weight. It's not clear exactly where the line would be drawn on this issue in courts, potentially making it difficult to enforce. But it's très intéressant nonetheless.

Does it seem like a radical move? Joan C. Chrisler, professor of psychology at Connecticut College, doesn't think so. "Insulting remarks from spouses or parents are particularly likely to hurt relationships," she said. "Studies show that teasing among peers hurts and marginalizes overweight children, and comments from coaches and teachers have been reported by girls with eating disorders as the spark that ignited their anorexic or bulimic behavior."

The law has been proposed because insults in a marriage can often be a sign of a an even bigger problem. "Intimate partner violence is a big problem in most societies," said Chrisler. "Most physical abusers also abuse their partners psychologically, primarily through a pattern of insulting and demeaning comments."

For overweight and obese individuals, frequent insults can not only hurt their confidence and self-esteem -- it can compromise their chances of slimming down and getting healthier. "If self-esteem and self-confidence are undermined, it can be difficult to get motivated," said Chrisler. "To change any behavior, a person has to believe that she or he is capable of making a change. That requires confidence in oneself, which the insults (if repeated) might have lessened."

Obesity is often linked to depression, and studies have show that what you eat can even trigger the blues.
 
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Legislating speech doesn't work. Didn't they learn this when Louisiana tried to legislate "sir" and "ma'am"?
 
Weird. I refer to myself as fat, and it is just a description.
 
a proposed law in France that could make it illegal to mentally abuse your loved one.

I think that is the most important distinction here. Calling someone fat once, or if it's done affectionately, it wont violate this "new" law, but belittling your partner and calling her all the fat names, then yeah I can understand why they want to outlaw mental abuse.
 
I think that is the most important distinction here. Calling someone fat once, or if it's done affectionately, it wont violate this "new" law, but belittling your partner and calling her all the fat names, then yeah I can understand why they want to outlaw mental abuse.

Well said.

Take it from me, I grew up calling myself fat and other names in the book much to the dismay of my good friends and my husband as well.

This I realised left myself open to criticism from others because they viewed myself criticising myself meaning it was okay for them to do it.

I'd complain about others calling me fat only to realise those friends who didn't like me putting myself down were actually showing me the errors of my own way in a loving way that I couldn't see it for myself.

This law is wonderful and hope it comes in effect.
 
I wonder if people will take that seriously over there? If it was passed here, I'll bet people will mock at this law.
 
Wonder if this includes Phat as well. Or is it just Fat.
 
"Fat Ass"....I've used those words (out of anger and out of affection).....I'm not fat, and I wouldn't call someone "fat" to their face if it were a stranger....not a nice thing to do....besides, it could be a medical problem. But I do get turned off by those who "stuff their faces"!
 
I have called my hubby "heavy" so I guess I am not breaking the law. :lol:
 
"Fat Ass"....I've used those words (out of anger and out of affection).....I'm not fat, and I wouldn't call someone "fat" to their face if it were a stranger....not a nice thing to do....besides, it could be a medical problem. But I do get turned off by those who "stuff their faces"!


I agree. I go to all the Dallas Mavericks and Dallas Stars games and the club level has a great buffet before every game. I have to sit in a more secluded area because it is just gross to see somebody eat 5 meals and 4 desserts in one sitting.
 
Is that so...no wonder we don't really get along with the French anymore...always dramatic abt everything.
 
It's too easy to say "fat" in other words or to just pick another word to insult your overweight spouse.

Legislating speech just doesn't work. People finds ways around it.
 
It's so hard to determine, I'd leave that to judges to decide.

But I think it's a good start. Freedom of speech does NOT mean you can abuse it.
 
"Damn, you're phat!"

*police show up and arrest me*

"What!? I never called her 'fat'!!! What did I do wrong!?"
 
Yea, I am pretty much aware of some food that the company put somethin' in to cause people overweight -- like for instance: hormone/antibotic in some meats which are not necessary, unlike organic foods that are more healthy. And, also bein' overweight could cause from the family generation - heredity/genes.

It's why we have Fit/Spa Center to go to for exercisin'. Joggin', walkin' and bicyclin' will do to help reducin' overweight.

It's possible that it could affect our country ( USA ) here after France's new law. Too many commit suicide and biopolar disorder due to callin' all these "fat" names, especially teens.
 
That is another slippery slope when freedom and liberty are concerned.
 
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