How to socialize with hearings.

u mean i'm weird or my comment is weird?? :dunno:
 
sablescort said:
If I wanted to socialize with hearies, I got a better idea...go to WORK!

Work aint just about money, its also about meeting interesting people!
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:gpost: ...I agree with Sablescort, even tho I don't work with interesting people at my job since they fight too darn much :ugh: ...

I suppose it's depending which job you work for and what type of people that you are working with...

The important thing is to be yourself and respect the people around you and you wouldn't have a problem making friends ;)...

Good Luck Miss P :D
 
Meg said:
MissP..are you afraid of meetng men because you are weak and will cave in so you feel that you have to do the extreme by avoiding them at all costs, even at expense of not making friends who could potentially match you up with a guy??? :dunno:

I think you are lot stronger than you think you are. I think you can eventually find an area where you can be assertive with men. There is no reason to be frightened of. Not all men are like that. They can handle being just friends.
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Yes I am afraid of meeting men because I am weak and will
cave in. I am not ready for men. And I don't want children yet...
I don't want to be tie down... not right now.
I am afraid of meeting a nice guy....
I am not afraid of mean guys.
But I am afraid of NICE GUY!!!!!!

Mean guys, they give me a reason not to date them.
Even guys who smoke... I ain't afraid of them.
Even guys who aren't available, I ain't afraid of them.

But Nice Guys, Nice guys who don't smoke. Nice guys
who are the sweetest thing on earth. I am afraid of them.

Because if I meet a nice guy.... then it would be hard
to give up. Nice guys are like good sex.... :-o
Nice guys are like good pizza, that you can't possible
stop eating those pizza.... you eat it everyday.
Then next thing you know have 5 babies by this nice guy,
and be married and be a housewife and alll!!!! :-o
Ahhhh, and I would be trying hard to find some reason
to dump the nice guy.... but can't... then I will be
addicted to him.

So anyway, that is my weakness. I would do anything
for him. I would worship the ground he walk on.
And all....
 
I AM a hearie!

mz. P--i am a hearie and i ahve a hard time finding deafies tht want to socialize with me--dont feel left out. recently took a deaf studies class and it totally opened my eyes to a different world. instructor said "we dont hate hearing people; its just that we've been oppressed for so long, its taking time to heal". I understand that, but i've had deaf asl instructors that havent hit that healing process yet and they're down right cocky and mean--makes me NOT want to be in the community, understand?
 
strike my last post--go with what ur heart feels, honey--its when u aint lookin that true love comes knockin on the door--dont matter if ur deaf OR hearing--love is love is love--dont fight it :angel:
 
exactly , blakey!


Miss Pin.... if you dont wanna to go work , then some of hearing ppl will think oh pls at you , ain't proud of you for not try anything so hard on work, job , others... you can do it for on your new LIFE with a guy , children, work... oh pls.. dont tell me that you would love to sitting/laying on bed all day til dying! *rme* .. so u suck!


all in my life, i have no plm to communicate with hearing people.. whenever one of them came to me, i said Excuse me, i am deaf.. that person says oh sure, hold on , get me a pen / paper, he zoomed , came back to me, wrote everything down backforth to chat, for long time .. gettin along so quick .. then few days later dont need pad/pen , cause we able to read our lips , some new signs, etc.. blah blah to gettin along for friendship :)


TOF
 
Miss P, if you want to join the outside world, get a job or at least get an education.
 
Time for Miss P to purchase a book called "The Idiot's guide to making friends"
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Yes I am afraid of meeting men because I am weak and will
cave in. I am not ready for men. And I don't want children yet...
I don't want to be tie down... not right now.
I am afraid of meeting a nice guy....
I am not afraid of mean guys.
But I am afraid of NICE GUY!!!!!!

Mean guys, they give me a reason not to date them.
Even guys who smoke... I ain't afraid of them.
Even guys who aren't available, I ain't afraid of them.

But Nice Guys, Nice guys who don't smoke. Nice guys
who are the sweetest thing on earth. I am afraid of them.

Because if I meet a nice guy.... then it would be hard
to give up. Nice guys are like good sex.... :-o
Nice guys are like good pizza, that you can't possible
stop eating those pizza.... you eat it everyday.
Then next thing you know have 5 babies by this nice guy,
and be married and be a housewife and alll!!!! :-o
Ahhhh, and I would be trying hard to find some reason
to dump the nice guy.... but can't... then I will be
addicted to him.

So anyway, that is my weakness. I would do anything
for him. I would worship the ground he walk on.
And all....
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Honey ..love is the most magnificent feeling of all. It is powerful, lifting, radiating, joyful, life-affirming and blissful feeling.

Please do not deprive yourself from experiencing true love - I can tell you that it is damn worth it and damn worth taking risks. We are on Earth for a very short time so why not experience love?

Despite my heartbreaks, I refuse to give up. True love is around the corner. I may be a sap but that is me - i dont believe that life cannot be beautiful unless you have pure love.

Girl, I understand your fears - but here is a poem for you that I read almost everyday.

Take a Risk
Take a Chance
Join the Club
JOin the Dance
Learn to Fly
Learn to Soar
Strive for Joy
Strive for more,
Be brave -
JUST DO,
Be brave -
BE YOU!​
 
Meg said:
Honey ..love is the most magnificent feeling of all. It is powerful, lifting, radiating, joyful, life-affirming and blissful feeling.

Please do not deprive yourself from experiencing true love - I can tell you that it is damn worth it and damn worth taking risks. We are on Earth for a very short time so why not experience love?

Despite my heartbreaks, I refuse to give up. True love is around the corner. I may be a sap but that is me - i dont believe that life cannot be beautiful unless you have pure love.

Girl, I understand your fears - but here is a poem for you that I read almost everyday.

Take a Risk
Take a Chance
Join the Club
JOin the Dance
Learn to Fly
Learn to Soar
Strive for Joy
Strive for more,
Be brave -
JUST DO,
Be brave -
BE YOU!​
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:werd: I've had my heart broken a few times, but I refuse to give up on love. As painful as relationships can be sometimes, I found that it hurts MORE to deprive yourself of love, people, ect. Unfortunately, being disappointed and hurt is apart of life. The "trick" is to keep going inspite of the disappointments.

:gpost: Meggie!
 
I am hearing, and there's quite a few deafies here that I could easiely become friends with. I realize that there could be a bit of a communication barrier that would have to be overcome. However, if the hearie and the deafie are patient with each other, and willing to work together, it's very possible that this can be overcome.

The problem, as I see it, is that people just aren't willing to give each other a chance, and that's sad.

It's possible to make friends, Ms P. It takes perseverence, patience, common grounds, tenaciousness, and determination, but you CAN do it. All you gotta do is, keep trying. Stay postive, and it'll happen for ya!

Good luck!
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
3. Have it clear in your mind
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What exactly are you having clear in your mind?


Miss*Pinocchio said:
4. Smile a lot. People will respond in kind, and start to see you as more open and approachable.
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Wouldn’t simple common sense dictate that you would be more successful at socializing when you smile? And are you saying that deaf persons do not like being smiled at?


Miss*Pinocchio said:
6. Wear brighter clothes... to attract people attention.
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I’m sorry, but I’m not a bumble bee.
 
Ethereal said:
What exactly are you having clear in your mind?

Wouldn’t simple common sense dictate that you would be more successful at socializing when you smile? And are you saying that deaf persons do not like being smiled at?

I’m sorry, but I’m not a bumble bee.
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That what it said on the website, I am not making it up.
:squint:
 
Meg said:
Honey ..love is the most magnificent feeling of all. It is powerful, lifting, radiating, joyful, life-affirming and blissful feeling.

Please do not deprive yourself from experiencing true love - I can tell you that it is damn worth it and damn worth taking risks. We are on Earth for a very short time so why not experience love?

Despite my heartbreaks, I refuse to give up. True love is around the corner. I may be a sap but that is me - i dont believe that life cannot be beautiful unless you have pure love.

Girl, I understand your fears - but here is a poem for you that I read almost everyday.
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I understand. There are some people who are uncomfortable with that.

My Aunt who bought a brand new house for $130,000. And she
bring many old furniture with her. She said she won't slleep in
anything that is nice... she would get rid of new sheets and bed spread...
and sleep on old sheets and old bed spread. She gets rid of new things...
and keep old things. She won't throw away leftover... the food she kept in the freezer for 2 years!!!! And she only go to Grocery Store for bread... but won't buy anything else.... She would buy grocery every 6 months.
The furniture are 70 years old. She kept all her mother's furniture and never throw them away. My aunt is 65 years old. She thinks she doesn't deserve wearing new clothes and have new stuff. She bought a house, cause
she was tired of renting the house and wants to live by her sister (my mom).

My point is... I feel I don't deserve having friends and a lover.
I feel like a fake person if I have friends and a lover.

I like being around enemies and being around people who hate me.
I am use to that. That is why I push friends and good men away.

But anyway... I WILL TRY TO FIND A JOB AND SOCIALIZE. Thank yall
for the REPLIES. :type:
 
oh honey, u shouldnt feel like that--my momma always told me that the on ly person that could make me feel bad about myself is ME. if u giv e others that control, then thats ur own fault. Always assume good intent, but on the other hand, always look to see who's good intent its gonna benefit
 
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