Unfortunately, that is Deaf culture tending to stenotype to talk about the past about you or other people. High statistic Deaf people who live on SSDI, they have no life to talk about other people’s back. I do not associate with people who have low life. It is not worth for you to be upset or angry. We all of us need to move on with our new life for our health’s sake.
I ingore them and focus on my own life and family. It helps me alot to move on with my life. I look up present and future as positive. I enjoy my new life every moment.

Find a new friends makes you feel more comfortable and trust them.