How Do We Heal Ourselves?...

Defee said:
I agree with what Fly Free said...why dwell on your bad pasts, like bad relationships, bad childhoods or whatever..you cant heal if you keep dwelling
on your bad past..the best way is just to go on and make the best of your present and hope for the better future..learn from your past mistakes is all.
I think im a better person now than i did when i was a teenager and in my early twenties cuz thats when i was so messed up haha...
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It may be easy said than done, but you have to live in someone shoes to know what its like....
 
^Angel^ said:
It may be easy said than done, but you have to live in someone shoes to know what its like....
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Yes youre right. It is not easy just to move on. There are many " triggers " out there that remind us. We jsut have to take deep breaths and keep going, despite that.

I woke up at 4 AM this morning having a panic attack. I could not breath, was hyperventialiting and shaking.

I simply got on my knees and prayed to God to take away that moment and He did. I also asked God to send me a friend to help me out. God did and a friend miraclously showed up to help me through this morning.

I feel better now but yes its damn hard to be completely healed.
 
I don't get panic attacks.
I just go whatever... everytime those bad memories come back,
I understand why I had those bad memories... so that
I won't make that mistake again.

If bad things happen, that is because God is trying to tell me
that I am not suppose to be there....

If God doesn't want me to sit in this chair.... and be on the computer,
then he can allowed hackers to put virus on my computer and shut
it down permanately... And then I will move my azz up and do
something else with my life.
 
Defee said:
I agree with what Fly Free said...why dwell on your bad pasts, like bad relationships, bad childhoods or whatever..you cant heal if you keep dwelling
on your bad past..the best way is just to go on and make the best of your present and hope for the better future..learn from your past mistakes is all.
I think im a better person now than i did when i was a teenager and in my early twenties cuz thats when i was so messed up haha...
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yes thats what im saying in some situations that are easier to manage also what Angel has mentioned above is also true -- some things might be just too traumatic for a person to truly let go and it can take years
 
Fly Free said:
yes thats what im saying in some situations that are easier to manage also what Angel has mentioned above is also true -- some things might be just too traumatic for a person to truly let go and it can take years
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I totally agree.

There are many different degrees of traumas and each person is different. Some are more sensitive than others. I am very sensitive and fragile so it takes me longer to recover than others but I keep going regardless.
 
^Angel^ said:
It may be easy said than done, but you have to live in someone shoes to know what its like....
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easy said than done? I said i have messed up alot in my life in my past but i have moved on and i have had some help too so i DO know what it is like to be in bad situations...nobody is perfect ya know.
 
Meg said:
Yes youre right. It is not easy just to move on. There are many " triggers " out there that remind us. We jsut have to take deep breaths and keep going, despite that.

I woke up at 4 AM this morning having a panic attack. I could not breath, was hyperventialiting and shaking.

I simply got on my knees and prayed to God to take away that moment and He did. I also asked God to send me a friend to help me out. God did and a friend miraclously showed up to help me through this morning.

I feel better now but yes its damn hard to be completely healed.
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Yes i understand there are times that the past can bring back panicky thoughts especially at night, as it does to me too..i do the same thing you do, i pray to God to give me peace and it does help! and sometimes if panic attacks is especially bad, its a good idea to get some professional help and with some medication it will help too. I feel for you, Meg and God bless you!
 
Aw :(

I'm truly sorry to hear that Meg, I was wondering does it only happen when you think of something that may be related to your past or when you wake up from a nightmare or going thru alot of stress?...I don't know if I ever had panic attack before but there are times I had a couple of bad nightmares about my ex and I wake up sweating and having a hard time catching my breathe... is that related to having a panic attack?...

It does help a whole lot to have God in our lives, I pray on alot of things and it works every time ;)

:hug:
 
Fly Free said:
yes thats what im saying in some situations that are easier to manage also what Angel has mentioned above is also true -- some things might be just too traumatic for a person to truly let go and it can take years
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this right there said it all, theres one thing i won't be able to erase from my mind. its scarred in my life mind body and soul. and its something i ll never forget its been 10 yrs and Feb 24th marked my 3 yrs of freedom from that hell hole but. its something that u can not ever forget..... its hard....

as for moving on i have very much moved on i don't dwell on life. its the poeple who likes to live in the BS world and listen to the lies thats thier plm not mine. i have a happiness in my life now and my partner who doesn't give a damn abt my past life and knows it can not be undone. the lies that was told to me this past yr hurt me greatly and i wished the honest poeple would have talked to me instead of hiding it... one person in here did that and u know what So what thats what happens in life, you take risk and if it doesn't work oh well theres better fishes out in the sea....

but the main thing in life is this.. if u can't move on. dont get involve with other poeple u ll only bog them down thats just IMO....
 
^Angel^ said:
Aw :(

I'm truly sorry to hear that Meg, I was wondering does it only happen when you think of something that may be related to your past or when you wake up from a nightmare or going thru alot of stress?...I don't know if I ever had panic attack before but there are times I had a couple of bad nightmares about my ex and I wake up sweating and having a hard time catching my breathe... is that related to having a panic attack?...

It does help a whole lot to have God in our lives, I pray on alot of things and it works every time ;)

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Thanks hun.

Nights are the worst because I am not busy and these thoughts creep into my mind so it is hard to shake them off.

Yes what you experienced may be an anxiety attack.

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Meg said:
I totally agree.

There are many different degrees of traumas and each person is different. Some are more sensitive than others. I am very sensitive and fragile so it takes me longer to recover than others but I keep going regardless.
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:werd: This is true for me, also.

I really believe that it's the willingness to go forward that makes us stronger. Not necessarily the fact that we've healed from the experiences we've had.
 
Meg said:
Huh? What does this have to do with this thread? :ugh: Please STOP going off on topics. I am really tired of it. :squint: This thread is to discuss healing period.
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It is about healing, having a sense of humor and laughing are part of healing.
 
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Keep this thread going - we all could use wisdom and sage advice on healing. Each one of us has our own traumas and need to be reminded that we are not alone.

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Sometimes I disagree with how someone handle their life.
Cause when that someone decide to take a wrong turn...
such as doing drugs or doing sinful stuff...
It really hurts other people, including me.

If a boyfriend or husband hurt me real bad....
or take away my child or hit me or whatever...
then I am not going to be a lesbian because
of that reason...
If I become a lesbian, then it will hurt my family
and everybody else who disagree with that....
Especially it will hurt the child if I have one taken away.

And then when someone disagree with my choice...
then that would ruining that person's life and
some people will be on my side and attack that person.
Then I would be hurting more and more people.

Just because things didn't go your way, doesn't
mean you have to hurt everybody.... because
that effect everybody around you.

The best solution is... if my boyfriend or husband
broke my heart. Then I won't do anything to self destruct myself.
And if I have a child, if I am in a custody dispute, then
I will agree with whatever the Judge decides and be mature about it.
And then move on with my life...
And hopefully I meet a nice guy in the future for me and
perhap start all over again... get a new attitude....
and fix myself up...
Because it isn't worth to revenge and go against the world
and be mad at the world and do something hurtful.

I like peace. So I will evenually go out and look for jobs...
and if a guy like me, then I will give him a chance.
And have good sex and stuff :fingersx:
And have fun with friends and all.
That is what I am planning to do....
Hopefully Vocational Rehab will send me a letter next week
stateing for me to come to work and meet new people. :)
Then I will have less time being on this forum.
 
And also...

I did something stupid before....
but I wouldn't revenge or be mean to anyone, because that is not
my style.

I did try to kill myself twice, but not over some stupid men,
no way. I would kill myself because I don't like being born
with Treacher Collins Syndrome. Sometimes I would rather
have somebody like a cop to shoot me. Because why me,
why do I have TCS, I don't want my face all mess up like that.

Sorry for whining....
But I know.... everybody got problems and some people
are worst off than me. And I need to look up
to the girl who has TCS in the website who is a doctor.

But at least I will go back to work next week and start over
with my life again. I am looking forward making new friends again....
Start healing process.... and stuff.

:)
 
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