How can you tell the difference between backstabbing and feeling expression?

[CODAchild]

How can you tell the difference between backstabbing and feeling expression?


Is Venting/Ranting belong to kind of backstabbing or feeling expression?

Is it backstabbing when you made my posts without name anyone in general way?

Is it backstabbing when you express your unhappy feeling without name anyone in general way?


And ...... Anything what you add to this? What have you opinion to this?

Is it backstabbing when you have angry expression against a person without name anyone?

Is it expression feeling when you name anyone to public forum or talk to person?


I would appreicate very much for your feedback to this question and share your opinion when you see different and what/how you feeling?

Come and Discuss...

Venting out is a way of expressing your feelings, or as you nicely put it Galaxy, feeling of expression.

Backstabbing, is when you talk about another person, behind their back, and not to their face.

If someone has stabbed you in the back, of course it will upset you greatly, and you go to a person you can trust and want to talk about how you feel, you are using your feeling of expression!!!!

 

[Opal]

I made a sad post in VENT/RANDING forum under the rules in Canadian website, that all information is PRIVATE and top confidential, and it should not be dispersing, spreading, talking, copying, quoting it in any other websites to read or making a comments outside.

Unfortunately it did happen to me as I was disappointed to read my own personal issues here in AllDeaf, posted by other member to violating me, as we are register the same websites elsewhere, so to be more verified, I did PM to her/his post that I caught her/him out, she/he replied back saying she/he didn't name me but he/she changed to typed "my friend" to save my face, and confirmed it is all about me in his/her reply PM back to me.

I can see there have 4 hints to giving away as relating to my issues.

I was furious and consider her/he to backstabbing me.

Unless she/he asked my permission first if she/he want to mention my personal issue here which would have looked better this way knowing I am register here to read it!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I made a sad post in VENT/RANDING forum under the rules in Canadian website, that all information is PRIVATE and top confidential, and it should not be dispersing, spreading, talking, copying, quoting it in any other websites to read or making a comments outside.

Unfortunately it did happen to me as I was disappointed to read my own personal issues here in AllDeaf, posted by other member to violating me, as we are register the same websites elsewhere, so to be more verified, I did PM to her/his post that I caught her/him out, she/he replied back saying she/he didn't name me but he/she changed to typed "my friend" to save my face, and confirmed it is all about me in his/her reply PM back to me.

I can see there have 4 hints to giving away as relating to my issues.

I was furious and consider her/he to backstabbing me.

Unless she/he asked my permission first if she/he want to mention my personal issue here which would have looked better this way knowing I am register here to read it!

Remember I support nobody but the fact.

Unfortunlately, I remember from read a member's post in certain thread where you referred to. It's not just Ranting/Venting thread at other forum but public forum, you made your posts in 2 different forums to name something about your personal. I beleive ADers have seen your posts to name someone in your personal in 2 different forums.

I know a member did not pasted/spread/etc out your information from other forum to here. Admin. of other forum is member here and have seen it and said a member do not violated her/his rule. I know a member did not mentioned a word "friend" and everything but "A man" to compare with someone for an example........ which worst. Just one sentence, not everything.

No, you did not PMed a member but direct to Admin. for remove sentence of member's post. A member asked moderators why her/his sentence of posts are being removed. A member got an answer from Admin. and then contact you via email..... That's all what I know.

I feel it's my obligate to clear this mislead post, you made here because I want my thread here is clean and honest, not twist and mislead etc.

I see force to press bad report on you because mislead post, you made here is not acceptance.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Well, I have the rights to vent, because of the disagreement. I don't agree in some of your posts in the past and even in this present.

Do you mean that you have to vent because you disagree with Cheri's posts... Huh? Remember everyone have different POV how to agree to disagree each other. It look like that you are being offended when Cheri has different opinion as you?

I do still debate/confront to speak out of my mind.

We have no problem to have you here to debate with us when you have different POV as us but we didn't run to other forum to make "vent" or pasted ADers' posts when we disagree with your POV, don't we?

You need to practice what you preach young lady for callin' such names... like " croak in between throat " I don't think it is nice thing to say to someone. You made fun of them. That's an insultin' to hurt thier feelin'.
You think it is okay to say those names and you don't even know if, it hurts their feelin' or not...no matter, what you think, because you don't know what they think when they react from it.

I see nothing wrong when Cheri asked someone harmless questions. Now she received satisfied answer from anyone here. I can't see the point why you made a big because Cheri ASKED someone for a questions here and blame her etc. etc. etc. Cheri did not make fun of someone but ask them... Its about open mind when the question comes. You has no right to insult Cheri for something, she didn't make.

You didn't answer my questions so I answer here for you myself.

Is it backstabbing when a person(A) pasted and name a person(B) from here to other forum without person(B)´s permission?

Yes.

Is it backstabbing when a person(A) spy person(B)´s post and paste her/his post for person(C) ?

Yes, I would say both is a person (A) and (C) are backstabbers because they talk behind a person (B)'s back. What have person (B) done anything to a person (A) and (C).

Do you consider feeling expression as backstabbing and insult?

No, because nice feeling expression in positive way is not backstabbing and insult but feel for someone as special person.

If negative venting at hiddern forums.. Yes.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Venting out is a way of expressing your feelings, or as you nicely put it Galaxy, feeling of expression.

Backstabbing, is when you talk about another person, behind their back, and not to their face.

If someone has stabbed you in the back, of course it will upset you greatly, and you go to a person you can trust and want to talk about how you feel, you are using your feeling of expression!!!!

You nailed it beautiful

You alway find good words to make posts here and other threads. Your word is the best, I ever read.

It's an exactly how I feel for a person as my special person. I expressed my feeling in nice and positive way about a person, I consider as my special person...whom I am unhappy to lose a special person to someone else etc.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Tamara, I want to edit my post
http://www.alldeaf.com/showpost.php?p=521556&postcount=43


but it's too late.


I know a member and you solved via email and MSN. I thought everything are over after solved via email and MSN...


It's sad that people still get obsessed over that old issues after they did solved via MSN and email... really sad...

 

[Cheri]

Well, I have the rights to vent, because of the disagreement. I don't agree in some of your posts in the past and even in this present.

You had to vented and ranted because of my opinions, dragged everyone in the middle just because you don't agree with my opinion or statement? What a lame excuse.

You need to practice what you preach young lady for callin' such names... like " croak in between throat " I don't think it is nice thing to say to someone. You made fun of them. That's an insultin' to hurt thier feelin'.
You think it is okay to say those names and you don't even know if, it hurts their feelin' or not...no matter, what you think, because you don't know what they think when they react from it.

You meant when I said "a frog got stuck between their throat?" It was only meant to be humor, By the way isn't that off-topic?, What does this have to do with it's thread? This thread is about backstabbing and expressing feeling when ranting and venting.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I was furious and consider her/he to backstabbing me.

I have a question for you.

Is it backstabbing and insult when someone express their feeling in nicely and positive?

 

[Cheri]

Unfortunately it did happen to me as I was disappointed to read my own personal issues here in AllDeaf, posted by other member to violating me, as we are register the same websites elsewhere,

Link please? I must have over-looked.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

By the way isn't that off-topic?, What does this have to do with it's thread? This thread is about backstabbing and expressing feeling when ranting and venting.

*nodding*


Dear ADers,

Please make your posts positive what you can tell the difference between backstabbing and feeling expression, not rant angrily/obsessed over old issues in the past etc because my thread is not "Ranting/Venting" for anyone to make angrily, obsessed, etc... but share positive feedback/opinion over backstabbing and feeling expression.

 

[Fo'Shizzle]

backstabbing is when you go behind another person's back and gossip about one another. Expressing your feeling, is when you express how you feel without trying to hurt one another's feelings.



It depends on how you are venting or ranting about someone, If you are gotta name a person, That's consider backstabbing, If you are venting and ranting namelss it's not consider backstabbing, But, if you are giving hints who you are venting and ranting about, that anyone would firgured it out, That's backstabbing too.



No.



No



No, without naming a person, You are allow to vent out your feelings as long you don't give out hints (for example: This person who is from another forum, Her bf is one of the moderator in another forum.) < That is consider backstabbing.



Read my post above about hints giving out. It's consider back stabbing if you named a person you are venting and ranting out about, and described a person you are venting and ranting about.

amen!

 

[ROE]

The friendship I just ended with someone I know was due to backstabbing
and my first week as a member here I saw a thread that just absolutely
made my heart sink beacause this person wanted to hurt me even more
so I made one comment here and am sorry to all the members for having
wrote what I did and seeing the problem could escalate I ended it by making
no further comments.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

The friendship I just ended with someone I know was due to backstabbing
and my first week as a member here I saw a thread that just absolutely
made my heart sink beacause this person wanted to hurt me even more
so I made one comment here and am sorry to all the members for having
wrote what I did and seeing the problem could escalate I ended it by making
no further comments.

Do you mean they talk negative and try to hurt you in purposely way?... If yes, then I´m very sorry to hear about this. I can understand that it´s not nice but... but..but

This thread I create is for feedback over difference between backstabbing and feeling expression... What and how you can tell the difference if it´s really backstabbing or feeling expression... I hope this thread will help you to understand what difference.

 

[Opal]

Sorry but I may see this differently, forgive me Liebling

I rather if someone had an issue with another member or may feel the needed to vent out these sort of feelings, then it would be nicer if they had kept that between the two of them or along their friends in private not in a public forum or in any private ranting area where other members can also view this and will know all the personal problems, the twisted and lies being add into the venting, some people can easy lie when they're angry at someone, and decide to start something in order to get back at that person, to me that immature and also I would like to add that no matter whether the member did not name a person, but still it may describe the person you were speaking of and others can easy guess the ID of the person you may be speaking of, sometimes that can cause problems between the two of you, as well as allowing others to be involved into the problem and it can caused this other person to feel embarrassed, hulimated , betrayed or even hurt...That may be the reason why I'm so against of the idea of having ranting/venting here in Alldeaf cause it does nothing but create more dramas and hurtful feelings...I didn't come to a forum where I could listen to lies and rumors about another person, even I don't know the entire story behind it, why should I listen when it being posted in public or in a small ranting area, when they could have use the ims or private message, it shows me they're immature and have no life by trying to destory those they hate or dislike...I've seen some people expessing nothing but anger, and that can cause alot of damaged on both sides even can cause them to lose more friends as well....I think it would be wise to discuss this issue between the two of you in private away from public viewers in order to get it solve otherwise it won't get solved if more people were being involved in this situation and I think some people needs to think real hard by asking themsevles if this is really neccessary to get others involved or gain more friends just to get back at the person that you are mad or upset at....

Think about it for a moment and then ask yourself am I doing the right thing? then you will know the answer only if you listen to your heart not your head...

Good comments!

 

[Opal]

Link please? I must have over-looked.

Some words had been removed as I requested, there's nothing to read under Terry Schiavo's thread here.

 

[Opal]

Remember I support nobody but the fact.

Unfortunlately, I remember from read a member's post in certain thread where you referred to. It's not just Ranting/Venting thread at other forum but public forum, you made your posts in 2 different forums to name something about your personal. I beleive ADers have seen your posts to name someone in your personal in 2 different forums.

I know a member did not pasted/spread/etc out your information from other forum to here. Admin. of other forum is member here and have seen it and said a member do not violated her/his rule. I know a member did not mentioned a word "friend" and everything but "A man" to compare with someone for an example........ which worst. Just one sentence, not everything.

No, you did not PMed a member but direct to Admin. for remove sentence of member's post. A member asked moderators why her/his sentence of posts are being removed. A member got an answer from Admin. and then contact you via email..... That's all what I know.

I feel it's my obligate to clear this mislead post, you made here because I want my thread here is clean and honest, not twist and mislead etc.

I see force to press bad report on you because mislead post, you made here is not acceptance.

It is useless to talk to the former Admin since the deaf website shut down permantely afterwards. - there's nothing I can do about it, like talking to the brick wall.

 

[Opal]

The friendship I just ended with someone I know was due to backstabbing
and my first week as a member here I saw a thread that just absolutely
made my heart sink beacause this person wanted to hurt me even more
so I made one comment here and am sorry to all the members for having
wrote what I did and seeing the problem could escalate I ended it by making
no further comments.

Sorry to see you quit here since I was away,
S/he can’t have any friends or life cause s/he talks about what you do.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

It is useless to talk to the former Admin since the deaf website shut down permantely afterwards. - there's nothing I can do about it, like talking to the brick wall.

Forum Admin. locked her/his website several months later after she/he read posts here and other public forum.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Good comments!

It's Venting and Ranting, Angel referred to and then later she made her post because she thought I talking about venting and ranting... I tried to explain her in my previous that it's nothing do with venting and ranting section or public thread but the difference between backstabbing and expression feeling.

http://www.alldeaf.com/showpost.php?p=521146&postcount=32

http://www.alldeaf.com/showpost.php?p=521176&postcount=34


I agree with most of their posts. Especially CODAchild and others made an excellent posts.

Everyone entitled their own POV.