How can I help my Aunt?

[WhisperHorse]

Today, I recently found out that my aunt is back to the hosptial, it is her 11 times to being in the hosptial. She is too stubborn to accept to eating anything, she kept think that shes fat, she isnt fat. Her weight is under of 65 lbs. And she had doing that for almost 15 years already, she is ALIVE. Since, my family and I thought that is her time but she is still alive, I cant believe it but tried to help her to imporve her but she wont. She's Bulimia. I watched her for almost 15 years, she lose weight alot since. Until, my another aunt started be Anorexia, lose alot weight but her husband took her to hosptial, she got better and better then she went back to home. Somehow, she lied to her doctor and earn more pills for painkiller and help her to be hungry to eat more food. She took ALL of pills, I will say 100 pills in 3 bottles, she fall down from the chair and wont wake up right front of her three sons, 13, 8, and 5. One of them(13 yrs old) tried to give her cpr to getting her alive and called 911 and someone told him to do with her to giving cpr etc etc and my cousin tried and tried until people showed up and bring her to the hosptial but she is already died because her brain is died. Doctor decided call her "Sudice" and right now, my aunt got worse depression because they are sisters and best friends for whole of their life(they are my dad's sisters) and, my aunt got worse and worse to lose more weight and etc etc. Then, right now, shes in hosptial, we dont know when she will be gone in peace. I wish she know its wrong to do that and try to imporve herself but she wont. Im very sad abt it but Im looking at my dad, I knew he is worse upset than all of us. Because my two aunts are his sisters, plus few years later, his mom(my grandma Kay) died. He got upset worse abt it. Many people in my dad's family died alot because my dad's family are HUGE. But I felt bad for my dad. But he have my aunt(who is alive still), his three sisters and a brother. He have 6 brother and sisters in his family. And alot cousins, and etc people in his family who love him and his family, he should be happy but I knew he is happy but sad abt his sister and mom and few family who was gone. Hard to cheer him up, I remember my dad told me that if my Aunt dies(Who is alive right now) he would be upset more. I dont know what to do with my dad, and aunt and everybody in my family right now.

I have to go now. Talk to you later bye

 

[Reba]

That is a very sad situation. I will pray for your family.

 

[deafclimber]

sorry to hear ya. i ll pray for your family... plz tell ur dad how lucky u are to have him or how blessed u are to have him or something that would make him feeling better.

 

[Tikra]

It is truly sad to see your aunt go through this. SHE need help and I believe if her children spend more time with her and it MAY help her realize that her children dont want lose her which wouldnt hurt to try. I really feel sorry for your family especially her children watching her through the depression. I suggest you be strong and be there for her and her children.

 

[TweetyBird]

oh my.. i am very very sowwy to hear abt that... just stay and be strong for family and ur dad too.. they need u be there for them... i will pray for yall and family too...

 

[Cookie Monster]

For each anorexic and bulimic, they can only want to help themselves. You see, people around them want to help them heal and get better but sad to say this, anorexics/bulimics have to literally hit bottom or in this case be at their skinniest in order to really want to help themselves heal. You can always give moral, physical and emotional support for those who suffer whether it be the person that is anorexic/bulimic or the family members and/or friends. Just please don't give up on them. It is always a lifelong battle with anorexia and bulimia. Once diagnosed as a physical disorder, it is now diagnosed and recognised as a mental disorder.

Some individuals who develop eating disorders can also be depressed or anxious. Experts also think that some people with eating disorders may have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Their anorexia or bulimia gives them a way to handle the stresses and anxieties of being a teen and allows them to have control and impose order in their lives.

There is also evidence that eating disorders may run in families. Our parents influence our values and priorities, of course, including those toward food - which may be one reason eating disorders seem to run in families. But there also is a suggestion that there may be a genetic component to certain behaviors, and eating disorders could be one such behavior.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/problems/eat_disorder.html

 

[Mistyrose]

Oh geez, im so sorry to hear about your aunt, that is a very bad and dangerous situation she is in as i know so well...my good hearing friend who has since passed away was an anorexic all nearly her life..she was so thin, really skin and bones when she died, but at the end of her life, she still thought she was FAT!, believe it or not! it was really a strange kind of mental
illness..her family and her parents had tried to get all kinds of help for her for years but none helped, weird...i think it was just too late, her condition too far gone like cancer too advanced to be cured...it was so sad to see her like that and it was soo hard for me to see her like that i could barely go visit her, cuz all she did was complain and cry.
Your aunt, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

 

[GalaxyAngel]

Truly deep sorry about your family who pains goes on... I'll pray rest of your family and goes well recovery your pains away from past and also look up the bright future...

 

[Oceanbreeze]

For each anorexic and bulimic, they can only want to help themselves. You see, people around them want to help them heal and get better but sad to say this, anorexics/bulimics have to literally hit bottom or in this case be at their skinniest in order to really want to help themselves heal. You can always give moral, physical and emotional support for those who suffer whether it be the person that is anorexic/bulimic or the family members and/or friends. Just please don't give up on them. It is always a lifelong battle with anorexia and bulimia. Once diagnosed as a physical disorder, it is now diagnosed and recognised as a mental disorder.



http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/problems/eat_disorder.html

I have to agree. The only thing you can really do is tell your Aunt how much you love her, and to help her see what a valuable part of your life she is. But, in the end, it's up to her to want to get better. If she doesn't want to try to heal, there's really not much you can do for her.

There is apart of this, I do disagree with, however. Hitting bottom won't come in the form of realizing how thin she is. Her perception of her body is so distorted, she will think of herself as fat regardless of what you say to her.

I would suggest that you read up on anorexia and bulimia, and try to understand the mindset behind the behavior. As a sufferer of bulimia myself, I can attest to how hard this is. Not only for myself, but for the people around me. I am proud to say I am now in recovery, and have been for nearly 5 years, but it wasn't always this way. The road back to health is a long, complicated and very difficult one.

I wish you and your Aunt well. You're in my thoughts.

 

[PurrMeow]

Oh sorry to hear about your aunt. Hope she gets better sooner before it goes further. Would it be good for her to go to rehab to get help to get fully better??

 

[Cheri]

Awww


Sorry about your aunt. Hope she gets better soon. Hope your family can heal up their emotional with what your aunt is going through now.

 

[WhisperHorse]

That is a very sad situation. I will pray for your family.

Thank you, Reba.

 

[WhisperHorse]

sorry to hear ya. i ll pray for your family... plz tell ur dad how lucky u are to have him or how blessed u are to have him or something that would make him feeling better.

Thank you, deafclimber.

My dad knew that he is lucky to having me, and his family in his life but he just isnt ready to lose some of his family. He do accept it but, just not happy abt it. *shrug* He is different I guess?

 

[WhisperHorse]

It is truly sad to see your aunt go through this. SHE need help and I believe if her children spend more time with her and it MAY help her realize that her children dont want lose her which wouldnt hurt to try. I really feel sorry for your family especially her children watching her through the depression. I suggest you be strong and be there for her and her children.

Yeah, it is. She do need help, my family and I helped her for almost 15 years and she is too stubborn and hard to help her but we are still there for her when she need us to. Her children spend ALOT time with her and she isnt realize still, she kept think she is fat and many things. We will try to make her feel better abt herself, I knew it will be very hard. I hope everything would be fine. Thank you, Shiva.

 

[WhisperHorse]

oh my.. i am very very sowwy to hear abt that... just stay and be strong for family and ur dad too.. they need u be there for them... i will pray for yall and family too...

Thank you, Tweetybird.

Im trying to be strong for family and my dad. It will be hard when I see my aunt, its very horrible tos ee her body. But I have patient more for her and since 15 yrs.

 

[WhisperHorse]

Oh geez, im so sorry to hear about your aunt, that is a very bad and dangerous situation she is in as i know so well...my good hearing friend who has since passed away was an anorexic all nearly her life..she was so thin, really skin and bones when she died, but at the end of her life, she still thought she was FAT!, believe it or not! it was really a strange kind of mental
illness..her family and her parents had tried to get all kinds of help for her for years but none helped, weird...i think it was just too late, her condition too far gone like cancer too advanced to be cured...it was so sad to see her like that and it was soo hard for me to see her like that i could barely go visit her, cuz all she did was complain and cry.
Your aunt, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

Thank you, Defee.

Yeah it is. Aww, Im sorry abt your friend. It is very hard to help her when she keeps say that she is fat which she is not.. Ugh, I hope she notice it and get improve herself but it will be very hard.

 

[WhisperHorse]

Truly deep sorry about your family who pains goes on... I'll pray rest of your family and goes well recovery your pains away from past and also look up the bright future...

Thank you, Bullym0m.

That's alright. I am trying to look up the bright future but I would love to see my aunt to be happy but it is hard.

 

[WhisperHorse]

I have to agree. The only thing you can really do is tell your Aunt how much you love her, and to help her see what a valuable part of your life she is. But, in the end, it's up to her to want to get better. If she doesn't want to try to heal, there's really not much you can do for her.

There is apart of this, I do disagree with, however. Hitting bottom won't come in the form of realizing how thin she is. Her perception of her body is so distorted, she will think of herself as fat regardless of what you say to her.

I would suggest that you read up on anorexia and bulimia, and try to understand the mindset behind the behavior. As a sufferer of bulimia myself, I can attest to how hard this is. Not only for myself, but for the people around me. I am proud to say I am now in recovery, and have been for nearly 5 years, but it wasn't always this way. The road back to health is a long, complicated and very difficult one.

I wish you and your Aunt well. You're in my thoughts.

Yeah, I do understand what you talked abt but when my aunt calls here to need someone to be there with her, she seems cant be alone without someone even if her daughter or son or me or anybody. I dont know. I just want her to get better, it is important to me but I would be there for her no matter what. Thank you, Oceanbreeze

 

[WhisperHorse]

Oh sorry to hear about your aunt. Hope she gets better sooner before it goes further. Would it be good for her to go to rehab to get help to get fully better??

Thank you, PurrMeow.

I hope she gets better sooner before it goes further. She went to Rehab 6 times before already, no help her. Seems no help her but ONCE, she got better by support her from us and her family, we try to do that again to support her to getting her better and many things. I hope it will be work.

 

[WhisperHorse]

Awww


Sorry about your aunt. Hope she gets better soon. Hope your family can heal up their emotional with what your aunt is going through now.

Thank you, Cheri.

I do hope she gets better soon too. I knew whole of my family can heal up their emotional but my dad, hard... I want him to feel alright but yikes, its very hard for him to lose more people in his life.