How can I better understand what some of you say?

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I recently misinterpreted something someone said, because I saw it differently, and I suppose I shouldn't have jumped the gun, but it's done.

Now I want your opinions on how I can better intrepret what you say, so I don't make this same mistake again, as I'm still learning how deaf people do things, and I'll be honest-- I interpreted that as a hearing person might (mainly because I grew up in a hearing world for 16 yrs)
 
It is hard to interpret how people say things online. You can't see facial expressions or anything. All you have is words. Occasionally people like me put emotes next to stuff so you can understand they're pulling your leg or something... However that of course doesn't always happen. Every person expresses things differently, so it's not going to be easy to in general understand what someone means, as they might express things differently than the next person might. Just takes getting to know peoples humor and personalities for the most part. Also, you can't go around worrying about misunderstanding people. Stuff happens, and if we all worried about being ultra sensitive to what people meant or whatever our lives would be nothing but walking on broken glass to please everyone... and that can't be pleasing to yourself all the time. Misunderstandings happen, all you can do is clear up what they meant and move on. :P
 
I'll try, but my past has a dark history, and for the most part I've forgotten most of what happened, but certian phrases or words MIGHT bring back a certian memory or something, but it's kinda hard to tell with me, though, because I'm like a teddy bear with a big heart, but I'm also tempermental every now and then, so I gotta watch what people say or do.
 
Pffffffft, don't worry about it. :) We definitely all have our skeletons in the closet and we all have different things that have happened to make us act or react a certain way. Whether that's how we were raised or how we eventually developed because of people that influenced us, we knew, idolized or whatever! So many various reasons and factors contribute to how we react, act or develop ect ect. Like I said, all you can do is be you and not worry about what other people think of you. :) As long as you do that, you're being honest and most importantly honest with yourself. You will always find people who love and appreciate your honesty and value you for who you really are. :) I'd rather have 3 close friends who know the real me and love / support it rather than 100 friends who I tip toe around. :) That's all you can ever hope to get out of life. :) I may be a B***h at times, but at least I'm an honest b***h. :D I'd rather be that any day. :)
 
Yes, I like people being honest, that's true. Now if I could do that around a woman who might consider me a part of their life, I wouldn't have any problems, but thing is, I've never gone on date, so yeah, I have things to learn, because I'm one of those old-fashioned people who prefer to wait until marriage to do things (there aren't many people like me anymore).
 
There definitely aren't many like that anymore. I'm going to PM you a suggestion, don't take it personally or anything like that, I just know I had a male friend that was exactly the same as you and he had luck with this thing. :P There's someone out there for everyone. :) I've been single for right around 2 years... maybe more... Somewhere in there though! :doh: I'm only 27, but being single for that period of time is rather long for people my age now a days. I always just keep in my head that there's someone for everyone and eventually everything will work how it's supposed to. :D I say the same for you, someone out there for everyone and things will work out how they're supposed to. It's not about quantity my friend, it's about quality... and I'll wait for quality. :) Just keep that in mind. :D
 
Oh, I'll find someone. It'll take a while, but I'm sure I'll find my future soulmate, and I'm almost 30.
 
Oh you're still young! :D You've got this! :D Stay optimistic and just do the best you can every day to keep you happy. :) Someone always comes walking through the door when you least suspect it. :) I admire your ability to stay celibate until marriage... I definitely didn't... :shock: :laugh2: FAIL for Mew!!! :laugh2: Seriously though, I really do admire that strength and ability. :) Takes a lot.
 
That's because my Mom had me at age 15, and my Dad was 21 when I was born, and prior to 1984, there was no rape law in IL that I'm aware of, but I could be wrong. Anyways, I wasn't about to follow my parents down THAT path, and be a father so young.
 
Oh... well, staying celibate for any reason is admirable as it takes a lot of personal strength. However, there are methods to prevent becoming a father and still engaging in that. I completely understand your reasoning though.
 
Yup. I wouldn't mind having kids, but only after I've said "I do" and have a nice stable job somewhere.
 
Misinterpretations happen all the time. Usually, they are easily straightened out, and all parties move on. It's not that big a deal. Please don't let feat of misinterpretation hinder you from posting. :)

Also, don't take critical comments as personal attacks against yourself. We all have strong opinions, so clashes happen. As long as you don't make personal attacks, you should be fine. (Of course, there are some posters who will be jerks no-matter what--just ignore them if that happens.)
 
I get rude comments from customers in bike business a lot. I may give good deals and people will still be rude. Don't be offended if you misunderstood someone.
 
Mewtilation said:
Oh you're still young! :D You've got this! :D Stay optimistic and just do the best you can every day to keep you happy. :) Someone always comes walking through the door when you least suspect it. :)….
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True. Friends of mine got married about three years ago (first marriage for each of them). He was in his 40's, she in her 30's. He is a lawyer, and she is a teacher. They didn't meet until about a year before their marriage. They are a very happy couple.

Some people marry young, some later. Some do a lot of dating before finding the right one, some date only "the one." One size doesn't fit all when it comes to marriages.
 
dereksbicycles said:
I get rude comments from customers in bike business a lot. I may give good deals and people will still be rude. Don't be offended if you misunderstood someone.
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Yeah, some people expect the only good deal is getting something for free. You can't please everyone.
 
Yeah, that's true. I sometimes wonder if I've seen or met "the one" around Chicago or not.
 
In reference to the above two posts - I met my hub in college and we dated through the 6 years I was in college, and then we were engaged for a year. He was about 4 years older than me when we got married in a outdoor, civil ceremony.

as far as misinterpretations, online it's very easy and common.
 
There is that.... expecting freebies from the deaf. Not gonna always happen. Some of us have to work for a living.
 
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