Hod do you deal with annoying hearies in public??

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Since few weeks at the fair (when I wasnt on duty), on bus, anywhere, hearies talk to me, I signed :deaf: and "I don't understand what you say, sorry!" then they just shut up, and if they keep on talk to me then I use middle finger to sign :deaf: then they finally shut up.. how do you deal with that? sometimes I get lucky if someone know sign or ABC's..
 
Since I am living in the hearing world, I just have to get along with them, although I get frustrated all the time!
 
I wouldn't want to come across to them as being rude, such as using the middle finger. I just give them paper and pen if I have it handy and make them write. Sometimes they just say never mind and leave, sometimes they "oh!" then start writing. It is amazing sometimes how some people don't get intimitated by paper and pen when they really need something such as directions or such. And it can be a good way for them to have a record of directions to go wherever. ;)
 
kuifje75 said:
I wouldn't want to come across to them as being rude, such as using the middle finger. I just give them paper and pen if I have it handy and make them write. Sometimes they just say never mind and leave, sometimes they "oh!" then start writing. It is amazing sometimes how some people don't get intimitated by paper and pen when they really need something such as directions or such. And it can be a good way for them to have a record of directions to go wherever. ;)
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yes, definitely true! hearing people sometimes want to help the deaf, but not all of them
 
Wait a minute, I didn't mention anything about hearies helping deafies. Quite the contrary.
 
few ago i was on my way home but had to stay at the hotel and a drunk hearing man was behind me outside of parking lot i was getting in the hotel i had the keycard i was about to get in but the keycard refused to work when the hearing man left and my keycard work weird and i got in whew but his breath was annoyed ha ha

i am all right
 
Well, honestly, I can't be rude to people at all unless they are REALLY TRYING to piss me off. I would never give someone the finger like that.

I'm hearing, and I deal with a LOT of annoying hearing people! :lol I guess I just always try to give people the benefit of the doubt...some people just aren't all that bright. It's their burden to carry. Why make them feel even more confused, hurt and angry when walking away would serve the same purpose?
 
racheleggert said:
Since few weeks at the fair (when I wasnt on duty), on bus, anywhere, hearies talk to me, I signed :deaf: and "I don't understand what you say, sorry!" then they just shut up, and if they keep on talk to me then I use middle finger to sign :deaf: then they finally shut up.. how do you deal with that? sometimes I get lucky if someone know sign or ABC's..
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shoot all hearing people
 
I would ask for paper and pen if I don't understand what the hearing he/she is saying to me. I would say paper and pen in sign language. It isn't nice having a middle finger at them, unless they treat me real bad. I don't really do that thing to them, I would walk away. I hate when they say never mind and walk away when they see paper and pen, what's the big deal?
 
racheleggert said:
Since few weeks at the fair (when I wasnt on duty), on bus, anywhere, hearies talk to me, I signed :deaf: and "I don't understand what you say, sorry!" then they just shut up, and if they keep on talk to me then I use middle finger to sign :deaf: then they finally shut up.. how do you deal with that? sometimes I get lucky if someone know sign or ABC's..
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Wow, you don't have to be that rude. I'm hearing impared, but I wear hearing aids and if I start to talk to you and then you do the middle finger, I would be shocked of how rude you are.
 
what if that hearing person was trying to tell you that you sat on a bird shit?

But then you gave her a middle finger, I guess that hearing person wouldn't care if you sit in one.
 
I don't think one should necessarily worry about being rude if it is one's wish to just be left alone. If you don't care for a person's presence and find them irritating, why should it matter, if you're only goal is just to get them off you're shoulders?
 
I think that there are better ways to have people leave you alone than to be plainly rude. Just grin and say you dont know or are not around here, sorry. Or just simply shrug and smile, then go back to reading your book or something. There is no need to scowl at people and act as if they are a burden on you. You're just mirroring what the hearies do when you impose upon them.
 
When you react harshly, hearing people cannot help but pass judgment and assume that the rest of the Deaf community is like you.. immature and rude.
 
Cookie Monster said:
When you react harshly, hearing people cannot help but pass judgment and assume that the rest of the Deaf community is like you.. immature and rude.
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Id rather have them trying to talk to me than ignore me - it is nice to know that there are friendly people out there. If they desire to talk to me, I d say that I am :deaf: and if they walk away, I d say :bye: as it is their loss. If they continue to talk, Id :) at them and be polite until they get bored and leave.

Of course, if they were drunk or obnoxious, I d say :fu2: to them as I have had more than my share of dealing with drunk, horny, or/and crazy people out there. :ugh2:
 
kuifje75 said:
I think that there are better ways to have people leave you alone than to be plainly rude. Just grin and say you dont know or are not around here, sorry. Or just simply shrug and smile, then go back to reading your book or something. There is no need to scowl at people and act as if they are a burden on you. You're just mirroring what the hearies do when you impose upon them.
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I agree with kuifje75, thats what i usually do as im quite shy and dont like being rude to people for no reason. But on some occasions when Im out with my deaf mates and being in the "deaf world", I get some hearing guys that try and chat me up and I just cant be bothered with them. So when they lean over to speak into my ear,I sign to them and say "deaf" and shake my head.
It doesnt always work tho! lol recently I had a guy try and talk to me and I was signing to him and he still thought I could hear, this went on for ages until I pretended one of my mates wanted me
 
hearies wud think I'm hearing but I wud ingore them and pretend I don't notice what they are saying but I never wanted to say bad word to them cuz i think it's not right or they wud think of something different.. :roll:
 
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