Hello - Just Found Out I am Weird

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Fat Bottom Gurl

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I've been reading several threads on these forums and am trying hard to dry my eyes. I believe I was born HOH, never knew and was not told that I had a hearing problem until I was around 19.

I went to some kind of specialist then, and had a hard time understanding him because of his accent - he then told me - maybe you have cancer in your ears. I remember crying my eyes out.

I just struggled through. I could still play my guitar - tune it and I can sing, but I cannot carry on conversations in a crowed, noisy room and I tune out.

I carry on like this for another 30 years. From time to time I have hearing tests and it always is the same - I am hearing impaired. Slowly over the years I've isolated myself. I guess like everyone else here on this forum have developed coping skills.

Finally, this past October I decided to get hearing aids. I now have 2 hearing aids - digital and wow am finally hearing "most" conversation, although I am still struggling with people who mumble.

Today, I was talking with a friend who knows I am new to HA and she tells me that people think I am weird. Most people, especially just acquainteances never knew I am HOH and so I did the "stare and grin" and was labelled weird. All this time I was trying so hard to fit in - maybe I was trying too hard.

I don't think I am making too much sense right now - it was such a shock and I feel so stupid. I am 52 years old and just realizing that most of my problems were from lack of hearing.

Thanks for reading.
Deb
 
you're not stupid, you're beautiful just the way U are and that's what I call "born this way!"
btw, I have a cool looking hearing aids that everyone likes :)

anyways welcome to AD
 
Welcome

Deb,
Welcome. I'm deaf and I can't get hearing aids because there is no residual hearing left. i lost all my hearing overnight. No warning. I think it's awesome you can wear HA.
I love reading the posts here when people like Dixie explain the sounds they hear for the first timel
It makes me happy. I smile every time.
Who cares what they think. No different than glasses. Everyone on this site is very nice. Lots of information.
I was helped through my sudden hearing loss by many special people.
Good luck
Happy New Year
 
Hi there!...Late-deafened lady here, (age 14), lost my hearing overnight also (operation)....A hearing aid is no use for me.....still considering the CI (Cochlear Implant).....

So ur not weird in the least!....Get comfortable, enjoy the Forum. Many friends to be made here, along with lots of advise and comfort.....

Welcome to AllDeaf...and Happy New Year!
 
Welcome, and I hope your self esteem gets better and you ask for a name change.
 
Welcome to AD. Don't worry about what people think of you. Concentrate on what you like doing. I noticed you said you play the guitar. Capitalize on that. Make that your focus, a goal to do better. I'm a pianist myself and so I continually focus on playing (and practicing) more ragtime and early jazz pieces. Something I love doing. People who call others names are really thinking. In fact, I was called "weird" by another poster in here not too long ago. I just shake my head when those things happen. In fact, I feel pity for them when people do that. Just be comfortable for who you are. Each of us face our own deafness in a variety of ways. I see it as a challenge rather than a bane.
 
Fat Bottom Gurl said:
I am 52 years old and just realizing that most of my problems were from lack of hearing.
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Well today of all days is time to start afresh. No more worrying about what has happened, but you can change what is going to happen.

Make the most of your hearing and move on and weird is not so bad, at least they remember you! :ty:
 
:welcome: to AllDeaf forum. I thought I might be weird or odd, but that is me. Just focus on being you and not someone you are not. Don't let anyone tell you that you are stupid or fat. You are not. Everyone of us has different personalities and we get to try to understand yours and our perspectives of being deaf or hard of hearing. We all love discussion or debate what we want to discuss on many of the topics here. So hop on and enjoy reading and posting all the threads here. See you around here. :wave:
 
Welcome to AllDeaf Fat Bottom Gurl :welcome:

You make perfect sense to those of us who are HOH/deaf living in a world only interacting with people with "perfect" hearing. Because they never have to "work" at listening in the way HOH people do, behaviours like staring (to pick up visual cues from person's face) and grinning (usually because you didn't hear everything what was said) are seen as "wierd". However, any HOH person will tell you that this very normal behaviour if your ears don't work well. And if any of those hearing folks were to become HOH, then they will start staring, grinning and isolating themselves. So you're not wierd, but a normal person coping with hearing loss.
 
:welcome: to Alldeaf! Don't worry too much about your hearing loss and there are always good resources to help you! You can even learn to sign if you don't know sign language, it's not too late to learn. You can even social with oral deaf people, if you wanted to make new friends. Have a great one!
 
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