Have you an experience like this after lost your dear friend?

I'm so sorry. I knew a great friend when I was 13, he killed himself when he was 12 because he could not handle his parent's divorce very well and he ended up taking care of his two younger siblings while his parents fought.

The police had to come to me to ask questions because I was last person he saw before he hung himself in his backyard in a big old elm tree right after school bell rang. I still remember that excat day. I was so devasted and went to his funeral.

Sometimes in life where you have to hit some bumps that you will have to face tragedies and you become a stronger person for the future down the road after learning to cope this kind of death. Hugs to you.
 
I'm sorry for the loss of your good friend! :hug: Remember all the great memories you've had with him!

I haven't actually lost a dear friend but lost a lot of my family members. My fiance lost his bestfriend in 2002. They've been bestfriends for 29 years. He was murdered in Texas and still hasn't found the murderer. that's the hardest thing for my fiance and his bestfriend's mother. Hoping and praying they'd catch the murderer. Its been almost 3 years this August.
 
I am very deeply sorry to hear about "liebling's stories".
You remind me of my good friend who recently got a murder by his girlfriend. He was very good father of two teenages kids. He and his girlfriend are not getting a long very well. He wanted to break up with her... he and lady are agurement lots. He is unhappy what she has done to her. so he called the police and report on her. The police gave a lady have to move out her boyfriend s house by 30 days or will arrest her.... so he and his girlfriend already went to couseling and need to some help for work out together .. by the way, he always called me for some help and I did help him for everything. I found out that his girlfriend missed her work for a several weeks and she didnt go to work at third shifts and she owes lots of debits in her past year and she is very downing because her ex husband who peaking on her for a long time and she lost her kids and her ex husband got a full custody of two kids. she pay both of her lawyer and ex husband s lawyer and plus she owes her old house and her van that she got divorce from her ex husband... also her ex husband bother bother bother her for a long times and he wont leave her and her boyfriend alone. thats why a guy want to break up with her and so she will get her kids back then will live with him back later but she lost in her control.... and she is very furious with her ex husband who ruined a guy and his girlfriend s relationships ... so she killed a guy who sleep on his bed ... his ex wife wait for him pick his kids up for visitation right but he is fail to pick his kids up and his ex wife decided to called him at home phone and no answer and tried to call him by a pager and no luck to hear him , she decided to called a guy s mother and mother and his ex wife stopped by his house and his mother has a guy s key and mother open the door and saw the blood all over downstair and upstair tooo so both of two girls ran and call the police and the police was looking for a guy s girlfriend and found her in closet door and hiding. she was so scary. i found out that she tried to hang up herself but it fail and she did cut her both of her wraist and a guy already dead in downstair basement and he layed down in bathroom with close door with lock ....
I cried for almost one months and cant sleep and i stilll think of him everyday and he is good to me and my kids since my kids was three and two year old.... I really loves his smile with voice ... now he recently pass away and i cant able to hear what he laugh with his beautiful voice. I still contact with his familys and I am very close to them ..... They are part of my family
right now, I am healing with a slow in process because I am waiting for the court and they will call my name when i am ready to go to supedona ( cant spelling words ) in court and I am going to stand by a guy who is very very good friend of mine.... He is my best friends ever i had .... right now, i started tears both of eyes and a guy and i are very very very strong private for everything. he told me that he only trust me more than anyone ... yes of course, he has lots of friends but he only trust me more than any else.... because i always help him for everything and he helps me everything... it is 50/50 . sometime he called me "wife" and sometime i do called him "husband"
I felt lost right now because i really loves his smile with his beautiful voice when he start laugh and i love his sound ... damn her !!!!!!!!!! excuse me, i started cry so hard ... it is hard for me when i type this .... but i refused to put his name on it because his lots of friends who talked about bullshit stories about him and they dont know nothing about him ..... He and i are best friends for a long times with everything and not even one thing missed something. I am not going to buy what another people said about his murder and his girlfriend...sometime when i found out someone told me about what happend at a guy and his girlfriend s stories and make me upset and the mostly it is not true what they said to me. OHHHHH I missed him so terribles !!!! and i know he is up the heaven and see his dad and his grandparents and his favorite two dogs with him tooo . I want to say to a guy ( I am sure he saw me what i type my computer ) that i said "I love you in my heart no matter what and always ! "
 
Very touching story, Kristy.. I'm sorry for the loss of your "bestfriend". Be strong!
 
He recently pass away in one and half months ago , I try to be strong myself. but i dont know for sure if i see a lady at court and I probably get more upset and angry with her what she had done with murder guy
I dont apprecation what she did to him .... I thought she was so sweet, funny. nice but she is something hide that she wont tell me about it. I found out that her brother told me that she is part of mental illness in her past. I said OH fuck and damn her. but i dont know what her brother say to me ... he said he was surprise that she killed my bestfriend and he said "she is not kind of person like that ". and i will find out what a lady say at court ... I dont think a guy is not ABUSED because he never never NEVER ABUSED his ex wife for more than 12 years and his beautiful teenage kids. I cant promise if i can become a strong myself ... I know make me too much painful .... I said myself , " Thank lots a lady for give me more painful and more cried" I hope she stay in prison all of her rest life . PERIODS.
 
Sorry for ur loss.

I lost my deaf good friend in 1986. She was killed instantly by car accident (icy road) on the way to the church. She was 23 years old. It was happened while I was working. I do miss her.
 
Liebling, I'm very, very sorry for your loss. :hug: In 1989, I lost my dear friend over leukemia when she was 21. She has put a hole in my heart and I still miss her. Ocassionaly I'd look through pictures and think back the good times we've had. She was one helluva gal...
 
Very sad especially I believe I have met Tine once.

We asked ourselves why, only God know the reasons.
Give her all your support she need it.

She is very young to be a widower, she is lovely lady to know.
 
IcedTeaRulz said:
Sorry for ur loss.

I lost my deaf good friend in 1986. She was killed instantly by car accident (icy road) on the way to the church. She was 23 years old. It was happened while I was working. I do miss her.
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I'm very sorry about it. :tears:
 
kristy said:
He recently pass away in one and half months ago , I try to be strong myself. but i dont know for sure if i see a lady at court and I probably get more upset and angry with her what she had done with murder guy
I dont apprecation what she did to him .... I thought she was so sweet, funny. nice but she is something hide that she wont tell me about it. I found out that her brother told me that she is part of mental illness in her past. I said OH fuck and damn her. but i dont know what her brother say to me ... he said he was surprise that she killed my bestfriend and he said "she is not kind of person like that ". and i will find out what a lady say at court ... I dont think a guy is not ABUSED because he never never NEVER ABUSED his ex wife for more than 12 years and his beautiful teenage kids. I cant promise if i can become a strong myself ... I know make me too much painful .... I said myself , " Thank lots a lady for give me more painful and more cried" I hope she stay in prison all of her rest life . PERIODS.
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If they enough evidence against her, then she'll be in prison for life or maybe get a death row. Who knows? But for you to show up for court, you need to be strong and be brave. It won't be easy but it'll be over after the verdict or her sentence is announced. You will always be sad, think about how he would want you to do with your life. He would want you to keep smiling and take care of his kids and stay positive. stay strong no matter what!
 
Wow! I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

I've lost people in my life, too. One was a car accident, which was REALLY hard on me. Then this guy O'D on drugs, and two grandpas. And my best friend from when I was a child died many years later. It was just weird to read it in the paper. She was only 21. Very sad. And.. Now my grandma has cancer.

:tears:

Life is full of loss, but it is also full of new things, too! Don't forget that!

:(
 
It is hard to deal with people who is very sick like with cancer, disease and other among things.

Right now I am trying to help my husband to deal with his parents since both of his parents have Alzheimer's and he is caretaker of them, that is a lot of load to do even he has two very young boys with me. I am proud of him.

Times are difficult, you have to be very supportive and thoughtful of the person who is dealing with a lot of things on their hands.
 
Tamara said:
Very sad especially I believe I have met Tine once.

We asked ourselves why, only God know the reasons.
Give her all your support she need it.

She is very young to be a widower, she is lovely lady to know.
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Yes, it's her.

You know her thru women club.

Thank you.
 
Oh dear, it's very touchy story, Kirsty. :(

Thank you for share your posts here with us. I haven't hear from her yet. I'm hoping to hear from her today.

Yeah, Rudi is not first and only one who died suddenly. :(

It's soooo long story so I will make a short about my friends except relatives, I know.
 
I lost 12 years old Stephen to road accident (deaf school bus) when I was 12 years old. He went same class as me since kindergarten.

I lost my 29 years old unmarried British friend Barbara to overdose. The reason she killed herself because she felt 29 years old is too old to start family when I was 18 years old. It hit me real badly because I never thought she do that. She’s a beautiful lady and has no reason to kill herself.

My hubby lost his best friend Richard to ulcer cancer aged 40 in 1995, that’s terrible shock for us. L

My friend Ute lost her 13 months old son to child death cot on 2 days after our last meet at Family Club, that’s time Alan was 10 months old. It’s real shock.

My other friend Brigit’s husband Alex throws their 2 years old daughter out of 14th floor window and then cut Brigit’s throat. Reason is because Brigit has a lover. I was shock after learn thru the front picture of them on the newspaper. We last saw them was 2 days at Family Club before that happened when Alan was 2 years old. I remembered that I shared my pregnancy with her. I had Alan in May then one month later she had her daughter. Brigit is survived but her daughter is dead. The court served him from 14 years to 30 years prison sentence. He’s still in the prison. Brigit married again and have a baby boy last year. Awful shock

I lost my good friend Tom to severe road accident in Uganda, Africa aged 35 in 24th December 1998 thru fax from Tom’s deaf father. You can image how big shock for us on Xmas Day. I can’t forget it.

I lost my dear friend Lina to cancer after 5 years cancer battle aged 39 in January 2000.

I lost my dear friend Rudi to stroke (? I will find what’s exact) aged 51 last 17th July 2005. (Yes, I'm agree with some of you that my good memory about him stay with me... :( ). I know it's very hard and still can't beleive this. :(




I made list for my dear/good friends whom I share my good memories with. I never forget how great time I have with them.
 
sorry abt your loss .... his soul will always guiding around you , he will watch out on you and your friends.. wink




I lost 2 best friends when we were 17 .. my friend Brandi got her first DL on that day , so she took her other best friend Julie , planned to pick me up and go to our other best friend's birthday party, somehow they turned wrong and drunk truck crashed them as pancake car .. i waited and waited ... my mom tapped my shoulder... she got a call from Brandi's mom .. and told me what happened.. I got MADDDDDDDDD AND UPSETTTTTTTTT , I WISH I NEVER LET THEM COME ON THAT WAY TO GET ME! i took that blame!!! .. but now i undy ...



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Oh dear TongueOnFire, I can image how you felt after lose your dear friend. :(


I got SMS today from Tine saying that the funeral will be held on Thursday at 10.30 am. No flowers wish because of cremation and want us go over her place as as soon as my boys go off to school before go to funeral. I was upset when I read her SMS and can´t beleive it´s really true.

I told her that we will go over her place around 8.30 am on Thursday before go to funeral (which it´s 45 minutes away drive from my area to her area).

We are thinking about enclose the money in the sympathy card for her to buy something what she need for Rudi´s gravestone when she said that flower is no wish.

I know it´s very hurtful... :tears:
 
Liebling:-))) said:
We are thinking about enclose the money in the sympathy card for her to buy something what she need for Rudi´s gravestone when she said that flower is no wish.

I know it´s very hurtful... :tears:
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LieblingDarling,

To give closure on your pain and others, you can plant a small tree or a small flowerbed and name it "Rudi's place". It can be a small cluster of flowers that Rudi liked to smell or grow. Plant that in your backyard or front yard and it is a nice memory to look at, nurture and let it grow. We do it with our loved ones that passes on. We plant flowers and trees, we've got quite a collection of those and they are beautiful. It gives us closure on our pain when we know we can see how beautiful the plants, trees and flowers grow with our love and care. Just a thought. *hugs and sending thoughts your way*
 
i have lost my great friend name is Monique Washington she and i been good friend since childhood friends and middle school also. and i found out she died in the airport because she never using medicine but i think i wanted let her use medicine everyday! she is black girls but im really miss her very much! and i not go to her funeral at her hometown in Libreal,Ks but i hates that she forget medicine all the times!

and also i got mail from KSD about 15 years old boy who had train accident on Spring break weeks but he got himself fall over by the train about 70 feet but im really shock! and he got killed himself! his family still grieve about that boy! his name is Justin Barnett but he been school with me at KSD and he is Freshmen but he really young to die and i went see his body at view at funeral home and many deaf people who graduate past went see him at funeral home and his cousin also graduate years ago they i went his funeral but i not cry at funeral services.after funeral services the two teachers got fired for not responsibles of that 15 years old and must watch out! i read newspaper in Olathe,KS about that 15 years old for few days and i got cards from stores they i paid respects to his family and i knew his parents is deaf also but i know his mother is deaf and he been coach me for basketball but she still grieve lots!

Sara Boyce
 
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