Have an Ex friend stabbed you in the back?

AnnyGuy said:
Right, I agree.

It has happened to me before. What can I do? Nothing, really. Yes, it does hurt me I would want to confront that person to let her/him know what other person/or other people said about me wasn't true at all but I knew it wouldn't work anyway because s/he choose to believe that person - took their "words" believing them instead of asking me if its true or not OR to get know me more before judging me or take their words. Why get all worked up over it if that person is being stubborn and chose to believe them that they don't even know me that well. I just basically let them go and hope one of these days that s/he will find out the whole truth... nothing but the truth about who I am that s/he told a lies about me to make me look bad. I'm really good person with good heart. But I do NOT take anyone's BS though, I'd stand up and speak out, ya know? I normally shut my mouth whenever people confide anything whether its personal or not. I don't open my mouth and blab to other people, I don't do that. It is not my type to do such a thing and mind my own business and other people don't need to know other people's lives anyway. I know what friendship means but it is sad to see other people "destory" other innocent people and hurts their reputations. They have nothing better to do and they are bored so they are just looking for trouble, nothing more. Truly sad, really.
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Amen to that !!!!! :gpost:
 
FelixKat930 said:
I surely have and I am still kinda hurt.. I am trying to get over it. I don't understand why someone would use me and take advantage of me since I was so nice to her. I paid for her when we went out to eat and etc.. yet she went behind my back and stabbed me in the back. It hurts! I have been there for her when she needs me. Sigh.. I guess I am too nice! :mad: :(
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Hi felixkat, I was in your shoes. You can tell your friend how you feel. You can tell her that you dont need her friendship anymore because she stab you in the back. I let false friends go because I dont need them. I dont want stuck with them during I am not happy. I rather be happy and enjoy. I dont want waste my life. You might need realize that you dont need waste your life. It is hard to find a true friend that we want to be enjoy.
 
Simple Advice:

I have learned this and it does work. Be a friend to yourself first before you can be a friend to another people.

Most people almost never take the time to be a friend to themselves first for their whole life.
 
I confronted her but she's like sorry I am not that person and signed off.. she acts dumb but i know its her.. grr :mad:
 
i gotten been backstabbed as well when i learn that they backstabbed me behind my back i let them go they not much friends to me anymore
but i was only try to figure out what going on with them why they just blab about me or treating me badly
WHY!!! if i don't get the answer i just leave it alone for while or forever
 
:dunno: some people would never know how to keep it real, we all backstabbing on others without warning, but its also hard to find a real friendships out there and even in here, too.


"the only way to keep away from backstabbers is that you gotta 2 b sure not to become one."

if any1 still backstabs your back, just let it be and let the karma do its job. :whistle:
 
I been there before many time but tell you what? I m not give shit what people think of me i just walk away and ingore it's not worth to listen bullshit make up story or whatever what they has something said abt me that why i has move on with my life :)
 
I have been pretty much in the same boat with the backstabbings, so and on. The only thing u can do is to know where to stop and if your friend doesn't like what you are doing. It is time for that friend to know how you feel about it. There's a quote I'd like to share with you guys and actually I think that quote makes sense

"A true friend stabs you in the front" - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)
 
Deehamilton said:
I am going through the same thing. My friend and i lost touch now nearly a year. She is a right bitch and she is always hurting me about my hubby. she doesn't get on with my hubby and she is trying to break up my marriage. We were so good to her. We took her out for a meal when she came to visit us. She even stayed at our house for the weekend. When she went back to her own home, she told her other friends about my hubby, the ways he treat me etc..She is a biggest liar i ever came across. I think she is jealous of me cos my hubby treat me right, she hate to see me happy and get everything i wants. We were so good to her, not anymore now. I have told her to get lost and said i didn't want to have any contact with her. So, we haven't been in touch almost a year, it great!! She was making me unhappy about my life etc...She was a rite BITCH!!!
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I can't believe its exactly the same as my former best friend X, when her marriage break down, I helped to storage her things at my home, and invited her to stay with us at weekends, until other friend Z told me she bitlittled about my lifestyle, poor husband I have, he works so hard, and I spent money on silly things etc, I was disappointed, and confront her if its true, and I am not happy with her poor explaination so I show her my front door and told her not to bother us ever again. She is just jealous of my assets!!

In 8 years time, out of blue Friend X turn up my front door, I accept but stay wary of her and keep it distance as I can, and was not surprised to see my other friend Z told me she don't want to know her and stick with me, and same again with other friends too. Its so sad to see her end up like this, until recently we heard she has cancer and got 18 months to live, I can't come and visit her like best friend would, but let her know that I will come to keep her company if she need it to be, but I won't let her get to involved with my family again.

I've been disappointed and hurt because a person I thought was a friend could not be honest with me.. but because of insecurity, she thinks she can vent her anger on me in indirect ways. That is very inappropriate and I won't let it seep into my life.
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Real friends repect other's secret and it should not be heard elsewhere.
 
Jolie_77 said:
I have been pretty much in the same boat with the backstabbings, so and on. The only thing u can do is to know where to stop and if your friend doesn't like what you are doing. It is time for that friend to know how you feel about it. There's a quote I'd like to share with you guys and actually I think that quote makes sense

"A true friend stabs you in the front" - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)
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mind telling me what this poem means? Im not good with poems..:lol:
 
"A true friend stabs you in the front" - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900

coloravalanche said:
mind telling me what this poem means? Im not good with poems..:lol:
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True friend would tell you anything - (negative/positive) to you directly, not whisper to other people about you.
 
Tamara said:
"A true friend stabs you in the front" - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900



True friend would tell you anything - (negative/positive) to you directly, not whisper to other people about you.
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cool...that is neat poem! :D
 
coloravalanche said:
mind telling me what this poem means? Im not good with poems..:lol:
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It's all right :lol: Yeah It's what Tamara said. A true friend would tell you about it right front of you instead of saying a thing behind your back. By the way, It was not a poem. It was a quote. :D
 
This post caught my eyes. I'm in the same boat as you are. First, when I have some friends I thought were "nice" but they turned out to be the worse backstabbers I ever seen. Like I posted earlier ago about a former friend who has a brain of a monkey. She still continued to do it. Odd. I like to talk face to face with her but her boyfriend said, "No, you can't. I will bring (name) and (name). I will chat with you with others to see proof." Course, I'm not afraid of him and his g/f. My kids' dad in the past April told him that his g/f has to COME to. He refused and claimed she easily can get a heart attack and a :hyper: hyper. Oh, pleeease. Cut the drama. :mad: She doesn't have a weak heart and she's NOT hyper either and she KNOWS it. She's pretty smart to attack anyone and then acts like nothing happen. She can't rely on her b/f. He doesn't know what was going on VP while he's out. Jeez. And then now, I almost lost a couple of my dear friends because they believed that person's fake stories...blah! Now I straightened and explained to my friends. They were stunned they didn't know they were backstabbed as well. I saw everything on the videophone. Thanks for the wonderful technology so we can witness what is on the videophone. Phhhft!

Now their stomachs turned sour. They apologized they didn't come to my birthday, they apologized they didn't come to the BBQ. Slowly, kids' dad came but as a friend now. He apologized and realized it's too late that we cannot get back. Kids don't care. He BBQed the whole meats flavored with Corona beers....and after a while, he told me what was going on. I told him, let them BE. That's great he lives with his buddy but I have to pay the double rent....argh!!!!! But I manage it. Then on VP, I was attacked by the same old enemy's friend...my mouth dropped, MY BUDDY!!!! Grrr! He yelled at me. :( So the next day, we met at the McDonald's, I explained everything and how can it be possible that I met my other new friend's FACE? I haven't seen that guy yet...lest, the enemy told my buddy that I was backstabbing him...wtf??? Now everything is cool and he learned to stay clear away from those couple from Orange County area. He understood now. Wheew! I almost lose my favorite funny friend. I told him to be strong, don't give in to their silly-pity-me-for-I-surely-will-cry stories about me. Phhhftt! So you're not the only person, I am too in the same boat. Need to make a new club called, "Backstabbed Friends Club." It hurt like fire and brimstones. Ewww.
 
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